'I left husband and kids for mud hut with my Kenyan toyboy - but things soon turned sour' - Cheryl Thomasgood, now 65, left her husband and three children to be with a Maasai warrior in Kenya, but says the romance was a disaster and she still regrets it

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Cheryl and Daniel wed wearing traditional Masai clothing

A woman who abandoned her husband and three children to start a relationship with a Maasai warrior in Kenya has spoken out about her regrets and the emotional impact of that period in her life.

Now 65 and living peacefully in a coastal town in Somerset, Cheryl Thomasgood has broken her silence more than three decades after her story gained global attention.

Her choice to swap her comfortable suburban existence on the Isle of Wight for the remote Samburu region of Kenya in 1994 was motivated, she now admits, by a desire for spiritual healing and an escape from personal trauma.

Cheryl was 34 when she met Daniel Lekimencho, a Maasai warrior who performed traditional dances for tourists at the Bamburi Beach Hotel in Mombasa, Kenya.

Captivated by his charm and the appeal of a completely different lifestyle, she ended her marriage to her second husband, Mike and left their three children behind to begin a new life in Kenya with Daniel, who was ten years her junior.

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Cheryl met Daniel on a package holiday to Kenya (Image: YouTube)

Cheryl fully embraced Daniel's world - living in a mud hut, cooking over open fires, and adopting aspects of Maasai culture, including a diet of cabbage and cow's blood. However, as time passed, the stark differences between their backgrounds and expectations started to put pressure on the relationship.

In 1995, the couple made their way back to the UK, tying the knot on Valentine's Day in traditional Maasai attire and setting up home on the Isle of Wight with Cheryl's children. They later welcomed a daughter, Mitsi, now 27.

However, Cheryl recounts that the idyllic life they envisioned began to crumble swiftly. Daniel, who was once deeply rooted in Maasai spirituality and tradition, allegedly shifted his focus towards material wealth and status.

"I felt like I was just a meal ticket," Cheryl confided to MailOnline. "I made a huge mistake, and I have a lot of regrets - especially about how it affected my children."

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Cheryl said Daniel's Maasai heritage meant the couple had big cultural differences (stock photo) (Image: Yellow Dog Productions via Getty Images)

Cheryl describes how Daniel's aspirations grew to include a larger house, designer clothes, and sending money back to relatives in Kenya. Their arguments became frequent, and the spiritual bond they once cherished dissipated.

According to Cheryl, the only moments Daniel seemed happy were when he was performing his traditional Maasai dance in the garden.

"He would say that he was getting ready for battle and wanted to jump as high as an elephant. The kids loved it, but it got on my nerves after a while."

Cheryl suggests that cultural differences and the challenges of adapting to British society played a significant role in their separation in 1999, a mere four years following their wedding and just one year after their child Mitsi was born. She admits that part of her drive to remain in the marriage was to defy the sceptics.

When they met, Cheryl was dealing with childhood trauma and an unhappy marriage. Upon the advice of a choir friend, she travelled to Kenya seeking solace.

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Daniel with the couple's daughter Misti (Image: EX)

However, Cheryl found that the relationship acted merely as a brief respite rather than a cure.

She confessed: "The biggest regret of all was the impact on my children. Daniel tried, but he couldn't be the father they needed. They missed out on having a stable male figure."

Now, Cheryl has reconciled with her history and maintains strong bonds with her four children: Steve, aged 43, Tommy, 41, Chloe, 34, and Mitsi, 27. Mitsi, she reflects, was "the one good thing" to emerge from her time with Daniel.

Despite the turmoil, Cheryl has no intentions of remarrying. She quipped: "Three marriages were enough," dubbing them a "hat-trick of disasters."

The mum urged anyone pursuing a holiday romance to "be careful" as you could end up "regretting it for the rest of your life".

Daniel has stayed in the UK after their split and now works in a supermarket on the Isle of Wight.
 
This shit is so funny. It feels like a parody or a bit from a Wayans Brothers movie, it's 90s spoof movie tier. I cannot take this woman's life seriously.

Don't get me wrong I feel bad for the kids for having a literal retard for a mother, but even just seeing these two beside each-other is hilarious.

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Now she looks like Rod Stewart.

There was another one of these Maasai chasers: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/...life-luxury-live-mud-hut-African-warrior.html

'One night I left the hut in the small hours to answer the call of nature, only to see a black mamba snake rearing its head just a few feet away. They are deadly, and I was terrified. My screams woke the whole camp, and men came running with sticks and managed to carry it away. I was still very shaken.'

But for all these privations, Colette soon realised she had no desire to leave - a feeling enhanced when, a few days later, she first saw her future husband while she was picking coffee beans in the fields. 'Meitkini was the chief's brother, but I hadn't seen him before as he'd been away hunting for several weeks. When I first saw him he was striding towards me carrying a lion he had helped kill, and he looked like this incredibly masculine force. I was smitten.

