I was sympathetic to Bossmom and Ratdad if you go back in the thread because you're right, it is tough. We see a piece of shit crack addict society would be better without. They see the child they poured love into for more than a decade before he became a piece of shit. They know the highs and lows. They even see now the little things their little baby boy used to do that we'll never understand.
The lengths they'll go to are insane. I was done with them when I find out they drive him to buy crack. There's giving your addict a safe warm home so he doesn't die in the street. Putting the rock in the fucking pipe for him is beyond the pale to me. They are actively helping to kill their son all in an effort to soothe guilt, make it easier on themselves, or whatever.
You'll drive your kid to buy crack with the allowance money you gave him, but you won't show up to his court appearances? Get the fuck out of here. I've had to do tough love on addicts before. Hopefully my kids will never become one, but I've watched people do it to their kids too. It's awful, but it's not like the alternative of watching them kill themselves and letting them take you down with them is any better.