CassieGemini 7 points 1 day ago
This is why I disclosed, and made sure it was read within a few questions of initiating chat. I'm not wasting time and energy on people who wouldn't openly date a trans woman.
And if you couldn't go on a date within the first week? Done. Don't care if it was a walk in the park or grabbing dinner or getting drinks, but someone had to make a move within the first week or I dropped. If you can't be seen with me in public, move on.
Things I learned along the way:
1) way more guys are willing to go on dates with us and be seen with us in public than you would expect. Don't put up with bullshit in the hopes someone will change their mind. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2) push people to be their best selves. It shows you really fast whether you would be able to have a long term relationship with this person or not.
3) don't pretend to be someone you're not. It's how people end up dating people they regret being with.
Finding a GOOD partner takes time, because it's like looking for a needle in a haystack. While disclosing means the pool might be smaller, it also means there's (quantitatively) less bullshit to sift through. Yeah, it does bring in Chasers, but I never REALLY had a problem in that arena. Easily intimidated.
