Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
It seems like a selfie is a poor method of gatekeeping, plenty of men have photos of their ex that aren't able to be reverse image searched because those photos were never posted online.
Not to mention the obvious "hey mom/sister/girlfriend/platonic female friend, can you take a selfie on my phone real quick for your contact pic" ploy. They really ought to use ID verification instead.
 
Here's an actually readable version of the /Pol/ post:
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And the Pastebin link: https://pastebin.com/CPBiqd1E
 
I'm so glad I stopped dating years ago. Every time I see something like this, it reassures me that I made the right choice.
This to the fucking extreme. No woman wants me, so I don't want them. It seems that women today are just looking for validation of their preexisting belief that literally ALL men are toxic creeps who want nothing more than to forcibly rape every woman they come into contact with. They complain endlessly about "the male gaze" and ignore how it's based in millenia of human evolution. Women are so idpol lefty that they think that biology itself is the enemy of female liberation and must be destroyed. The whole idea that men must chop off their dicks and stuff silicone in their chests is a natural outgrowth of such a philosophy-men are so evil that they must be made into women. And then of course birth rates drop like a rock tossed into a mine in Virginia City, Nevada, but women don't care since pregnancy is also anti-woman. I wonder how long it will take before idpol left women realize that actively destroying humanity might not be such a great idea.
 
The creator of this being a gay man is the ironic cherry on top of this shit sundae.

Doesn't really matter though since this won't last long. It throughly breaks both the Apple and Google Play store TOS.
TOS only gets applied if you go after a protected group. Men are not a protected group.
 
TOS only gets applied if you used on a protected group. Men are not a protected group.
Nah, this is storing PII in plaintext like everything developed by tech illiterate brainlets, it's a lawlsuit disaster waiting to happen.

I give it a week before some chud releases 50,000 foid drivers licenses and they get sued.
 
It doesn't seem like people care about those things as long as the other person is attractive enough. Abusive relationships can for last years.
Some seek it out. Look lads I know some of you are black pilled on pussy but consider this. Ethan Raph fucked multiple woman who where weirdly devoted to him. Chris chan has a gf last I checked.

I get wanting a equal in a relationship but honestly woman just want a step up over what they are.
 
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