- Joined
- May 5, 2013
I support trans rights and believe that gender dysphoria is a legitimate medical issue. Hermaphroditism/intersexism has also been documented, and I think people like Chaz Bono and Caitlyn Jenner deserve legit recognition and all that.
However, there is something I have to wonder about.
Cishet people statistically have the biggest selection of partners/potential mates. Roughly half the population is male, the other female. So as a cishet person you start out with a pool of half the world's people. Of course you have to cut some of that out. People below legal age. People too old/sick/frail. People already married. Homosexuals. Basic, legitimate stuff. Then you go into personal tastes. Perhaps you're not interested in dating someone outside your race. Or religion. Etc, etc, etc. Narrow it down further to people of a certain hair color, or having a certain hobby, etc.
After all these cuts, you have less than 10 percent of the opposite-sex population that might personally appeal to you. And there's also a big issue - do you appeal to them?
This brings me to transpeople. When one goes all the way and gets bottom surgery, their chance of finding a partner drops even more dramatically. I am a cishet female. Say I have gender dysphoria, so I transition to male. I might do all the male stuff - take testosterone, get my breasts removed, etc.
But I will never have a penis. And since my original orientation was het, now as a transman that makes me homosexual. But if I want to get frisky with a gay man, they will soon realize that I do not have boy parts. Many people don't want to date trans, especially homosexuals. I can understand why, though.
I know being trans is not all about sex and etc, but the reality of finding a life partner seems like it would be difficult for a trans. As a cis woman, I have a much better chance of finding a partner/mate than as a gay transman. Or if I was a lesbian to begin with, I would be het as a tranman, but the majority of het women want to date a biological male because they have parts I wouldn't have despite my gender identity. And since I would identify as a male, lesbians would be out of my dating pool. So either way, my chances of finding a loving mate plummet to less than 1 percent.
It makes me think that sometimes it might be easier to just stick with your birth gender. I have no negativity or hate towards trans, but this reality needs to be considered. Male and female bodies have different hormones, and different anatomy - not just on the outside. Bottom surgery is irreversible, and if you're a man transitioning to female, well I'm sorry but you're never going to experience pleasure in the same way a woman will, and you lost your penis in the bargain.
I know that gender dysphoria can be a serious issue for some people and one that causes a lot of emotional stress and anxiety, but I'm not sure if the consequences of bottom surgery and hormones is a price worth paying. I do feel this is a choice each adult should make for themselves, but that people should not be so quick to rush into it. There are some things you're born that you just can't change, and trying to change them can really mess things up.
However, there is something I have to wonder about.
Cishet people statistically have the biggest selection of partners/potential mates. Roughly half the population is male, the other female. So as a cishet person you start out with a pool of half the world's people. Of course you have to cut some of that out. People below legal age. People too old/sick/frail. People already married. Homosexuals. Basic, legitimate stuff. Then you go into personal tastes. Perhaps you're not interested in dating someone outside your race. Or religion. Etc, etc, etc. Narrow it down further to people of a certain hair color, or having a certain hobby, etc.
After all these cuts, you have less than 10 percent of the opposite-sex population that might personally appeal to you. And there's also a big issue - do you appeal to them?
This brings me to transpeople. When one goes all the way and gets bottom surgery, their chance of finding a partner drops even more dramatically. I am a cishet female. Say I have gender dysphoria, so I transition to male. I might do all the male stuff - take testosterone, get my breasts removed, etc.
But I will never have a penis. And since my original orientation was het, now as a transman that makes me homosexual. But if I want to get frisky with a gay man, they will soon realize that I do not have boy parts. Many people don't want to date trans, especially homosexuals. I can understand why, though.
I know being trans is not all about sex and etc, but the reality of finding a life partner seems like it would be difficult for a trans. As a cis woman, I have a much better chance of finding a partner/mate than as a gay transman. Or if I was a lesbian to begin with, I would be het as a tranman, but the majority of het women want to date a biological male because they have parts I wouldn't have despite my gender identity. And since I would identify as a male, lesbians would be out of my dating pool. So either way, my chances of finding a loving mate plummet to less than 1 percent.
It makes me think that sometimes it might be easier to just stick with your birth gender. I have no negativity or hate towards trans, but this reality needs to be considered. Male and female bodies have different hormones, and different anatomy - not just on the outside. Bottom surgery is irreversible, and if you're a man transitioning to female, well I'm sorry but you're never going to experience pleasure in the same way a woman will, and you lost your penis in the bargain.
I know that gender dysphoria can be a serious issue for some people and one that causes a lot of emotional stress and anxiety, but I'm not sure if the consequences of bottom surgery and hormones is a price worth paying. I do feel this is a choice each adult should make for themselves, but that people should not be so quick to rush into it. There are some things you're born that you just can't change, and trying to change them can really mess things up.
