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Found this while looking for stuff for another thread:

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Looked up the original video:

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There are a lot of follow-up videos:


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SO close to "A man is criticizing me, a woman!"





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Call the Australian police!

 
Just tell the radfems that you are a transman and the hate stops and you get victimpoints. Then read up on what different ideologies actually beleive. Terf is as watered down and universal as nazi by now. (not that I am either, but words have meanings).
 
long story short, they are in an open relationship now because Douglas wants to cut his dick off and is actively seeking gender reassignment surgeries.
Sean who is obviously interested in a gay men and cock makes it clear that no penis = no Sean. lol

Sean made Douglas sign a prenuptial agreement because he thinks the gender reassignment surgery is going to kill their marriage.

Douglas wants a vagina so bad he won't have sex with Sean, in return Sean declares an open relationship or a divorce. Douglas took the open relationship route which lead to Sean going on a honeymoon without Douglas.

because Sean went on a honeymoon without Douglas after declaring an open relationship, you can imagine what he did without Douglas was probably ate ass and guzzled cock that he wasn't getting at home.

it's going as bad as you would imagine.
Douglas is still currently pre-op and seeking surgery as of the end of season 11.

there are a handful of trannies that have appeared on 90 day fiancé, a post-op FTM I forget the name of, MTF named Nikki, MTF named Faith, and another MTF named Chloe are ones I can remember off the top of my head.

I've made posts about the FTM and Chloe in this thread before.
here's more on Sean and Alliya.
I would upload all of it, but it's a lot of shit lol. maybe over time I will, maybe I won't.

Alliya and Sean are present in Season 4 Love in Paradise and Season 11 in 90 Day Fiancé if you want to watch it for yourself.

Douglas talks about his childhood, Sean talks about how Douglas would dress in drag and how it grew to being a permanent tranny.
Sean expresses that he didn't want Douglas to be Alliya 100% of the time and was hoping it was just a persona.
Douglas dramatically burns childhood pictures of himself in a bonfire in an attempt to delete who he used to be.
 
She's actually close to passing as "fat loser" at an initial glance, so of course she had to give herself an eyebrow piercing.
 
The burning eye of truth: a TiF fears that her womanhood is so intrinsic, it is genetically inescapable. I'm not sure where all these troons 'n' poons are convinced they are somehow suffering from a disorder of sexual development, but when you realize the reality of these grim conditions it makes their envy even more bizarre. So you want to be a tard with a borked crotch? Weird.
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Fear yet desire of going through karyotype test

The title talks itself. I remember in the childhood my mother told me something about Y chromosomes that was related to me, but I don’t remember the context and details at all so maybe my brain just made it up. However I can’t stop thinking of checking my chromosomes because if they turn out to be XY I would be the happiest boy in the world. On the same time, if they’re XX I think I’m gonna be really sad and depressed for a while. So, what would you recommend? Maybe some of you have/had similar dilemma also
Hop off the cross, Jesus, we've got other martyrs to nail down today: a tranny feels an odd sense of frustration because his family, while not explicitly supportive, hasn't had him tarred and feathered for being a retarded crossdresser. There is no winning with these people!
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Does anyone else have a family that’s not really transphobic but still sucks?

When I came out my family’s reaction was mostly unpleasant, but ultimately they didn’t stop me, and I feel bad complaining about them because I feel like as a trans woman I should be grateful I wasn’t forced into the choice between closeted or homeless. But is that really the bar here?
Initially they were shocked and didn’t see it coming.
Which to be fair they didn’t notice me being so depressed I barely did anything for 2 weeks (without me pointing it out, anyway) before I came out so it’s only natural they’d have missed the other signs.
In the weeks after there was endless arguing and pain. It took someone else’s intervention for my mom to stop comparing my grandmother’s severe mental illness onto my choice to transition. And overall it was treated as like, a lifestyle choice similar to going vegan rather than, yknow, a massively important step in the process of becoming myself. I got the stock line of “it’s like losing my son” which is honestly a little funny to me given all the times I’ve felt like the least seen member of this family, like, way to care about the presence of your son NOW. I lied at the time that I wasn’t fundamentally changing, honestly I have fundamentally changed, because in all the time I was hiding myself, I wasn’t growing as a person, only making myself more and more invisible.
Then as I asserted myself more they sorta changed. They made their attempts to support me but were pretty against the idea of me starting HRT without absolute certainty (that’s somewhat fair), and kind of refused to help me through getting there. I told them to be honest about whether or not I pass and stuff, but that’s kinda manifested in them having some incredibly upsetting reactions to what I wear, or in them telling me I might never pass.
Hell even once I got on HRT there were instances of my mom questioning my conceptions of my gender, or asking if I’d ever go to being a feminine man, or asking if I realized I wasn’t trans when I got particularly depressed at one point.
Recently I asked my mom if she’s still upset by the fact I’m trans, and she said she “got used to it.” Which I feel like that’s the most I could ask for but I want to be liked, not just accepted.
They make their best effort to not misgender me. My dad still messes up on pronouns but they always call me by my preferred name.
Sometimes they use what almost feels like intentionally obtuse wording where they would’ve called me and my brother “boys” but I chalk that up to them just talking weird in general.
Eh. My family’s at least a little screwed up beyond being not the best at handling my transness. Anyone else with kind of bad families that are accepting to a degree? I feel like whenever I mention my family sucks there’s an underlying assumption that they’re conservative when that couldn’t be further from the truth.
Another case of how nothing but full-bodied acceptance is acceptable to these people: a li'l dood's mom doesn't refer to her as her deadname, but OP is still stamping her li'l feeties because she's annoyed at what pooners in the comments refer to as "degendering": "This is called degendering, it's a "politically acceptable" form of misgendering."
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"i just dont call you anything"

