Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
Before you spend 5-10 minutes organizing your thoughts into something to post on this thread, keep in mind the women you're talking about look like this
I mean, those are average (or slightly below) women. The issues is they look down at guys who are similar in attractiveness and status to them. So they have to invent ideas that those guys don't wash their asses or something to justify their contempt.
 
Or, if you must date online, don’t use a slop app with low commitment that is very clearly designed to facilitate hook-ups rather than a real dating relationship.
I don't think any such apps exist anymore. Facilitating hook-ups is the raison d'etre of online "dating". Anything beyond that is incidental and not at all encouraged by the sites/apps themselves.
 
The vexing part is, there are men who are bad enough to warrant being called out, and yet it seemingly never happens through these channels. There's a cocksucker around here literally slinging Rohypnol into drinks and yet the ostensible "safety" community is dead silent because (as far as I know) he's not on online dating, so lazy women can't just screenshot his profile and complain about him. I also know one guy in the area who has a place near a lot of famous bars and invites people back for "afterparties" and encourages them to "crash on his couch," not a single word on there because he targets communities (foreign chicks, 18 year olds) who aren't quite plugged in yet.

You know it's almost like women actually prefer this kind of treatment to being treated well by someone who potentially may have parted their hair in a way not to their liking or wore the wrong color shirt, owns the wrong smartphone, etc.
 
I did some light digging as I can't really be bothered but there's suspiciously very little about Sean outside of the very obvious PR pieces that say things like "Sean Cook was born and raised in Philadelphia, where he grew up surrounded by values emphasizing community, service, and looking out for others - especially women in his life". You can try and ask Grok or ChatGPT about his background, upbringing, etc and the things it cites were clearly just PR fluff pieces. At most I found that he went to Berkeley, which has a reputation for poaching talented students to work with intel agencies and a lot of their alumni serve key roles in a lot of influential NGOs including the World Bank/IMF. It looks like he also worked at Salesforce before launching this app which contracts with the DoD and a few other agencies but that's extremely tenuous of a link.
I couldn't even find him on the people search websites - either for Philadelphia, PA or Berkeley, CA.

Creepy.
 
The app only accepts United States ID, because according to them they can't verify any other country's ID and they need to 100% ensure you're a true & honest woman.
My prediction? This was data farming from the get-go.

If they wanted actual ID verification, they'd have used a third party service, because even in the US, there are various privacy laws by state.

And exposing a firebase bucket that never deletes any of it's data? At worst, it's criminally negligent, at best, it was always the plan.
 
Nah, this is storing PII in plaintext like everything developed by tech illiterate brainlets, it's a lawlsuit disaster waiting to happen.

I give it a week before some chud releases 50,000 foid drivers licenses and they get sued.
Right but they won’t be deplatformed by google/apple because it’s an app by and for faggots and women. Rainbow shields won’t protect you from lawyers or the trump administration, but they do protect you from Silicon Valley tech firms.
 
I couldn't even find him on the people search websites - either for Philadelphia, PA or Berkeley, CA.

Creepy.
No clue whether he glows, but this does make logical sense if you think about it.
Assume you're going to design some app that (1) engenders intense controversy by design and (2) targets your specific demographic (men). There are plenty of services that you can hire to remove PII about yourself from the Internet, and you'd be an idiot not to hire one in that circumstance. Hell, if they got VC funds, it'd not surprise me if that was a subtle requirement of the funding.
 
No clue whether he glows, but this does make logical sense if you think about it.
Assume you're going to design some app that (1) engenders intense controversy by design and (2) targets your specific demographic (men). There are plenty of services that you can hire to remove PII about yourself from the Internet, and you'd be an idiot not to hire one in that circumstance. Hell, if they got VC funds, it'd not surprise me if that was a subtle requirement of the funding.
Yeah, that's true. Tells me this fucker knows what he's doing, even if the website design was absolute dogshit.
 
I am just reading between the lines; obviously that wasn't a direct quote. Have you actually talked to normal women? They all think being promiscuous is a human right and have since the sixties.
Have you talked to normal women? Your diatribe is something ripped from a MGTOW forum. I guarantee I speak and interact with more women in a week than you do. Most of them do not have cartoonishly absurd perspectives on sex. What you see on tiktok is not the reality.

