white-meadow-moth [score hidden] 4 hours ago
I feel weird about it. I’m at a point in my transition where it’s pretty undeniable that the men I sleep with like men to some extent, whether or not they admit it to themselves. Like I look exactly like a fem cis twink until I take off my underwear. My bottom growth is even big enough to make a bulge in my underwear that could passably be a small dick.
And yet still I get “straight” men wanting to sleep with me??
I mean cis gays get this too, especially fem or twinky cis gays, so it’s not the biggest deal. But it also just starts feeling annoying because like, dude. Look at me. If you like me enough to want to go out of your way to fuck me, you’re not straight.
[–]flumen_tenebrarum- pansexual gnc trans man [score hidden] 4 hours ago
Exactly. And I feel weird when guys want to fuck a guy, but don't want dick, and then think that I fit the bill. Like, don't pretend you don't see the T-dick. My clit was big before T. Now, well, it isn't quite as big as you describe yours to be. I don't have a bulge in my underwear (yet). But you could definitely see mine from across the room. So they tell me that they don't want a guy with a dick and I'm like, well, let me and my fat cock just get out of your way then so you can find that guy. I'm not him.
Dabauwu [score hidden] 4 hours ago
I agree completely as a pan gender noncomforming trans dude from the midwest, it's a mess out here
I'm just glad I have a partner because you could NOT get me to try and get with a gay man from my area. They already act like trans men aren't a thing and I'm TIRED LMAO
OneNerdyAce [score hidden] 3 hours ago*
I've totally been here. It's like they think it's "gay without commitments" or some kind of "trial run" of being able to dip their toes into queer dating without having to commit to the negative stigma
I am asexual homoromantic, so I only date men/masculine people, and I've run into this a LOT. I decided about a year and a half ago to only date men who are culturally queer, no cishet people, because I really don't think they can ever understand how invalidating it can be to be treated like a woman in bed
I thought it made me kinda unlovable, being ace and trans and autistic and disabled (P.O.T.S, hEDS) and unwilling to date hetero or "bicurious/heteroflexible" men, but after a lot of halfhearted looking, I DID find someone who understands and loves me for who I am. There are people out there that will respect you, so set your standards high enough to accept nothing less
My boyfriend is ace panromantic, and he understands the queer experience and has a trans sibling, has dated cis and trans men, and makes me feel like the most wonderful gem in the world just for being myself. There ARE people out there that will give you the relationship you want, you just have to be willing to sift through enough pretenders to find them
I thought I would never find what I was looking for, and would have to settle for someone that didn't meet my needs, but I was just being too pessimistic. Your experiences are valid, and not uncommon for FtM people, but they are not an indicator that all people will treat you like that, there ARE better men out there, you just have to be willing to go find them
(Edit: also I don't use my genitals for insertion, giving or receiving, and it's never been a problem for the men who are culturally queer, we just do what any other MLM couple does, it's not ever really a problem for someone who actually cares about you and thinks of you as a guy. It's a huge red flag for a guy to assume that you being AFAB means that you'll want or even accept PinV for intercourse, it tells you right away that they don't want to discuss boundaries they want to step all over yours to get what they want)
[–]Twinkalicious [score hidden] 3 hours ago
They treat trans women like me as if being attracted to me is gay, they are so backwards
but are scared to do some 
