'I left husband and kids for mud hut with my Kenyan toyboy - but things soon turned sour' - Cheryl Thomasgood, now 65, left her husband and three children to be with a Maasai warrior in Kenya, but says the romance was a disaster and she still regrets it

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Cheryl and Daniel wed wearing traditional Masai clothing

A woman who abandoned her husband and three children to start a relationship with a Maasai warrior in Kenya has spoken out about her regrets and the emotional impact of that period in her life.

Now 65 and living peacefully in a coastal town in Somerset, Cheryl Thomasgood has broken her silence more than three decades after her story gained global attention.

Her choice to swap her comfortable suburban existence on the Isle of Wight for the remote Samburu region of Kenya in 1994 was motivated, she now admits, by a desire for spiritual healing and an escape from personal trauma.

Cheryl was 34 when she met Daniel Lekimencho, a Maasai warrior who performed traditional dances for tourists at the Bamburi Beach Hotel in Mombasa, Kenya.

Captivated by his charm and the appeal of a completely different lifestyle, she ended her marriage to her second husband, Mike and left their three children behind to begin a new life in Kenya with Daniel, who was ten years her junior.

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Cheryl met Daniel on a package holiday to Kenya (Image: YouTube)

Cheryl fully embraced Daniel's world - living in a mud hut, cooking over open fires, and adopting aspects of Maasai culture, including a diet of cabbage and cow's blood. However, as time passed, the stark differences between their backgrounds and expectations started to put pressure on the relationship.

In 1995, the couple made their way back to the UK, tying the knot on Valentine's Day in traditional Maasai attire and setting up home on the Isle of Wight with Cheryl's children. They later welcomed a daughter, Mitsi, now 27.

However, Cheryl recounts that the idyllic life they envisioned began to crumble swiftly. Daniel, who was once deeply rooted in Maasai spirituality and tradition, allegedly shifted his focus towards material wealth and status.

"I felt like I was just a meal ticket," Cheryl confided to MailOnline. "I made a huge mistake, and I have a lot of regrets - especially about how it affected my children."

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Cheryl said Daniel's Maasai heritage meant the couple had big cultural differences (stock photo) (Image: Yellow Dog Productions via Getty Images)

Cheryl describes how Daniel's aspirations grew to include a larger house, designer clothes, and sending money back to relatives in Kenya. Their arguments became frequent, and the spiritual bond they once cherished dissipated.

According to Cheryl, the only moments Daniel seemed happy were when he was performing his traditional Maasai dance in the garden.

"He would say that he was getting ready for battle and wanted to jump as high as an elephant. The kids loved it, but it got on my nerves after a while."

Cheryl suggests that cultural differences and the challenges of adapting to British society played a significant role in their separation in 1999, a mere four years following their wedding and just one year after their child Mitsi was born. She admits that part of her drive to remain in the marriage was to defy the sceptics.

When they met, Cheryl was dealing with childhood trauma and an unhappy marriage. Upon the advice of a choir friend, she travelled to Kenya seeking solace.

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Daniel with the couple's daughter Misti (Image: EX)

However, Cheryl found that the relationship acted merely as a brief respite rather than a cure.

She confessed: "The biggest regret of all was the impact on my children. Daniel tried, but he couldn't be the father they needed. They missed out on having a stable male figure."

Now, Cheryl has reconciled with her history and maintains strong bonds with her four children: Steve, aged 43, Tommy, 41, Chloe, 34, and Mitsi, 27. Mitsi, she reflects, was "the one good thing" to emerge from her time with Daniel.

Despite the turmoil, Cheryl has no intentions of remarrying. She quipped: "Three marriages were enough," dubbing them a "hat-trick of disasters."

The mum urged anyone pursuing a holiday romance to "be careful" as you could end up "regretting it for the rest of your life".

Daniel has stayed in the UK after their split and now works in a supermarket on the Isle of Wight.
 
It was a passing on of responsibility. The dad was responsible for her care and protection and it would transfer over to the husband when she married so it was important that the dad gatekept whether or not the prospective husband was a good'un. (Also, and I know that there will be ladies who disagree with me here, but there are just things men more easily recognize in each other. A young bride to be might very well need that perspective.) There was greater emphasis back then of two families being joined, not just two people.

If your menfolk are decent people you should always place value in their opinions of your romantic prospects. When you get with someone seriously you also choose all their friends, their family, their job, and so on. Don't believe it's impossible for you judgement to have blind spots just cause you're the one sleeping with them! Those are the worst blind spots.

Not that any of that has much to do with a crazy lady thrice divorced who thought it would be fun to have an exotic romance before deciding him dancing around in the yard was annoying.
Women have this same sense too and it is too often written off as jealousy. But yeah, we know gold diggers and other non-desirables when we see them.

