In regards to the "you're tired", "you're hungry" thing, obviously Anisa is the worst but what if Ian is just that much of a pathetic twerp that without her telling him when to sleep and eat he just wouldn't know what to do?
Think about it, she starts dating this guy who routinely shits his pants and brushes his teeth with so little regularity that he is developing health problems and infections in his mouth. Maybe Anisa realized he needs someone to literally tell him when to go to the bathroom, when to eat, when to brush his teeth, when to sleep. What if without Anisa controlling every aspect of his life Ian would just sit in a chair and stare at the wall rotting away.
Ian seems to be mentally deficient to the point of being borderline invalid. He's more like Anisa's pet dog than he is a man that's why this thread is about Anisa more than Ian, because Ian is a non-entity, a completely empty void.