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Ever notice how, typically, women tend to get madder when things aren't going their way in party video games?
If a John loses to a 40% combo in Street Fighter he might dispense some expletives but they're generally with jovial intent.
When a teammate fucks up in Overcooked, Sarah gets UPSET and sulks for an hour afterwards (sometimes with post-game passive aggressive comments that trail long into the night).
I have a theory on this and it's rooted in how women socialise - especially as girls.
When you're a boy and you get invited to Toby's birthday party - if you start raging in front of everyone around the TV because you lost or a teammate did something wrong - at least one person will go "bro what the fuck is wrong with you?"
This counts not only for videogames, but sport as well. You could apply the same scenario to the football pitch. Males tend to be less afraid of corrective confrontation with their peers.
In this process you'll hopefully (not always, unfortunately) learn that that behaviour is unacceptable via your embarrassment in front of the group.
If a girl rages while playing party games with her friends at the sleepover, her friends will all give each other a look and say nothing to her but gossip about it to each other afterwards. "Girrrrl, did you see how mad Becky got when she lost at Mario Kart?!"
If she's fortunate, her best friend might say something to her afterwards in private but that's in a small amount of cases of cases.
Female socialisation basically occludes that sort of group corrective behaviour patterning. Women don't learn that what they're doing is perceived as stinky behaviour by the group early on.
There's also a factor of girls participating less in group activities like video games and sport but I'm not sure how much it contributes since I've noticed this even with women that grew up playing video games personally.
Where I do find the pattern reduced is in women that played those games with their brothers growing up. In other words because they've been on the receiving beneficial end of male socialisation behaviour as well.
Something else I've noticed, but have no theory on, is that women HATE being told what to do in a game far more than men do.
e.g. "Hey Peter, go left through this tunnel and there's a hidden powerup."
"Thanks bro."
vs
"Hey Michelle, if you release accelerate here, instead of braking, you'll take the turn fas-"
"DON'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!"
I'm convinced that the term "backseat gaming" was invented by Twitch thots.
Wonder if any folks have thoughts on that second observation.
If a John loses to a 40% combo in Street Fighter he might dispense some expletives but they're generally with jovial intent.
When a teammate fucks up in Overcooked, Sarah gets UPSET and sulks for an hour afterwards (sometimes with post-game passive aggressive comments that trail long into the night).
I have a theory on this and it's rooted in how women socialise - especially as girls.
When you're a boy and you get invited to Toby's birthday party - if you start raging in front of everyone around the TV because you lost or a teammate did something wrong - at least one person will go "bro what the fuck is wrong with you?"
This counts not only for videogames, but sport as well. You could apply the same scenario to the football pitch. Males tend to be less afraid of corrective confrontation with their peers.
In this process you'll hopefully (not always, unfortunately) learn that that behaviour is unacceptable via your embarrassment in front of the group.
If a girl rages while playing party games with her friends at the sleepover, her friends will all give each other a look and say nothing to her but gossip about it to each other afterwards. "Girrrrl, did you see how mad Becky got when she lost at Mario Kart?!"
If she's fortunate, her best friend might say something to her afterwards in private but that's in a small amount of cases of cases.
Female socialisation basically occludes that sort of group corrective behaviour patterning. Women don't learn that what they're doing is perceived as stinky behaviour by the group early on.
There's also a factor of girls participating less in group activities like video games and sport but I'm not sure how much it contributes since I've noticed this even with women that grew up playing video games personally.
Where I do find the pattern reduced is in women that played those games with their brothers growing up. In other words because they've been on the receiving beneficial end of male socialisation behaviour as well.
Something else I've noticed, but have no theory on, is that women HATE being told what to do in a game far more than men do.
e.g. "Hey Peter, go left through this tunnel and there's a hidden powerup."
"Thanks bro."
vs
"Hey Michelle, if you release accelerate here, instead of braking, you'll take the turn fas-"
"DON'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!"
I'm convinced that the term "backseat gaming" was invented by Twitch thots.
Wonder if any folks have thoughts on that second observation.