So backstory: i came out to my mum 5 years ago, she later manipulated me into coming out to my siblings i hadn't already told in some vicious lie. She's never refered to me as her son nor the name i go by.However she thinks this is ok because she doesnt call me by either my deadname or chosen name and just calls me nothing
I honestly think this is worse, atleast she took to note that her calling me my deadname was unpleasant for me but she seems tove made a compromise for her own morals.
Ive got no idea what to do, ive considered cutting her off as soon as i leave the house but that would heavily restrict my relationship with my siblings and i don't want that.

My mum also wouldn't dare deadname or misgender a friend of mine or hers and likes to call herself a punk although she really isn't one. She's pretty stubborn
Any ideas on how i approach this?
Leaky little lady: a FTM faces internal conflict over the fact that one thing that really gets her motor running is lactation - you know, the innocuous, asexual act of giving nourishment to a baby? God, you never hate these perverts enough.
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Having a fetish that has to do with having a female body and feeling conflicted

TW: fetishes, body talk and sex
Throwaway because people in my life know my main. Also please don't kinkshame me I would not choose this if I had a choice. I will try not to give too many details.
Anyway I guess I'll just put it out there. I have a lot of conflicted feelings because I basically have a fetish surrounding lactation.
To clarify, I am very into being the person who is lactating. I do know that men can lactate
but they generally don't and I have too large of a chest to ever pass as male with my body type, even wearing a binder if I'm wearing just a t-shirt.
I've always felt super conflicted about this. Sometimes my chest causes earth-shattering dysphoria and sometimes I just want to... engage in said fetish. About 95% of the time lately I feel like my chest needs to be flat, but that 5% of the time I spend trying to basically induce lactation and it feels as if that's what I really want. When I'm, uh, excited, I really do work at it, then I gradually get more and more disgusted with it over the course of a week or so. Usually. Then im grossed out because my chest is swollen.
It even correlates to whether or not I let my partner penetrate me in the front, although feeling okay with that lasts longer than the whole lactation thing, but I also get such crippling dysphoria that I will go for months at a time without wanting to have sex with my partner.
Most of the time the videos I watch have to do with lactation even when it would cause me dysphoria to do it myself.
I sometimes wonder if I am genderfluid but leaning really heavily towards being male, but my voice doesn't seem to cause dysphoria even though it has been lowered significantly by T.
I want top surgery. I may even want bottom surgery down the road. I've been on T for a while. I want to be flat - except when I don't. I've identified as a binary trans man for 10 years now, and I feel like I'm losing time on either transitioning and getting top surgery or not. I'm just stuck in limbo.
I'm really conflicted with all this and pretty grossed out with myself. I could really use some insight into what might be going on or how to go about this, or even just, if anyone else has a similar situation I'd love to hear about it because this whole thing causes me such a huge mental struggle. I just wanna live my life, however I might do that but it's a struggle when this kind of thing comes up.
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I have BPD and experience hypersexuality correlating with wanting to engage in lactation but feel like I am asexual at other times.
Edit 2: this isn't a kink it's a straight up fetish. I feel like I need it to be satisfied but I also feel like I need top surgery to be satisfied if that makes sense? I feel like I cannot have both at the same time. Someone mentioned the potential of being able to lactate after top surgery and as far as I'm aware I didn't know you could opt for that for sure without there being a potential for top surgery removing the ability to lactate completely, so I will look into that.
The G.I. Joe that time forgot: a pooner wants a slogan so that others may be rallied to action to protect every hobbit in the shire.
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Can we have our own "protect the dolls"?

I keep seeing " protect the dolls" and "trans rights" which I stand with (don't get me wrong, no hate!).
But I feel like, after all this drama, we need our own saying. We deserve recognition, representation, and a voice in the community. Not as a forgotten sidenote, or fetish, or weapon against our own liberation.
Can we brainstorm to make our own trans man/masc statement of empowerment? Maybe do a survey with the most popular suggestions?
Lastly, an update from the ongoing saga and power struggle between troons 'n' poons over on r/trans. The mods for this Reddit are surely seeking Reddit gold from kind strangers for being the whiniest fucks of all time. Important highlight includes that OP says sometimes tranny mods will overtake unmoderated Reddits to specifically ensure that "radicalization" does not take place. Hm, is that why Reddit is so pro-troon in the most random of places?
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State of the Subreddit