The only way you can think this is you are either: A) in agreement with the repulsive shit they think and do (this is my guess), or B) haven't taken your own advice to speak to "normal" women.
>either absurd thing A or ridiculous thing B
Have you ever honestly and unemotionally discussed something before?
That's assuming that you aren't accused of harassment for going up to random chicks and trying to chat them up, because gyms in particular have had a rash of women trying to ruin men's lives for hitting on them. Both my university and my employer made it clear that asking a woman out a single time was sufficient grounds to constitute harassment.
Gotta be honest, that sounds like a (You) problem. I’ve never been accused of sexual harassment for just talking to women lol.

You aren't out of touch, you are just full of shit, and proving my point about estrogenated men lying through their teeth to try to shield women from accountability for their behaviors. All of your "solutions" have not been even slightly applicable for about 15 years now.
I haven’t insulted you at all, yet you can’t help but not give me the same respect. It’s illuminating in what it reveals about your struggles with women. And your complaint about my “solutions” not being applicable smacks of someone who refuses to take the accountability he wants others to take. The problem is you think it should be handed to you instead of putting in effort. Women have some responsibility for why Gen Z is so fucked up, but women are retarded and natural followers. Hapless men like you, who find every reason why it’s not his fault, need to take control and stop waiting for something to change.

Notice, once again, that I did not say “it’s all men’s fault.” I’m saying that women and men have issues, but being a feckless fag that just complains online won’t change anything.
 
Have you talked to normal women? Your diatribe is something ripped from a MGTOW forum. I guarantee I speak and interact with more women in a week than you do. Most of them do not have cartoonishly absurd perspectives on sex. What you see on tiktok is not the reality.

>either absurd thing A or ridiculous thing B
Have you ever honestly and unemotionally discussed something before?
Gotta be honest, that sounds like a (You) problem. I’ve never been accused of sexual harassment for just talking to women lol.

I haven’t insulted you at all, yet you can’t help but not give me the same respect. It’s illuminating in what it reveals about your struggles with women. And your complaint about my “solutions” not being applicable smacks of someone who refuses to take the accountability he wants others to take. The problem is you think it should be handed to you instead of putting in effort. Women have some responsibility for why Gen Z is so fucked up, but women are retarded and natural followers. Hapless men like you, who find every reason why it’s not his fault, need to take control and stop waiting for something to change.

Notice, once again, that I did not say “it’s all men’s fault.” I’m saying that women and men have issues, but being a feckless fag that just complains online won’t change anything.
Of course the faggot just triples down on the lying; this is really all these pussy worshipping twinks can really do to try to protect women from accountability. Women are actually all secretly anti promiscuity and it's my fault for not finding the unicorns he supposedly meets every day. Policies stating that talking to women is harassment doesn't matter because he personally has not experienced it. Women trying to ruin men's lives for so much as looking at them in gyms doesn't matter because it hasn't happened to him either. He claims it's not men's fault while simultaneously stating that all of the onus is on men for not being "strong leaders" and fixing everything. Nothing but lie after lie after lie. This cunt can't even make it through one comment without directly contradicting himself.

Again, he is the estrogenated male who will lie through his teeth no matter what. He knows what he is saying is complete bullshit, and he does not care at all. Neither do the women and twinks that gave him stickers. People talk about living in a "post truth society", but actually experiencing it is one of the most demoralizing and frustrating things I can imagine. And no, I am not giving you respect; nothing you said warrants anything but total contempt.
 
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Women are actually all secretly anti promiscuity and it's my fault for not finding the unicorns he supposedly meets every day.
You couldn’t help yourself, huh? Okay, smart guy: lay out some concrete data to support your position that most women are giant whores with low morals. Your anecdotes right now are as useless as mine, but you are making the positive claim that women are whores (and, therefore, are the problem), so lay out your argument.

Policies stating that talking to women is harassment doesn't matter because he personally has not experienced it.
Women trying to ruin men's lives for so much as looking at them in gyms doesn't matter because it hasn't happened to him either.
Right back at you. Apparently, working in many places where talking to women is NOT harassment doesn’t matter because you personally haven’t experienced it, I see. Women overwhelmingly not ruining men’s lives everyday over being looked at in gyms doesn’t matter because it hasn’t been something you’ve noticed. I think I’m starting to see your intellect shine through here.

