Sean Andalou
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- Sep 13, 2024
This one almost gets it. And yet he turns to Reddit. 

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Key concepts:I (mtf 30, hrt 3yrs) have been noticing a general trend, I don't pass, but all my friends say I do. My trans friends, my cis friends, they all tell me they see a woman when they look at me, friends who met me after I started transitioning tell me they've always seen me as a woman, but I know I do not pass because whenever I meet someone new they never gender me correctly and always call me sir, or refer to me as a man.
So it's got me thinking, are all of my friends lying to me in order to make me feel better (hugboxing) or do supportive people just see me different and see me as a woman because they believe trans women are real women?
It's bugged me for quite some time, I've mentioned it to my friends and it's always the same explanation. They always tell me I pass fine and people are just assholes, yet like maybe 1 in 50 strangers I meet gender me correctly.
Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this, and I'd like to hear your perspectives.
I don't pass, but all my friends say I do. ...
Gaslighting, but no cruel ulterior motive. They do it because they know it is the one right thing to do.... They always tell me I pass fine and people are just assholes ...