Hi all! I’m here again to give you an update on the state of the subreddit, and to hopefully answer some of the questions we’ve seen.
I know some of you don’t believe us when we say that we hear everything you're saying, but we are listening, I promise. We can't respond to it all immediately because we just don't have the resources for it and we want to make sure our messaging is clear and doesn't leave anyone feeling ignored.
If you didn't see the update on our previous post, I’ll give a quick rundown of what we’ve done to make this place even better:
  • We’ve added new flairs, as requested
  • We're actively reviewing moderator applications (We've only received 10, and only 4 are from transmascs! If you are a transmasc person, please apply by filling out this form! Note: Previous experience moderating subreddits or other online communities is highly preferred, but not mandatory.)
  • We have not been removing posts, our automoderator has, it is extremely strict for the safety of our community, in fact many posts and comments have had to be manually re-approved by our moderators. This has been in place since the subreddit’s formation and is an important part of ensuring the space isn’t overrun by trolling. It’s not targeting posts or comments related to the current issue specifically or disproportionately.
  • We removed the “divisive post” rule.
  • We are actively reviewing the rest of our rules and are open to community feedback.
  • If you have more suggestions, please let us know either here or via a modmail at any point. Please note that we may not be able to accommodate all suggestions.
For the next order of business, we need to set some things straight:
  1. Trans men are men. Trans women are women. Nonbinary people are valid and real. Truscum are not welcome here.
    • We actually don't know where the messaging got crossed on this. Our moderation team is very firm about these things, and always has been. We're very concerned by all the posts implying that anyone ever said trans men aren't men, because that was never something any of us have said here, nor is it something that we believe.
  2. We've had lengthy discussions with the moderator who removed the original post and we are confident the action was done in good faith, but the post should not have been removed and the moderator involved has fully acknowledged and admitted their mistake.
    • The mod who originally removed the post did so with the belief that it was largely discussing something that either talked over other people, knew that the post was going to cause arguments in the comments, and just generally felt that the post was combative. They have acknowledged that these beliefs were incorrect, which is why we brought the post back.
  3. We do NOT have a conservative moderator on our team. This is more about how reddit moderation works and has been a vastly misconstrued understanding of the situation.
    • Gay Conservative’s mods were all banned, leaving the subreddit open to be taken by a moderator. The moderator in question saw the opportunity to take control of the subreddit to remove the vast amounts of hate there, and to prevent further radicalization and garbage by taking the reins, so they did.
    • Usually when these subs are taken over, we close them down and turn them into a placeholder subreddit, to redirect traffic to safer spaces. They couldn’t do that in this case, as the population who was already there was extremely toxic, and if they did that, then they’d just create a new, just as toxic, subreddit. They also can’t just leave the subreddit, as doing so would allow the sub to be taken over by toxic trolls again, and no one wants that.
    • Rather than let either of those things happen, they do basic moderation there without participating in the community at large, removing reported content, preventing brigades, and preventing the sub from radicalizing further. The sub receives constant hate brigades from offsite trying to bring the sub back to how bad it used to be, but the moderator in question is there to prevent those things from happening.
  4. We DO have trans mascs on our team. Currently 2-3, depending on availability and activity levels. We'd like more, but believe it or not, not very many people apply to moderate here (as seen above).
  5. Yes, sometimes the moderators of the subreddit disagree on how to handle certain situations. But no, we do not “tokenize” any subset of the trans community. Our moderators work really hard, are unpaid volunteers, and are completely dedicated to this community. They wouldn't be here if they weren't. All voices here are held equal.
  6. We're aware of the two mods who left. The last thing we're going to do is throw anyone under the bus right now. We appreciate the time they spent with us and wish them well in the future.
We think what happened here was an organized disinformation brigade. We don't know exactly who orchestrated it and we're working with reddit admins to sift through that. But all the numbers on our subreddit insights indicate we started seeing extremely unusual activity in the ~24 hours prior to this all starting. We are in contact with Reddit administrators. All signs at this time point to this being a coordinated attack by outside agitators. We believe some bad faith trolls were prepared to do this and took advantage of some pretty standard operating procedures on the subreddit to turn a misunderstanding into a much bigger issue.
Our team knows that u/itsurbro7777 was not a part of this brigade, but that whoever started this used their vulnerable moment to attack our subreddit.
Some things we saw:
  • Our subscriber count saw more than double the average daily increase prior to the attack. Malicious actors will often subscribe to subreddits to try and appear to be legitimate members of the community for the purpose of avoiding anti-brigading filters.
  • Comment sections were filled with the same users over and over, boosting the comment count and spreading the same disinformation faster than we could manage it.
  • Posts specifically related to the current issues were heavily upvoted (which is common in this situation), but also any posts unrelated to it were downvoted, which is more indicative of an effort from outside the community.
  • The biggest offenders had no other history in trans subs, and most didn't even have history in queer subs at all. This could of course be from a standard Reddit brigade, but we feel this may be something worse.
Now the question is; why would someone do this? Sadly, we don’t have a great answer to that as we really don't know entirely. It could be to sew division within our community and fracture us. It could be that they find it fun. Or maybe someone wants to take control of the narrative.
Despite that, we did receive some valid feedback from all this and we don't want to lose that when we can use it to make our subreddit better. And we will make our subreddit better, we always make sure to listen to feedback given to our subreddit and use it to create a place that everyone wants to be in.