He claims it's not men's fault while simultaneously stating that all of the onus is on men for not being "strong leaders" and fixing everything.
I’m fucking dying here. I literally headed this retarded strawman off at the end of my last post and you still ran with it anyway. How old are you?

Again, he is the estrogenated male who will lie through his teeth no matter what. He knows what he is saying is complete bullshit, and he does not care at all. Neither do the women and twinks that gave him stickers. People talk about living in a "post truth society", but actually experiencing it is one of the most demoralizing and frustrating things I can imagine.
You seriously are crying through this right now, aren’t you?
 
If I was an intel agency and my division's objective was to further the gender divide between men and women in the US (to either make more consooomers or to sabotage the country), I'd make an app like this, spend millions to mysteriously get this pushed into the mainstream through a coordinated media full court press, and make the app incredibly easy to hack knowing full well that angry men would be all over this to attempt to doxx them. In the last 72 hours alone there's gotta be at least a few thousand men that became blackpilled and are less likely to procreate.
The "man or bear" trend was probably astroturfed for this purpose, it lasted so much longer than necessary I could not shake off suspicion of something deeper than just retarded tiktokers pushing it.
 
the irony of this post is clearly lost on you
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Yeah, because having an app to congregate gossip about men you meet in real world in what are pretty much reviews about them falls into the same harmless category as gossiping on the relatively obscure fruit farming forum.

Even thinking that this is a refutation is fucking retarded.
As if we don’t have a “verified kiwileak” tag for people who met a lolcow in real life to show they met a lolcow in real life when they talk about them. You’re not supposed to go out of your way to meet them if you don’t know them already but there are people on this site who gossip about they know. We have ~phonebooks~ of every lolcow and the titles of lolcow threads are deliberately formatted in such a way to be as SEO friendly as possible. Fuck outta with this disingenuous “we’re just an obscure meanie little gossip forum so it doesn’t matter” bullshit, if Kiwi Farms became a normie site tomorrow with millions of users you’d still be saying “actually it’s worse when girls do it”.

If anything an app is the better way to do it, since Stacy calling your dick small or telling the girls you stood her up isn’t gonna show up on a potential employer’s Google search. Might stop you from getting laid though, which is totally fine as men are the rational, logical sex and therefore above such things. In fact they are so uncaring that they spent hours literally putting all the app’s users on a map so that totally not seething men can travel to their homes in real life to have a rational, logical conversation with them.

If a woman knew that a guy was guaranteed to strangle her and leave her in a ditch, nothing would get in the way of her attempts to date him.
If this was true white women would be fighting each other to date pakis and vantablack niggers from countries where treating women like cattle is legal yet in reality they are the demographic least likely to race mix (and men’s delusions to the contrary is /pol/ and mindgeek induced psychosexual obsession projected onto women as a defence mechanism).

Real safety issues (not going home with strange men, public first dates, etc.) are never discussed.
If I ran a gossip app I’d have like fake ads every x post but instead of being actual advertisements for products they’d say things like that.

was accused of having STDs because something something hygiene
If your fully grown adult Asian friend’s bum was so stinky the date worried she might get the clap then he deserves to get publicly shamed into washing under his foreskin. The bar (of soap) is in Hell (life skills classes for retards).
 
There are definitely still good women out there. But they sure as fuck aren't in online dating apps.

The main issue is that certain groups have managed to damage the viability of the usual long-term dating scenes (School, Work, Church, Sports, ect) and tried to replace them with short-term, hookup dating scenes (Dating apps, Social Media, the "Bar Scene", ect)

So most of the people you're connected with end up being shallow, seeking instant gratification, and not caring about anything long-term.


It's beyond discouraging for both parties if they're not just looking for hookups. The end result is a lot of good people giving up and taking themselves off the dating market permanently.

It's going to take a LOT to fix this situation and I don't think anyone has any idea how to do it yet. Japan/South Korea are just a preview of what's to come
 
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