Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
Ethan Raph fucked multiple woman who where weirdly devoted to him. Chris chan has a gf last I checked.
Women will fuck anything from Herve Villechaize to Andre the Giant as long as they’re ‘famous’, mang.
You think Ed Sheeran would be plowing pussy nightly if he was a busker on a street corner?
 
If I had more free time I'd slap together a quick app called Mudshark that allowed men to anonymously report and shame women who had slept with black men.

I have no doubt that it would be declared the worst hate crime since the Holocaust in under 24 hours.
 
Someone should make an app called SkankWatch where men can share horror stories about the women who have made their lives miserable because it is fun for them.
Before thedirty.com got shut down that website basically served that purpose, but to warn others about who had STD's and shame the accused into posting negative HIV tests etc. It was a fun website.
 
Honestly yeah, there is a busker around my area banging a different homeless chick nightly
You need to stay indoors at night and stop peeping through people’s windows, you sick fuck.

If I had more free time I'd slap together a quick app called Mudshark that allowed men to anonymously report and shame women who had slept with black men.

I have no doubt that it would be declared the worst hate crime since the Holocaust in under 24 hours.
There was a website that did this called Coalfax and yes, it caused howls of outrage, loudest of all from the mudsharks.
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A friend of mine let the script run for a minute (in minecraft) and the women are really not very pretty. A lot of the selfies are straight up comical. Quite a lot of IDs/driver's licenses as well. Not gonna phonebook random women here, but if you want to try running the script it's quite entertaining actually (not that I did that. that was the friend. duh)

The userbase seems to be 90% ugly/old/black women frustrated with their bad relationship prospects looking for a way to avoid heartache. You can't really be mad at them, or at least I can't.
 
This ain't gonna work as they expect because the posts are like "eww, he's creepy". Doesn't really tell anything about a guy.

First, normal women won't go to this app. Second, if they go, they would know this means shit and likely find it funny. And most important, the only type of woman who might take this app seriously is the one you DON'T want to date, so they're filtering themselves.
 
This can be very easily explained by the fact that, while a trend in the broader west, Americans specifically live in an era of unprecedented gynocentric puritanism. Everyone likes to act as if the excesses of metoo died out years ago, but it kind of just took a different form as that of (usually true crime obsessed) women being extremely hysterical over "predators", power dynamics, age gaps, etc.

This is merely just another expression of that, it's an app for gossipy hysterical women to engage in reputation destruction of men who have offended their sensibilities in some manner and gave them an "ick", however vaguely and ill defined that may be. This app will likely not be around for long, sooner or later there will be a defamation lawsuit (possibly class action) or suicides caused directly by what the app was meant for, and it will be forced to shut down, or if the creators are lucky it will merely die out after becoming extremely controversial in the media.
 
most important, the only type of woman who might take this app seriously is the one you DON'T want to date, so they're filtering themselves.
yeah but that's why it's anonymous, so they aren't really filtering themselves, the whole idea is to let them be insane bitches in a completely private environment and, with the very inviting incentive of anonymity, encourage even normal women to hop on the bandwagon to act like this as well. In other words it implicitly enables some kind of social contagion, very unhealthy for social cohesion as a whole.

There are already websites and platforms for talking about the local creep like nextdoor or even just default public social media like facebook, this very obviously is just meant to encourage malicious behavior and a mental regression back into high school.
 
99% chance the gay weirdo momma's boy who started it wants it to go viral and get the traction, litigation and Salon/New Yorker journofeminist praise for long enough that he can stack solid 7-8 figures outside of US legal jurisdiction and it catches up.

Also a really good chance its mostly just becky-bots and paid Indians posing as female users engaging with each other. Women won't go anywhere that appears empty.
 
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