Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
The Tea app seems to have been vibe coded and the infamous hacker known as 4chan has compromised the public KYC buckets
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A /g/ anon made a google earth map out of the locations of every leaked user.
https://www.google.com/maps/d/viewer?mid=1A_cWEVwlxIWiK8ktwUhqzPGKPAsEmZ4
https://archive.is/A4ePT (archive)
 
yeah but that's why it's anonymous, so they aren't really filtering themselves, the whole idea is to let them be insane bitches in a completely private environment and, with the very inviting incentive of anonymity, encourage even normal women to hop on the bandwagon to act like this as well.
If a woman decides to not date you because some website ran by a faggot and basic bitches so vaguely says, then she's not a normal woman and you're better without her approaching you or she avoiding you.

The filtering is not by you, they do it themselves. "This site says I shouldn't go out with this guy bc he's a Christian, eww", well, ok? He wouldn't win anything by dating this woman, in fact he would lose time and money, thanks for staying away.
 
Men when they gossip about female lolcows on the freeze peach bastion Kee Wee Farms:
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Men when women gossip about them in their NO BOYS ALLOWED clubhouse:
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One is a notoriously disgusting, incel den of scum of and villainy - the other is an official, welcoming iOS app that's couched in the soft language of protecting women. I don't really participate in the lolcow threads on the farms but even as an occasional lurker there was always that unspoken veneer of "ok, well that's fucking horrible. i wonder if its true? I have to consider the context and who is posting this kind of stuff" that gave room for more plausible deniability. But with Tea there's this innate understanding to the normie that women are only posting this gossip to protect other people. It's the same reason why reddit was able to get away with snark subs that posted libelous shit that was worse than even 4chan for so long (until the based Jew activated his Death Note Xanatos Gambit last month). These are normie platforms that are using soft and coheresive language to paint themselves as "good" and what is posted on there is taken much more seriously than some place like the farms.
 
Are folx really seething about this?
How many of you chuds even get women anyway?Fuck it, how many average dudes get women? Probably less than 20% nowadays if they are lucky

Only dudes on this app will be chads, and despite the seethe from the user for no commitment, chads will get women.If you've seen the tinder experiment videos with the psychopathic info, but good looking pics, you'll know what i mean.
I'd wager like 90% of men under 45 have dealt with a woman that would go on to spread false information online about them or have known someone who has dealt with it.
That a good point i have been thinking about.This app is a breeding ground for defamation lawsuits, i mean why wouldn't people lie? especially out of passion?
 
One is a notoriously disgusting, incel den of scum of and villainy - the other is an official, welcoming iOS app that's couched in the soft language of protecting women. I don't really participate in the lolcow threads on the farms but even as an occasional lurker there was always that unspoken veneer of "ok, well that's fucking horrible. i wonder if its true? I have to consider the context and who is posting this kind of stuff" that gave room for more plausible deniability. But with Tea there's this innate understanding to the normie that women are only posting this gossip to protect other people.

It's the fusion Women & Jewry 101: every single word, phrase, sentence, and letter of language will be perverted from all meaning and intent until it morally and legally allows them to do whatever they want to.

Based excluding Canada from the app or based Canadian women that are smart enough to not use it?

Canadian privacy legislation and gayboi tech bro hiding property and money via Montreal (a la Pornhub) most likely.
 
I'm arguing that gossiping enables some men to be vouched for, which enables women to date/interact with those men with less worry about getting kidnapped/raped/etc. For all the flaws of High School romance, at least kids vaguely knew who they were going out with. Adults, in the absence of such a social environment, are going at it completely blind, and I think that's the ultimate source of a lot of dating problems.
If only women knew that I was good guy they would date me!
LMAO Cope. A lot of women are not interested in dating plain looking average status man. Because for what reason? They can get exciting sex with hot guys. They can earn their own money. They have their own shit. And there is plenty of guys they can date if they desire, so why settling for someone not exciting?

Your issue is that you think women are ignorant of state of modern dating and/or stupid.
No they are no ignorant, and they are not stupid. They just hope they will catch someone who is ticking all the boxes, and are bitter afterwards that those super hot guys aren't really into committing, or are deadbeats.
Because what's the risk anyway? The "losers" will still be there when they are 30, or so they think.

The biggest issue for modern women is that there is more and more guys who just check outs. This gossip app is just there to pour frustrations of women who decided that they deserve better, and were checked by reality.
 
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Can you explain further how you imagine this will work?

A woman goes on a date with a guy, rejects him for any of 10,000 dumb reasons, then (you imagine) she goes on the app and says good things about him?? Really??

Or how about this one: a woman dates a guy and really, really likes him - he's her prince charming. But something about her is a dealbreaker for him. Could be anything. Maybe their sense of humors just don't align. So he very politely lets her down and wishes her well in her search. Do you imagine she goes on the app and, how did you put it, """elevates""" him?
I did not once claim that the app fixes the problem I described. I stated that having a social fabric where the average person (women included) have close friends and a wide circle of acquaintances fixes this, and that the app is a poor imitation that will only continue to make things worse if it survives. It doesn't even have to be vouching; a woman simply getting to witness male acquaintances react to the world around them (e.g. how he treats waitstaff) without having to go on a date with them would make it much easier to sniff out frauds and assholes, and thereby indirectly put other men at an advantage.

LMAO Cope. A lot of women are not interested in dating plain looking average status man. Because for what reason? They can get exciting sex with hot guys. They can earn their own money. They have their own shit. And there is plenty of guys they can date if they desire, so why settling for someone not exciting?
I get the sense that most women are desperate at this point, and will settle for a decent man who has a job and a car and washes his ass in the shower. It's possible that our local areas are just very different from each other, but I suspect your view is distorted by internet shit. Either way, this is just a difference in perception, and not something that can really be resolved by argument, I think.
 
Men when they gossip about female lolcows on the freeze peach bastion Kee Wee Farms:
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Men when women gossip about them in their NO BOYS ALLOWED clubhouse:
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Yeah, because having an app to congregate gossip about men you meet in real world in what are pretty much reviews about them falls into the same harmless category as gossiping on the relatively obscure fruit farming forum.

Even thinking that this is a refutation is fucking retarded.
 
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