What's next:​

  1. We're reviewing our rules to see how to loosen them up a little so people don't feel silenced going forward. We'll let you know when those changes go into place, so you can take a look for yourselves and offer feedback. We have already removed our “divisive posts” rule, as the biggest offender, but want to keep improving.
  2. We're working on bringing on more mods. We can't just bring on everyone immediately, as we do need queer people we can all trust. We prefer active members of the community, by far. But our goal is 1-3 new additions by the end of this month, hopefully with more in the future.
  3. We're implementing a weekly feedback megathread, so people can let us know what they're feeling about the subreddit and offer a safe place for ideas and suggestions.
Beyond all that, we will now be returning to normal operating procedures within the subreddit. That means posts about this event will be removed and we will go back to banning instigators. You can- and should- talk in this post all you want about it, but we will be removing comments from those who are not regular community members, especially if the user is starting problems.

Remember: This subreddit is a space built for inclusivity. This means we welcome binary AND nonbinary people, transmascs, transfemmes, and other NB identities alike. And we are adamant on focusing on that goal.​

PLEASE use the report function if you see someone being disrespectful! Use modmail! Talk to us! I say this a lot, but WE ARE NOT PERFECT. Most of our moderation is manual. Our team members have full time jobs and lives and we can't see everything. We need our community’s support. Report problematic situations so we can talk about them and resolve them.​

The world isn't kind to people like us right now. The last thing we want is more division in the safe spaces we've all created together. Coming together is more important than ever and we want all of our siblings to feel completely safe here. That's the most important thing to us.​

 
Here's the expose. It's incredibly meta because it's a trans woman accusing another trans woman of faking being trans.
What's even odder about it is that it's written in third person by the person accusing SOPHIE of being a fake tranner. It's very schizocow.

But no one hates trannies more than other trannies. There can only be one true Scotsman after all.
 
SO close to "A man is criticizing me, a woman!"
the pooners chose their side and now they need to deal

If they are men, feminism and the role of women, & what women think or do about it, is not their business.
This is what drives me crazy about ex-radfem Sady "Jude" Doyle, she zealously policed men for well over a decade and now claims to be a man and becomes hysterically-upset when SHE is now policed in the same way.

If you don't believe in feminism and its accompanying construct, patriarchy, then stop fussing about it. Embrace your "manhood"--keep your head down and shut up.
That's what guys are expected to do, remember?

If you DO believe in feminism and patriarchy, then please understand you personally transitioned to become a patriarch and oppress women, because feminism teaches that is intrinsic and unavoidable in the role, as you were also taught to believe all whites intrisically oppress black ppl just by existing.

This is the business you've chosen.

You transitioned to white male, the most hated people on the left, then you run around whining that ppl should be nice to you, even though you openly identify as an evil oppressor.

No Miss Pooner, you had a choice, and you chose to be the bad guy... see how it works now?

Nobody takes the pooners seriously, least of all the MTFs.... the MTFs are way too jealous of your natural femininity to give you the time of day, and in case you haven't noticed, THEY run the movement and decide who gets air-time. (Not you)

You guys wanted to be men, so welcome to the jungle.
 
Here's the expose. It's incredibly meta because it's a trans woman accusing another trans woman of faking being trans.

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This SOPHIE businesses is fascinating bullshit.

In 2015 troonery was ascending. Elon's girlfriend Grimes said it was wrong for a male to put on a dress and disguise himself as a female music producer. Fair comment.

Male producer SOPHIE leant into the "identity" and pretended to be a troon, because troons were becoming fashionable in 2015. So SOPHIE faked being a troon for dollars.

In 2021 the artist formerly (formally?) known as SOPHIE joined the 41%. Authentic troon behaviour.

It's 2025 now. Troonery is not cool anymore. Trans is very unfashionable.
The Medium writer (the man with much to gain from SOPHIE's back catalogue) says that SOPHIE was a man in a dress all along. SOPHIE was never a tranny, he was just joking. SOPHIE was a fake tranny.

It was a scam.
The punchline is that trannies still consider SOPHIE to be a trans icon.
Drama!

ETA – the Medium article is flagged to be removed. Too controversial.
 
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the pooners chose their side and now they need to deal

If they are men, feminism and the role of women, & what women think or do about it, is not their business.
This is what drives me crazy about ex-radfem Sady "Jude" Doyle, she zealously policed men for well over a decade and now claims to be a man and becomes hysterically-upset when SHE is now policed in the same way.

If you don't believe in feminism and its accompanying construct, patriarchy, then stop fussing about it. Embrace your "manhood"--keep your head down and shut up.
That's what guys are expected to do, remember?

If you DO believe in feminism and patriarchy, then please understand you personally transitioned to become a patriarch and oppress women, because feminism teaches that is intrinsic and unavoidable in the role, as you were also taught to believe all whites intrisically oppress black ppl just by existing.

This is the business you've chosen.

You transitioned to white male, the most hated people on the left, then you run around whining that ppl should be nice to you, even though you openly identify as an evil oppressor.

No Miss Pooner, you had a choice, and you chose to be the bad guy... see how it works now?

