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Hey guys. small update. Out of nowhere today I got a message from @Cats mom Debbie through his discord account after I had blown it up a bit in the last few days being angry and upset. We ended up talking for a while (which was weird) and she told me he seemed to have passed peacefully, she found him in a spot he liked in their yard. She's offered to send me something of his as she's working on going through his things and I asked for the last 40k miniature he painted and showed me to remember him by so I'm looking forward to that.

I also let her know how much he's been missed here and she said when she feels like she can handle it she'll check the messages a lot of you left already. She seems like a really sweet woman and her mentioning that he talked about me often has made me feel quite a bit better as well. Just thought I'd share.
Wow :( I can't fathom just what kind of pain Debbie has been through, let alone is going through now. I've known people who have found their relatives dead like that and it's left them messed up for life.

I should pray for her. No person is an island.
 
One of the hardest parts is that I now know that all the times I've checked his profile between his return around April 20th and now it was too late. I couldn't tell you how many times I went to his profile looking for new content after his return only to be disappointed that he was gone again, but at least I thought he would come back. I almost wish I didn't know.
 
Hey guys. small update. Out of nowhere today I got a message from @Cats mom Debbie through his discord account after I had blown it up a bit in the last few days being angry and upset. We ended up talking for a while (which was weird) and she told me he seemed to have passed peacefully, she found him in a spot he liked in their yard. She's offered to send me something of his as she's working on going through his things and I asked for the last 40k miniature he painted and showed me to remember him by so I'm looking forward to that.

I also let her know how much he's been missed here and she said when she feels like she can handle it she'll check the messages a lot of you left already. She seems like a really sweet woman and her mentioning that he talked about me often has made me feel quite a bit better as well. Just thought I'd share.

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I always thought of him that way too, a giant cat shoggoth, purring and growling at the center of space and time like an adorable eldritch horror.
I was thinking more autistic James Bond villain with a cat in their lap.

One of the hardest parts is that I now know that all the times I've checked his profile between his return around April 20th and now it was too late. I couldn't tell you how many times I went to his profile looking for new content after his return only to be disappointed that he was gone again, but at least I thought he would come back. I almost wish I didn't know.
I was going to post a cat meme but got caught up in some drama and couldn't post. When I remembered to post the meme is when I found out what happened.
 
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Another update after another email from @Cats mom. I'm gonna go ahead and post what she sent me with mild alterations to names and such for privacy since it was a lot this time.

"Hi EmpGulcasa... I have those and will pack some up and send to you. The one you titled Lord of Change, this one I am keeping for myself because it is so beautifully painted and he was very happy with it...he wasn't ever happy with much he did as he was his own worst critic so I don't want to give this one away...but the others I'm happy to send you. I'll let you know when I get them out.

I also have many more...many are much smaller, but there are a ton of them. I would also be very happy to send to anyone else on the forum that Danny meant something to. Feel free to either give them my email address and share their info, or if they want to go through you that's fine too.

I really hope you shared with them how much their notes on the guestbook helped me. I have been struggling with knowing what to do for Danny to remember and honor him and his life. He struggled with religion, so I don't want to do anything just because I may believe something, I have wanted to do what he would like. Its been a struggle for me to feel good about any idea so far, and to date I have not done anything other than the obituary. I did have him cremated and I do have his ashes, and an area in my home that celebrates him. I also did an area in the yard I found him that celebrates him, but that's all I have done. I wanted to do an on line tribute and found a website and am working on that, but still haven't felt solid about what next actions to take to celebrate him. His old group of friends that live here he had some issues with and having an in person memorial just never felt right.

Its funny how the universe works....the day I went into his room and found your message to him that then prompted me to read all those notes on the guestbook (I hadn't been back to the web site since I wrote the obituary) I was particularly struggling with this issue of what to do, and my heart was prompted to go into his room and sit down at his desk for some reason. After a few minutes sitting there, his laptop fan kicked on, which is what prompted me to open it to find your message. When I saw the outpouring of the love on that guest book from this group of people, it answered every doubt or struggle I had with what to do. I am going to work on an online memorial, along with this online tribute website. Its clear his 'friend home' was with online people, so that's where his memorial or celebration of life will take place. I hope to have all that ironed out and planned for sometime in July. I was thinking of like a zoom or something like that where people can connect, read about him, and I can share the remarkable things that have transpired around his death, as there are amazing stories that have happened. I am still working on it, but will keep you posted and would love any help you can give to spread the word once its planned for anyone who might like to come share in it.

For that online tribute I am working on, they do have an optional section in that for donations to charitable places, and I can find a good reputable local animal shelter and add to that if people want to donate. So many shelters are horrible but there are a handful who do good by the animals and would really appreciate any funds. Please let the folks know who are thinking about doing that if they are interested, maybe hold off till I find them a good one to send their hard earned money to. Or if they have a local one they want to do it for, that's awesome. I know he would love that. Thankyou for sharing that!