Gag me with a spoon. This is so cringe. And the article was from 2010. So I wonder where this woman is now.
 
Well, that explains everything. I'm surprised she brought the man BACK to Wight instead of staying in Africa. Wtf?

What was the thought process there? Show off your pet black man to all the snaggletoothed Brits and make them jealous?

The only way off Isle of Wight is by ferry. Can't walk or drive. I'm betting all the Boomers have fucked each other in desperation at some point.

100% he wanted to get the fuck out of Africa.
 
I like how, despite her saying she "Tried his way of life in Africa", it didn't even take her a year to say "Fuck this" and head back to civilization.

"He would say that he was getting ready for battle and wanted to jump as high as an elephant. The kids loved it, but it got on my nerves after a while."

I wonder which part of it got on her nerves more: seeing that the same "Traditional Dances" that seduced her were also used to entertain children or realizing that she married a man-child who is still doing these silly dances and talking like a 10-year old.
 
This right here is why up until the 20th century women's families(mainly father) had a huge say who in they married.
Feminism says that asking a man for his blessing to marry his daughter is a symbol of his ownership of her. It's generally a good idea to make sure your partner actually gets along with your family because, y'know, marrying someone makes them a part of your family.
 
Feminism says that asking a man for his blessing to marry his daughter is a symbol of his ownership of her. It's generally a good idea to make sure your partner actually gets along with your family because, y'know, marrying someone makes them a part of your family.
It was a passing on of responsibility. The dad was responsible for her care and protection and it would transfer over to the husband when she married so it was important that the dad gatekept whether or not the prospective husband was a good'un. (Also, and I know that there will be ladies who disagree with me here, but there are just things men more easily recognize in each other. A young bride to be might very well need that perspective.) There was greater emphasis back then of two families being joined, not just two people.

If your menfolk are decent people you should always place value in their opinions of your romantic prospects. When you get with someone seriously you also choose all their friends, their family, their job, and so on. Don't believe it's impossible for you judgement to have blind spots just cause you're the one sleeping with them! Those are the worst blind spots.

Not that any of that has much to do with a crazy lady thrice divorced who thought it would be fun to have an exotic romance before deciding him dancing around in the yard was annoying.
 
It was a passing on of responsibility. The dad was responsible for her care and protection and it would transfer over to the husband when she married so it was important that the dad gatekept whether or not the prospective husband was a good'un. (Also, and I know that there will be ladies who disagree with me here, but there are just things men more easily recognize in each other. A young bride to be might very well need that perspective.) There was greater emphasis back then of two families being joined, not just two people.

If your menfolk are decent people you should always place value in their opinions of your romantic prospects. When you get with someone seriously you also choose all their friends, their family, their job, and so on. Don't believe it's impossible for you judgement to have blind spots just cause you're the one sleeping with them! Those are the worst blind spots.
There's this weird tug-of-war where women say they're just as good at everything as men while also being scared of big bad men. If you're scared of the men in your life, you have the wrong men in your life. Simple as. I think a lot of women think the have men figured out more than they really do and it leads to a lot of projection of women's less desirable traits onto men. Men don't give a shit about half of the "expectations" they supposedly have of women. Give me top hats and trash cans, but the infantilization of my sex drives me up a wall.

Back on topic - that baby looks fucking terrified of her dad. I don't blame her. He's got that insincere smile that doesn't reach his eyes. I half expect him to jump out of my screen and tear my throat out with his teeth.
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Why do these types of traveller look almost the same? I guess it's because they wouldn't win a local beauty pageant contest for sure, but blacks in Africa or Indians see any naturally blond whitey and act like they see some deity, and that makes these (stupidly naive) people overconfident about themselves and enjoy the attention they can get for the price of a flight ticket.
 
Why do these types of traveller look almost the same? I guess it's because they wouldn't win a local beauty pageant contest for sure, but blacks in Africa or Indians see any naturally blond whitey and act like they see some deity, and that makes these (stupidly naive) people overconfident about themselves and enjoy the attention they can get for the price of a flight ticket.
I think it's like how weebs find what are considered ugly Asian women in Asian societies pretty.
 
What are you moids mad about, I thought we were all about RETVRNING TO TRADITION and living a simpler life?
This is a bait, but I humor you. Tradition is staying with family. This goes for both men and women, or if we speak retarded - moids and femoids. I have nothing to add beyond everything other posters said about that woman
 
Did she make her white children live with her and a fucking nigger? jesus
No they still lived with their dad in Britain.

But I’ve seen this sort of thing before. Heidi Klum got knocked up by an Italian businessman before getting with a black British soul singer, and the black singer became the girl’s father figure. It’s weird to us, but I don’t think her daughter knew better.
 
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