Nobody takes the pooners seriously, least of all the MTFs.... the MTFs are way too jealous of your natural femininity to give you the time of day, and in case you haven't noticed, THEY run the movement and decide who gets air-time. (Not you)

You guys wanted to be men, so welcome to the jungle.

To add to this, men tend to the extremes in most things, statistically. Women are in the middle. Men are more likely to be geniuses, they are also more likely to be retarded. Men are wealthier, they're also the most homeless. Men are more likely to be in heroic roles, risking their lives to save people; they're also more likely to be deviant serial killers. If you happen to be a wealthy good looking guy, then you're at the top of the dating market. If you are broke and ugly, you're right at the bottom, completely undesirable. Unfortunately for pooners, they fit right into the lower group of men, They wouldn't get much "male privilege" even if they had a dick. Who wants a mentally ill, poor, weak midget? No-one.
 
One would think that going to a pool party with obvious, politicized scars showcased for all to see would be a bad idea if you're intending to maintain your status as a Decepticon, but troons 'n' poons are typically quite bankrupt of brain cells. Suggestions from other poons include jokey advice such as "say you fought a bear" as well as some classic stolen valor like "claim you had gynecomastia" or "state that you lost a lot of weight and had loose skin surgery", which is a refreshing change of pace from their usual claim of having double-lung transplants. It just kills you people to be remotely honest, doesn't it?
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Going swimming with people I'm not out to. How do I explain my top surgery scars without outing myself?

I'm going to a pool party tonight and some of my coworkers who I don't necessarily want knowing I'm trans are going to be there. I plan on going swimming (obviously, its a pool party), but I have top surgery scars that are pretty visible. I know my nosey ass coworkers are going to ask what the scars are. What should I tell them that won't potentially out me? If they figure it out on their own thats fine I guess but I don't want to confirm anything to them if that makes sense. Whats some good cover stories yall have to explain your top surgery scars?
A revolting zoophilic pervert is upset that his fiancee has the audacity to walk in while he's inserting a fascimile of a dog penis into his yearning, wretched anus. The fact that it slipped out makes me think this sort of behavior is not unusual for him, which makes me wonder if he leaves skidmarks everywhere like a little fecal snail!
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Why Did She Have To Walk In!?

Yesterday I was trying to practice some “self love” if you will with my newer toy that’s of a “kink” design. Kind of “knotty” if you will. Anyway; so I’m in the shower and it slipped out and as I tried to guide it back in. Guess who decides they need to walk into the bathroom and look to see what I was doing in the shower. That’s right! My Fiancée!She didn’t make a single sound coming in and she decides to whip the curtain open and in a startling volume she yells; “What’cha DOIN’!?” Scares the life out of me and makes me slip and fall on my ass a whole whopping 8” to the tub from where I was hovering over said toy. It completely killed my mood and I just finished showering. Now for reference before anyone says nasty things about her. She knows I use these toys and that I’m trans and she doesn’t care that I do this stuff.
A TiF drafts a letter to HR that is so brazenly pathetic that I almost thought to post it in the Ls thread. Willingly leaving a job in this job market because people realized you're a fraud? So stupid, it veers close to being diagnostic evidence of genuine retardation.
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Faced transphobia at work.

This is what I had to send HR. All names in this email I sent are replaced with false ones:
Hello,
My name is ----- and my supervisor is Alice. My one coworker Sara let me know today around 2p that on Thursday the 10th My boss Alice told my other coworker sophia that I was transgender and they found out by the background checks. Alice then found the old photo of me before I transitioned and sent it to sophia. Sophia then went on to show the people at the camp I'm at with my client and my coworker Sara these photos and out me to them. They went on to say transphobic things and refer to me as she/her and in a female way. I don't feel safe with people knowing I'm transgender. I did not respect being outed like that. I am thinking about putting in two weeks due to the fear of people knowing now.

Thank you,​

A straight couple suffers from issues in the bedroom because the beast of XY chromosomal descent dares to want to have penetrative sex with the woman - sorry, "gay trans guy" - he's with. For some reason, this moron is in a sexual relationship despite stating she is asexual and often times sex-repulsed. I've never quite understood why "asexuals" want to be in relationships; if you don't like sex, don't have it? We need to make nunneries cool again, I suppose.
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Feeling ROUGH intimacy-wise

I am in a gay relationship and struggling a bit with aspects of sexual intimacy.
For reference, I am asexual. So to begin with, I don't really feel a particular need or drive for sex. I do not experience sexual attraction at all and I engage with my partner primarily for two reasons; for fun, and because I want to take care of them.
My partner is AMAB and their previous partners have all been AFAB, none of them men (though not all women).
I absolutely do not think this person is in any way a chaser, I mention this because I have suspicions that it may inform how they engage with me sexually.
The general issue I am facing is this; I have been feeling a lot of dysphoria about the way we have sex.
I enjoy bottoming and I enjoy submission, but always feel intensely dysphoric performing either. PiV feels good physically, but causes far too much dysphoria to do regularly. I only like my chest being touched in a sexual context, but only some of the time.