Also please can you tell the folks on the forum to let me or you know if they want any of his other miniatures. I have attached some pics of additional ones I found. There are some that are on corks, and that's how he would have them set up while he was working on them, so assuming those are still work in progress. Not sure if there is anyone on that forum who also paints miniatures, but there are a ton of them undone, and he has a ton of paint and brushes. I don't know who to give these to so if anyone is interested in them, please have them reach out to me.

Thank you again EmpGulcasa... you changed so much for me last week with your outreach... all of the kind people who wrote about Danny filled a hole in my heart that was aching. I can never thank you all enough for this. I am so grateful to know that I wasn't the only one who Danny touched in this world...while I know I'm a bit biased, he was absolutely amazing to have as a part of ones life, and I was so sad that who he was really wasn't something that the world knew. After having that gift last week from my connection with you, I have more peace about all that, knowing he was known...thank you and thank you to the folks on the forum for giving me that! I don't know what forum that was, and there is a part of me where I don't want to invade Danny's privacy so maybe better I don't know as I'd be tempted to read it all, and I'm sure there's things in there that he'd rather his mom not see...haha. Danny did share a lot with me, and we had a great relationship, but I do know privacy is important and I still want to be respectful of that even in his death.

Let me know if there's anything else you'd like sent your way, or if anyone else would like any of this stuff. I will keep you posted on the progress for the celebration of life and on line tribute. Ill let you know when I ship out the package to you.

Thank you again so much."

So she is obviously a very sweet lady. Her mention of being curious about the forum gave me pause because no matter how great the reaction to things have been in this thread I don't want her view of things tainted by the rest of the site so I advised her to keep at arms length and let me be a go between. After I reach out to a couple of @Cats other friends regarding the stuff she'd like to send out I'll be happy to pass on mailing addresses for anyone else that would like one of the minis he worked on.

Talking to her has been rather surreal especially having just found out about this recently while also dealing with my own stuff in my own life, but it's been a surprisingly nice little distraction from things.
 
So she is obviously a very sweet lady. Her mention of being curious about the forum gave me pause because no matter how great the reaction to things have been in this thread I don't want her view of things tainted by the rest of the site so I advised her to keep at arms length and let me be a go between. After I reach out to a couple of @Cats other friends regarding the stuff she'd like to send out I'll be happy to pass on mailing addresses for anyone else that would like one of the minis he worked on.
Maybe tell her how I explain Kiwi Farms to my parents: it’s a place I sometimes mention, not by name, private to me, both because its private nature means I can share things about myself I’d never say in person (I don’t know that Cats did) and that this is a place where we all go to talk about peepeepoopoo. It is the equivalent of a bunch of retarded preteen boys giggling over penis drawings and the word nigger on a bathroom stall wall (you have to use your judgment how you express this). It would probably be embarrassing to Cats to have that probed by his mother, but people here would be respectful outside of the site.
 
I've got @Cats in my brain like toxoplasmosis.
The online tribute sounds like a good idea, some kind of catharsis would be helpful for us here, I hope.
I'm not a stranger to grief, but this situation has really hit me hard, for some reason, he truly was a one-off. I'm a sentimental old bitch at heart, if you want to know the truth about it.
 
Cats will live my heart forever, peace be with you. I wish I got more time laughing with you. I will never forget the lessons you taught me.
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I hope this picture makes you all smile a little, though a friend has gone to a place we cannot follow, he has changed us a little for the better. Bless you all.
 
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I like reading this thread because I like seeing the softer side of Kiwis. I like knowing I'm not the only one moved and impacted by nigger sayers online.

I know we are a TTD death cult, but we are all gay retards who signed up for an anonymous website for one reason or another. To see genuine bonds that have formed between users, some even going IRL, is heartwarming for me. I'm grieving a lot right now for irls and having people come together online for one of our own to support his mom is exactly the type of thing a grieving parent needs.

Behind every username is a person. A person who may even find your retarded words funny. A person whose day you make when you post something or who has a quote of yours rent-free in their head. Everyone we interact with shapes us in some way. I'm glad @Cats was one of ours.
 
So she is obviously a very sweet lady. Her mention of being curious about the forum gave me pause because no matter how great the reaction to things have been in this thread I don't want her view of things tainted by the rest of the site so I advised her to keep at arms length and let me be a go between.
If she's interested in setting up a memorial website, I hope someone can show her/help her with the archive of Cats' cat website. If she hasn't seen it already, it'd be like finding a letter your late father wrote to an old school friend; hints of lore you never knew, but the voice and humor you recognize.
 
Cats will live my heart forever, peace be with you. I wish I got more time laughing with you. I will never forget the lessons you taught me.
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I hope this picture makes you all smile a little, though a friend has gone to place we cannot follow, he has changed us a little for the better. Bless you all.
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Great effort but I sense a distinct lack of Terry Davis.
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