We dismiss the opinions of 14-year-olds because they are stupid and immature with no realization of consequences. 14-year-olds also think it is cool to do drugs, drink, and emulate what they see on TV because they cannot tell the difference between reality and entertainment.
Any male 14-year-old would have enjoyed this, but that's not the point. The point is that you can be victimized while still enjoying the problematic activity. Somehow people understand this when it comes to girls but have a complete blind side when it comes to boys because of preconceived societal notions. It used to be the case in medieval Europe that women were considered the sexually aggressive sex. In that context, you would be arguing that a hypothetical teenage girl enjoyed it because it's the same exact scenario.
And there's already been research showing boys are equally harmed by molestation and rape including when the rapist is female.
Not to mention actual boys who were coaxed into relationships with their teacher saying
themselves that while it was exciting in the moment they ultimately felt taken advantage of,manipulated, and used after maturing a bit more, and had issues with developing healthy relationships with people their own age afterwards.
The actual reports from people who have experienced it are not that different between the sexes if you actually look at them.
Some people (both girls and boys) who experienced these manipulative relationships and were inherently taken advantage of due to the nature of the relationship can turn okay and there are even some who look back on it as something neutral or messed up but not something that impacted them long term.
But some people handling being fucked over and preyed on by fucking weird ass creeps doesn't make it okay for it to happen.
If you prey on children, including teenagers, especially as someone they trust like a teacher or other authority figure you should be ostracized at best and dragged out into the street and put down like a dog at worst.
I have never seen even a single case of a normal, otherwise mentally healthy, functional member of society decide that fucking teenagers is a morally decent thing to do and that they want to do it themselves. It's always predatory or cluster b nutcases. There's a reason for that.