A lot of the things I prefer to do, they don't seem entirely satisfied with, and I don't like to have sex especially often so I really lament that.
The biggest problem here is that I know my partner is actively attracted to the parts of me that I don't wish to involve in the activity.
They aren't the slightest bit pushy about it, but I feel bad, and often selfish, knowing the experience could be better if I just let it. It ruins the vibe for me, especially when things that should be fun start to feel icky (like when all of the dirty talk is centered around a desire for PiV that I do not share).
...And, to be frank, sexual attraction directed at me is a pretty major dysphoria trigger on its own, but that I recognize is something I just need to deal with on my own.
I've been dysphoric and tired and this is all contributing to me feeling extremely sex-repulsed recently. I just feel burnt out and I need advice on what to work through and how, and what I can do to make the experience better.
A TiF with the emotional constituion of wet tissue paper is distressed because her coworker is incredibly nosy about her transgenderism. I like that she thinks about trying to be more aggressive about turning her inquisitions down, mostly because it's always amusing to me when li'l doodz try to act threatening. Pooner aggression is honestly like being growled at by a fucking Keebler elf; even bunny-boiling BPDemons are scarier.
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coworker keeps asking invasive questions

as the title suggests, i have a coworker who keeps asking me very invasive questions, sometimes relating to my transness, other times my general queerness, and sometimes it's just invasive to ask anyone. context is i work at a college gym and my coworker and i are both 20ish attending this college. also i'm very open about my queerness bc other coworkers are & our boss is a gay man, and i don't pass well enough to go under the radar about being trans.
today i was on shift with the coworker, and it was really slow, so the only thing we could really do was talk. sometimes i'd start up the conversation, saying like, "how are you handling this hot weather?" or "any vacation plans for later this summer?" yknow, normal stuff, and when she would start the conversation, it'd always be things like "so when are you getting a wife?" (i'm gay and she knows this) or "so what's your real first name?"
i was super blunt both times and was like yeah i'm not going to talk about that because she does this EVERY SHIFT i work with her.
should i report her to HR? should i try to trade my shifts so i don't work with her? should i be more aggressive in telling her to stop? it literally almost sent me into an anxiety attack at work today.
A FTM is starting to see the men behind the curtain for what they really are, resenting that trannies dominate online trans spaces with iron fists. Of course, she still has to placate her fellow handmaidens by saying that she "loves and adores" her tranny friends IRL, but it seems that the dissent of pooners is rising further and further with each day...
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I'm done with trans neutral / mainly transfemme spaces. But is this a stupid thing for me to do?

This is gonna be fucked of me, maybe, but I'm exhausted by the fact that I'm constantly overshadowed, ignored, and even debased by trans women and transfemme people in trans inclusive neutral spaces. Meme subs, general trans subs, etc.
I've had trans women, in the past, say awful shit to my face. Tell me to get over myself "because you're a man now, right?" Tell me that I'm not allowed to be offended by the 10000th meme about "pickles making you more a woman" or "sharks making you more a woman" or whatever, with them negating or ignoring the fact that it's a transgender neutral inclusive space for everyone and they're making something dysphoria inducing for trans men.

I'm over it.
So, I'll still of course love and adore my transfemme friends irl. Because they aren't these bitter, chronically onlines that hate the fact they were born male and are taking it out on everyone around them that wasn't.
But is this even right to do?
People say I'll be in an echo chamber if I do that. I don't see protecting myself as being in an echo chamber. Had a former friend of mine - a Republican - tell me that my avoiding trans-hating people like Ben Shapiro or Trump means I'm "in an echo chamber". But I wasn't only hearing positive voices, I was hearing everyone but them.
I'll be in neutral inclusive LGBT spaces.
Just not neutral inclusive trans spaces that will, realistically, be almost all trans women...
Pooner's Odyssey: a TiF writes a needlessly long fucking post about how much she hates other belligerent crossdressers because, like the poster before her, she feels exceptionally put upon in LGBT spaces. I hope that the r/Trans debacle has caused a considerable rift between troons 'n' poons because I would love to see the downfall of this house of cards within my lifetime! Or at least before every post-apocalyptic movie comes to life and I'm having to eat berries and raid abandoned pharmacies to get by instead of laughing at trannies.
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the lgbtq community is why i’m stealth