In the case of this woman, she fell into the same trap that many men and women do. He/she is not of my culture, therefore, fuck you mom and dad, I know what I am doing.
 
There’s actually a follow on article in the dm today:
I’m sure you’ll all be shocked to learn that it wasn’t all happy families, and the children’s lives were ruined. Their home became chaotic and violent. They ended up taken into care before her ex husband (who I’m not even sure is the father of all the children) managed to get them back with him.
 
There’s actually a follow on article in the dm today:
I’m sure you’ll all be shocked to learn that it wasn’t all happy families, and the children’s lives were ruined. Their home became chaotic and violent. They ended up taken into care before her ex husband (who I’m not even sure is the father of all the children) managed to get them back with him.
Excellent find.

This is typical BPD coal burner behavior. Anyone with a wiff of attraction toward a nigger has something wrong.
 
Looks like Stevie followed in his mummy's footsteps by going to another country and making babies with the locals but with an asian instead of an african. Must be genetic.
 
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There’s actually a follow on article in the dm today:
I’m sure you’ll all be shocked to learn that it wasn’t all happy families, and the children’s lives were ruined. Their home became chaotic and violent. They ended up taken into care before her ex husband (who I’m not even sure is the father of all the children) managed to get them back with him.
'My mother did not just abandon her family in the 1990s – she ruined our childhoods,' he said.

'She left behind three children, including me, and never looked back in any meaningful or supportive way.

'She was never the kind of mother who cared about her children's emotional well-being, and even now, decades later, she continues to show who she truly is by dragging this all up again without a thought for the people it hurts.'

[...]

And contrary to Cheryl's claims last week that she still maintains good relations with her children, Stevie – who now has his own family and lives in Seoul, South Korea -- said he has not exchanged a word with her in 10 years.

'She has never met her grandchildren. She has never made any real effort to be in our lives. Her portrayal of having 'good relationships' with her children is completely false - I have not spoken to her in years, my Brother left for Canada and myself to Korea to get away from her!
'My mother has always been wrapped up in her own story, her own image, and her own self-interest.

'This latest article is just another example of that. It may seem like a tale of reflection or regret, but to those of us who lived through it, it's a painful reminder of neglect, manipulation, and broken trust.

'It's hard to watch her seek sympathy from the public when the damage she caused to her own family remains unacknowledged and unhealed.
'I am ashamed to call her my mother, and deeply disgusted that she continues to rewrite the past while ignoring the consequences of her actions on those she left behind.'

Stevie explained that his mother's abandonment 'didn't happen in a vacuum' and he 'had already been through hell as a child', including a spell in foster care due to the family's chaotic home life.

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He said: 'My father had left, my mother had a breakdown, and I saw things no child should ever witness — including her holding a knife to her own neck in front of me. We were put into foster care, living in poverty in London, terrified and unstable.

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Added Stevie: 'And just when life finally started to feel normal, she destroyed it. With one phone call from Kenya, she told us she wasn't coming back.
'I saw Mike — who never drank — paralytic on the floor with grief. That's what she left behind.'
Imagine your mother being so horrible that you're traumatized from all White women forever and decide to move to Korea and cook rice instead.
 
I have a memory when I was a young of watching something on TV about a white woman who married a Masai and moved to Kenya. Or some variation about that. Would it have been her or are there other ones that have gotten press over the years?

It would have been in the 90s some time, would track with her but my memory was them actually moving to Kenya but that could be fuzzy. I remember at the time thinking, "why the fuck would you want to live like that."

Maybe this is relevant, but as someone who has traved the globe extensively. The Masai women stood out as some of, if not the least attractive women I have encountered.
 
I have a memory when I was a young of watching something on TV about a white woman who married a Masai and moved to Kenya. Or some variation about that. Would it have been her or are there other ones that have gotten press over the years?

It would have been in the 90s some time, would track with her but my memory was them actually moving to Kenya but that could be fuzzy. I remember at the time thinking, "why the fuck would you want to live like that."

Maybe this is relevant, but as someone who has traved the globe extensively. The Masai women stood out as some of, if not the least attractive women I have encountered.
Yeah, that'd be her. She did the talk show circuit back in the day to really attention whore it up.

She DID move to Kenya, but was there for less than a year before she realized it was a shithole and left.
 
She DID move to Kenya, but was there for less than a year before she realized it was a shithole and left.

I had a Kenyan tour guide who had married a European woman from a previous tour, who then moved to Nairobi and started a family with him. We all nodded as he told us. Later on when he wasn't around we were all, "why the fuck would she move here and not the other way around?"

He was normal though, not Masi or anything. Very professional and funny. Well educated. It was a good-paying job in Kenya. Unlike elsewhere in Africa where it was unprofessional South African dudes who only did it for the perks of banging the tourists.
 
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