Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
If I was an intel agency and my division's objective was to further the gender divide between men and women in the US (to either make more consooomers or to sabotage the country), I'd make an app like this, spend millions to mysteriously get this pushed into the mainstream through a coordinated media full court press, and make the app incredibly easy to hack knowing full well that angry men would be all over this to attempt to doxx them. In the last 72 hours alone there's gotta be at least a few thousand men that became blackpilled and are less likely to procreate.

As much as it could be possible a karen made this IMO it has smarmy weird megalomaniac tech bro physiognomy written all over it. Maybe with ties to a foreign country.

EDIT: lmao, someone posted the founders earlier ITT. I'm proud of how well honed my radar has become
Dog I really think its some rich gay techbro who has enough money to kickstart something like this just as a coke idea and because he was already connected he gets it off the ground in like a month, no foresight, no real planning, just some Elon Musk tier 'dude, what if we....' shallow ideas with his rich friends who go 'yeah I know how we can sell this!' while hes partying and getting high with his rich white collar friends.

But its one of those things where guys are gonna actually care and be pissed about so you know, even I saw 'it requires verification' and my initial thought was 'okay so theyre storing this data, probably insecurely since its some nepo techbros 2-week cash app' and 'okay so theres a way to get in there by faking something to verify'.

like you know that after seeing this article theres a bunch of dudes coming together like lets go and start fucking with it and tearing it up and pissing and shitting all over the place.
 
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I get the sense that most women are desperate at this point, and will settle for a decent man who has a job and a car and washes his ass in the shower. It's possible that our local areas are just very different from each other, but I suspect your view is distorted by internet shit. Either way, this is just a difference in perception, and not something that can really be resolved by argument, I think.
You've been gaslight. Yes women (that are topic of this thread) will settle for guy like that, but only if this guy is good looking enough. Which usually means most guys are not. My views are distorted by internet shit? I've seen it play out irl.
And like I said, there are good women there, they are usually in long term relationships already. Those women don't need gossip apps.
Women have much more bargain power in their 20s than average man. If she cannot find anyone, it's her choice.

Men when they gossip about female lolcows on the freeze peach bastion Kee Wee Farms:
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One is public forum with discussion about public people that can be challenged. Other is secret gossip circle where you can just go and slander someone who is not public person. Truly the same shit.
 
Apps like these (and the "Are we dating the same guy?" groups on Facebook) have absolutely destroyed a lot of my male friends (I've literally had to talk one out of suicide on the phone due to this shit), good riddance to these assholes.

I've been shown both this app and the Facebook group by female friends, and it's incredibly demoralizing. The ostensible point was always for "safety," which does make sense: at least in theory, it doesn't hurt to have women warning each other about some violent/dangerous dude. The thing is, those warnings naturally happen when you find dates through friend groups and a close-knit community. I've seen it happen all the time, and it's a beautiful thing - Girl A gets interested in Guy B, and girls eventually pull her aside to encourage her (good!) or warn her (bad!).

The reality with these apps/groups is much different. It's a gigantic pile-on with no rules. One of my buddies (nice guy, but short/very Asian/very awkward/definitely one or two bad dates away from going to r/asianmasculinity or whatever) was accused of having STDs because something something hygiene. Pretty much every man is accused of being a player in some capacity. Real safety issues (not going home with strange men, public first dates, etc.) are never discussed. Half of the comments are just insults about some dude's hair, dick size, or the like.

The vexing part is, there are men who are bad enough to warrant being called out, and yet it seemingly never happens through these channels. There's a cocksucker around here literally slinging Rohypnol into drinks and yet the ostensible "safety" community is dead silent because (as far as I know) he's not on online dating, so lazy women can't just screenshot his profile and complain about him. I also know one guy in the area who has a place near a lot of famous bars and invites people back for "afterparties" and encourages them to "crash on his couch," not a single word on there because he targets communities (foreign chicks, 18 year olds) who aren't quite plugged in yet.

I was posted on the Facebook group, so I can speak from experience. I go on a first date with a girl, it goes well. She basically jumps me in my car, we make out a bit, and she bites down so hard on my earlobe that I have a little trickle of blood going down my neck when driving home. I ended up gently telling her via text I didn't think it'd work out (didn't mention the whole "don't bite earlobes" thing, though I had plenty of jokes drafted). The next week she's posting me on the group, dumped like 10+ photos of me from my social media accounts and called me a playboy looking for sex. Some other girls swung in and claimed I was closeted, ugly, fake, etc. Didn't mind too much, though, as some girls actually reached out to me afterward wanting to date (I realize how concerning that is).
 
That a good point i have been thinking about.This app is a breeding ground for defamation lawsuits, i mean why wouldn't people lie? especially out of passion?