Before I even say anything let me start by saying no this is not a pick me stance where i say other trans ppl make us look bad. I’m not that type of person. I think every trans person is valid in their identity. Be who you are. Now that that’s out of the way. This is something i wanted to talk about after everything that’s gone on the past few days. Idk if you guys have seen the whole riley thing on tik tok. But it pisses me off to no extent. And im honestly just curious if there’s any other trans guys who feel like i do. Or if there’s a possibility at maybe some community here. But im not holding my breath.
I’m stealth. I am seen and treated as a completely straight man. In LGBTQ spaces i’m treated like the straight guy that showed up w lesbian friends. And i could easily say the words oh im trans. But i realized a long time ago that that doesn’t do or change anything. Why? Because trans men are treated like shit in most queer spaces. Why? I have no idea. But when I was younger like baby trans teenager i’d be in trans spaces online. And i’d see trans men be looked over. Ignored. Belittled. Etc. And i figured oh that’s just online. Everyone’s miserable online. So i got older and i found myself in actual queer spaces. Thinking i was gonna feel connected to my inner queerness. Being that i lived as a lesbian for like 4 years of my life. I was excited to experience queerness from my trans identity. And i found that it sucks. When you’re a trans man in queer spaces people give you side eyes. They treat you very weirdly. And you deal with a lot of man hating comments. The kind that’s like “I fucking hate men all men suck” And i’m standing there like okay. And then they’re like “Oh but not you! You’re the exception boy lite uwu” Which is incredibly invalidating. Or you’ll hear “You’re a man you’re included in that you suck too.” Which is like uh okay? I guess. I have the same experience with misogyny as you but go off? I almost lost my life on the journey to accepting myself as the man that i am. I’m glad you hate me bc im a man. This is definetly what i want to hear in a queer space. That the identity i fought to find is why you hate me.
Then I started passing more. Feeling more like me. Finding myself. Finding happiness. Distancing myself from queer spaces. And I started noticing that trans people were in the media more. And it was more mainstream to talk about us. Which was very strange to watch. With the rise of visibility came the rise of hate. And for some reason came the rise of anti transmasc spaces. I was literally seeing tags like AFAB DNI or not a space for afabs. Which still continues to feel incredibly degrading to be referred to as just birthsex. But also why were we excluded? What did we do? Besides exist as us?
And then i saw so much trans infighting. You need dysphoria you don’t need dysphoria you need to pass you don’t need to pass. Neopronouns are ruining the public’s perception neopronouns aren’t why the public hates us. Back and forth. Over and over again. Never changing. Never helping the community move forward. Just constant bickering.
And then I saw man hating peak so much that trans men started being treated like shit by cis people too. Not just other queer people but now cishet “allies” are literally saying trans men aren’t shit. Trans men are just trash like all men. “When we say men ain’t shit we mean trans men too.” And i think what’s the most disheartening is that it’s other queer people who validate these notions and allow cis people to hold these opinions over our heads. But if we ever even try to speak up about it we’re told to stfu. Or stop bitching. If we say or do anything except grin and bear it we’re treated like idek man. Worse than shit. It took me years to accept myself. Years to find myself. Years to understand myself as the man i am. And all i ever hear from people is how im trash for being a man. The man that i am so proud of. The man i fought to love in the mirror. He doesn’t suck. He’s not trash. I didn’t transition to be told by the world that i fucking suck for it.
So through all of this I decided absolutely damn all that shit to hell i’m stealth. Because the literal only reason i would have for coming out would be to be seen and exist in trans spaces. But trans spaces are so fucking miserable for trans guys that i don’t wanna be seen as trans at all. I would rather be seen as cishet. Because at least then im not having to constantly fight for validity in my identity. Im not shamed for my identity as a man like i am when im seen as a trans man.
And it’s not transphobia that makes me feel like this. It’s not people telling me im a girl. That i can handle that’s nothing to me. Transphobia against me? Good luck buddy i know who i am. It’s the community that’s supposed to be mine that makes me feel like the most shit for my identity. And they do it without being transphobic.
Why would i ever wanna exist in queer spaces where others get celebrated for their queerness but im shamed/guilted for mine? Cishet people never shame me. Cishet people see me for me.

And the craziest part is that some people i meet i know for a fact that if they knew im trans that i wouldn’t be safe w them anymore. But being seen as a part of me and loved still beats being seen as all of me and hated. As far i’m concerned everything i’ve experienced has completely pushed me away from the queer community. So much so that sometimes i even consider myself as just an ally. It feels like the queerness i used to have just died inside me over time.
it doesn’t feel welcoming in queer spaces. I don’t enjoy meeting other trans ppl bc im just worried they’ll clock me. So i try to steer clear.
It’s like there’s absolutely no plus side to being out as a trans guy. Cishet people don’t like you, queer people don’t like you, other trans ppl don’t like you. It just feels very isolating and lonely. Well it did. Not anymore bc i stopped caring to find a place in the queer community and instead found my place as a cishet man. Maybe one day it’ll be better and i’ll feel like there’s a reason to come out but as of right now. Man, maybe im bitching and im okay with it. Bc it sucks. There’s no support anywhere. And i’m not saying i want cis ppl to start making protect transmasc t shirts like they do w the dolls. I’m just saying it would be nice if they stopped only validating our identity as men when they wanna say men aren’t shit or that men suck. Nobody really has anything positive to say abt trans men on the cishet and queer side of life. So im letting my trans identity fall through the crack between them both so i can be happy. Because at this point I hate all things associated with trans as a queer identity. I’ve thrown out my pride flags, pins etc. They’re not validating they’re a reminder that as a trans man, i’m hated by the queer community for who i am. So I choose to not be trans. So i can be loved instead.
This was incredibly long but what happened recently on different platforms sparked this huge post. Watching trans men yet again be treated like shit in a trans space. So anyways. If you can relate to any of this, you’re not alone. I thought i’d come out live my life deal w transphobes but then be able to have the trans community as safety. Never thought id deal w transphobes and then have the trans community hate me just as much as the transphobes do LMAOOOO
That’s life i guess. Now everybody hates us even more and it’s globally somehow! So that’s fun. I’m completely checked out from being trans at this point. The phrase “I’m transgender” drains my soul so much that i don’t even feel trans anymore. Can i transition without it being an identity? Just give me my T i identify as fucking tired.
I also want to add onto this that i am beyond incredibly grateful for this sub. Over the years i’ve posted multiple times and found nothing but help and advice here. It’s one of the only online spaces where i feel somewhat okay acknowledging myself in a trans way. Usually im here to ask for advice on testosterone or other things but the fact ive been able to safely do that and never felt like i had to walk on eggshells here is huge. Cannot express my gratitude for this sub and those on it. Godspeed brothers. We all deserve better.
TERFy twin: a pooner's sister is expressing some serious hostility towards men and the patriarchy as a system, which concerns her because she's betrayed her sex to join the other team. OP, please let your sister know about Kiwi Farms, I would love to assist in peaking her further. :heart-full:
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I think my twin is falling down the Terf pipeline and I dont know what to do