I met a chick on tinder in 2016 and dated for about 7 months, was my first BPD chick and she was super abusive and manipulatative. We broke up and she tried to claim some shit that I was abusive to her. I learned that when you "abandon" BPD chicks it triggers something in them that makes them act like Gohan turning Super Saiyan 2 and they unlock a new level in BPD transformation tree. Luckily she was more hot than smart and I was able to document most everything and present it to a judge and got a restraining order (and this was during MeToo - so imagine the kind of shit I had to have had to get one approved against her). But the social damage was already done and a lot of that takes years to repair if it is even repairable.

About two years later after the 3 year restraining order expired she messaged me about my mom telling me that she was so sorry that her son never got to be anything more than a burnout loser before she passed away. Fortunately in the 5 years apart I stopped drinking, got a well paying job, irresponsibly gambled on Tesla calls, and managed to eek my way to a healthy net worth and spoil my parents. My mom was able to leave this earth knowing that I did finally get my shit together. Meanwhile, she is on husband #2 and does porn. The fact that she still thinks about me 5 years and a marriage later is insane, and even more insane that she was able to hold onto that vitriolic soul-eroding anger for so long.

And this was before this kind of app existed too, there are probably tens of thousands of innocent men going through the same shit I did except now there's an anonymous app where you have a crazy person that hates your guts and won't stop until they destroy your life. I feel horrible for them and I hope that they do sue.

The vexing part is, there are men who are bad enough to warrant being called out, and yet it seemingly never happens through these channels


That's the thing, ironically the kinds of guys that this app is supposed to protect against aren't as impacted by this as you might think. When I had those abuse allegations I had it hanging over my head in every interaction, I was extremely self conscious about it until I was vindicated through the legal system. It followed me around whenever I went on new dates or even saw old friends - I was always wondering about if they knew and if they believed her, etc. The guys that legitimately do this stuff do not give a fuck what women think in general and are utterly shameless, they're just looking for the next mark/victim. While I admire that kind of bull-headed indifference in a vacuum (i.e. applying that stubbornness to pursuits outside of abusing women) it's wholly incompatible with modern society. They'll have no issue with denying it, lying, misrepresenting the truth, or just picking someone so young the power imbalance outweighs it.

Its still obviously a net positive to have warnings about these kind of men but my point is that it's not a silver bullet by any means and anon tools like this are already being misused to hurt innocent men. It really depends on your own individual perspective on the "I'd rather have 10 guilty men go free than 1 innocent man hang" adage. Everyone will have their own answer to that and this is just my perspective (i.e. the same guy who advocated for the government try and hang the people who made dating apps).
 
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I've been shown both this app and the Facebook group by female friends, and it's incredibly demoralizing. The ostensible point was always for "safety," which does make sense: at least in theory, it doesn't hurt to have women warning each other about some violent/dangerous dude. The thing is, those warnings naturally happen when you find dates through friend groups and a close-knit community. I've seen it happen all the time, and it's a beautiful thing - Girl A gets interested in Guy B, and girls eventually pull her aside to encourage her (good!) or warn her (bad!).
If a woman knew that a guy was guaranteed to strangle her and leave her in a ditch, nothing would get in the way of her attempts to date him. These groups only exist to slander men for either A) female affection they don't return or B) having right-wing (e.g. sensible) opinions about the world that don't conform to the female hivemind consensus.
 
I have a friend who got married in his mid 20s and has two kids recently had his marriage torpedoed amidships by the wife because for some fucking reason she decided to start cheating on him with a marine named Jace, of all things. Friend is in good shape, solid job, is a good father, but she just had to fuck it up.
She even got disowned by her family for bringing the kids over to :jaceknife:'s place while they hooked up. Some bitches be crazy.

A lot of women crave conflict and drama, particularly the ones that spend all day on Tiktok feeding on garbage.
 
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Before you spend 5-10 minutes organizing your thoughts into something to post on this thread, keep in mind the women you're talking about look like this
 
Based excluding Canada from the app or based Canadian women that are smart enough to not use it?
The app only accepts United States ID, because according to them they can't verify any other country's ID and they need to 100% ensure you're a true & honest woman.

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This Aryan Beast seems to have gotten through their "stringent" verification process, though.
 
It's just a lie. A lot of women actively prefer to chase after very attractive(or high status men) over pursuing relationships with people from their social circles. The ones who don't are usually already in stable relationships in their early 20s, and don't need to gossip with their girl friends.
Gossiping will never be a replacement for getting to know someone personally.
Every counterargument to dismiss and/or ignore western women's terrible behavior is a lie. Not even good, or believable, lies either, just complete nonsense backed by the everpresent threat of calling you an ist-a-phobe or an incel or some other nonsense. Every shred of evidence proves guys like him totally wrong, but that won't stop them from continuously lying through their teeth anyways because nothing terrifies them more than a woman being held accountable for once. Honestly I find it exhausting. Women and estrogenated men will tell any falsehood they can think of to try to gaslight normal men into thinking that our collapsing society is totally fine, and even if it isn't, it couldn't possible be women's fault that it went to shit.