Okay, first things first! Massive trigger warning. Obviously this post will have some intense topics; please read with caution and love yourself.
This is something I've been worried about for a while; I didn't exactly have a name for it or why it made me so upset and uncomfortable. However, when explaining everything to a friend of mine as well as doing some of my own research, I've found that a lot of her views are starting to align with the "TERF" mindset.
I'll start with the most recent event that happened. We had all gone out for breakfast because she came back to see our family. While out, she started talking about a thing she had read online. Essentially she was saying that every single man ever has abused a woman and every single man has forced someone into intercourse. I could see my dad started to get really uncomfortable, because obviously he would. I also started to feel really uncomfortable. She went on about how all men are just evil.
She's been saying that kind of stuff for a really long time. She always talks about how she hates all men and how women are always victims of men.
She refuses to acknowledge it and even goes so far as to tell me that my experience with SA isn't "real," and while she hasn't explicitly said it's because I've transitioned into a man, she has no problem acknowledging my sister's experiences. It's just mine.
This is all really worrying, obviously, as a trans man. Seeing her falling down this pipeline is really scary; no one in my family is really acknowledging what is happening. When I told my mother about it, she just said, "She needs to pull her head in," and that was it. I don't know if there is anything I can do or if there even is anything I can do to help her... but it just hurts knowing the further she will fall down this pipeline, the more ill she will become. lose my twin
Lastly, a TiF writes out a list of "non-cis" moments that indicated she would become a person of pronoun persuasion. This is another example of a FTM who is bizarrely envious of a male infant (like this creature over in the Ls thread), and seeing this sentiment being stated more frequently is creeping me out! Being jealous of a child's genitals should have you neutralized by a gigantic space laser.
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Non-Cis Moments that should have told me sooner that I'm trans.

The many non-cis moments that should have told me I wasn't cis:
  1. Feeling confused whenever straight men saw me as a woman.
  2. Loving Bara/Yaoi because you can live out your fantasies of being seen as a guy.
  3. Enjoying having transmasc gear: Packer, a binder/trans tape, and a trans flag.
  4. Always being disturbed by straight men but feeling like you belong with gay men.
  5. Crying because my straight ex doesn't respect me as a man, always seeing me as a woman, and being oblivious to it and thinking, "He'll see me as a man one day".
  6. Wanting to go through Androgenic Puberty so bad, that I was jealous of my (at the time Unborn) nephew because his gender reveal is celebrated while mine fell on deaf ears after coming out on my bday.
 
A revolting zoophilic pervert is upset that his fiancee has the audacity to walk in while he's inserting a fascimile of a dog penis into his yearning, wretched anus.
"She didn’t make a single sound coming in and she decides to whip the curtain open and in a startling volume she yells; “What’cha DOIN’!?” Scares the life out of me and makes me slip and fall on my ass a whole whopping 8” to the tub from where I was hovering over said toy."

The "Here's Johnny!" aspect of the zoo troon's partners entrance strikes me as almost comic, like perhaps she was trying to surprise him into falling and hurting himself. Or at least hoping it would happen.

I feel like there's still some sort of social contact that you don't surprise people standing in a slippery shower, due to the risk of injury. That she broke this contract, in this way, after he bought a new awful thing is very telling!

"He died after impaling himself on a fake dog dick in the shower." isn't quite Fusilli Jerry, but it would still be damned funny. A million to one shot, doc! And a great opportunity for a woman to break up with a tranny without any ill social effects.
 
Here's a troon who is overjoyed that his marriage is still intact after telling his wife he's a degenerate man who thinks he's her wife now.
marriagejoy.webp

But wait! What's this? When you check his post history, it's obvious that either this wife is completely degenerate herself or is yet unaware of how far her husband's rabbit hole goes and will ultimately divorce him.

Seems he posts a lot in r/men_in_panties_sexy and r/Panty_Wearing_Husband - not to mention r/TransBreastsTimelines, r/boysinheels, r/sissydressing, and r/HeWearsPanties.

A lot of these subreddits look like they're men wearing their wives' underwear. Definitely not a fetish coming to its natural conclusion.
 
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