Frankly, it's the biggest reason I don't have much hope for western societies. Like this guy:

Hot take from me, but I think that if you date the type of woman that would use an app like this, you already fucked up in the first place. The types using this app are going to be found in places at which you shouldn’t be looking for a wife.
Like this guy. "There's no problem, and if there is, it's actually your fault for not finding a unicorn (no I won't tell you where they are hiding)." The vast majority of women in the west support this type of nonsense; maybe if you're already part of some small, hyper-religious community that keeps women barefoot, pregnant, and in the kitchen then you can bypass this, but otherwise, this absolutely is a sign of a much larger problem with women in the west, especially America.
 
There's no problem, and if there is, it's actually your fault for not finding a unicorn (no I won't tell you where they are hiding)."
I did not say this. You will (probably) not find your wife on dating slop apps. Women on those apps are usually as desperate as the men on there for sexual attention and, as a result, are not mentally sound or morally right women. You don’t need to be in a hyper-specific “trad” community to find a decent woman either. Talk to people at work, at school, in hobby groups, at fitness centers, etc. Or, if you must date online, don’t use a slop app with low commitment that is very clearly designed to facilitate hook-ups rather than a real dating relationship. Western women are in need of strong men to lead them. They will go in whatever direction you lead them in if you take control of your life and be a man.
 
Dog I really think its some rich gay techbro who has enough money to kickstart something like this just as a coke idea and because he was already connected he gets it off the ground in like a month, no foresight, no real planning, just some Elon Musk tier shallow 'dude, what if we....' shallow ideas with his rich friends who go 'yeah I know how we can sell this!' while hes partying and getting high with his rich white collar friends.

But its one of those things where guys are gonna actually care and be pissed about so you know, even I saw 'it requires verification' and my initial thought was 'okay so theyre storing this data, probably insecurely since its some nepo techbros 2-week cash app' and 'okay so theres a way to get in there by faking something to verify'.

like you know that after seeing this article theres a bunch of dudes coming together like lets go and start fucking with it and tearing it up and pissing and shitting all over the place.

I did some light digging as I can't really be bothered but there's suspiciously very little about Sean outside of the very obvious PR pieces that say things like "Sean Cook was born and raised in Philadelphia, where he grew up surrounded by values emphasizing community, service, and looking out for others - especially women in his life". You can try and ask Grok or ChatGPT about his background, upbringing, etc and the things it cites were clearly just PR fluff pieces. At most I found that he went to Berkeley, which has a reputation for poaching talented students to work with intel agencies and a lot of their alumni serve key roles in a lot of influential NGOs including the World Bank/IMF. It looks like he also worked at Salesforce before launching this app which contracts with the DoD and a few other agencies but that's extremely tenuous of a link.

Before anyone spazzes out this is not remotely definitive proof of anything as the same could be said for any prestigiuous school or company (Salesforce isn't a particularly prominent GovTech contractor but they are expanding). The only real notable thing that is curious to me is that he has hardly any online footprint at all - not even a birthday. I'm sure someone truly autistic can dig deeper, but it is strange he doesn't have much of a footprint for someone who grew up alongside the internet.
 
I did not say this. You will (probably) not find your wife on dating slop apps. Women on those apps are usually as desperate as the men on there for sexual attention and, as a result, are not mentally sound or morally right women. You don’t need to be in a hyper-specific “trad” community to find a decent woman either. Talk to people at work, at school, in hobby groups, at fitness centers, etc. Or, if you must date online, don’t use a slop app with low commitment that is very clearly designed to facilitate hook-ups rather than a real dating relationship.
I am just reading between the lines; obviously that wasn't a direct quote. Have you actually talked to normal women? They all think being promiscuous is a human right and have since the sixties. Even if they don't like abortion, pretty much all of them will twist themselves into pretzels to justify when it's totally ok to kill a baby. The vast majority agree with whatever they perceive as the socially acceptable stance to have, which means they support whatever batshit insane, evil garbage feminists push as acceptable behavior. The only way you can think this is you are either: A) in agreement with the repulsive shit they think and do (this is my guess), or B) haven't taken your own advice to speak to "normal" women. That's assuming that you aren't accused of harassment for going up to random chicks and trying to chat them up, because gyms in particular have had a rash of women trying to ruin men's lives for hitting on them. Both my university and my employer made it clear that asking a woman out a single time was sufficient grounds to constitute harassment.

You aren't out of touch, you are just full of shit, and proving my point about estrogenated men lying through their teeth to try to shield women from accountability for their behaviors. All of your "solutions" have not been even slightly applicable for about 15 years now.

Western women are in need of strong men to lead them. They will go in whatever direction you lead them in if you take control of your life and be a man.
"I didn't say it's all men's fault! Now listen to me explain how it's all men's fault." At least get through a single comment before admitting that my assessment of your stance was completely accurate. Good luck "leading" a woman against every western government, NGO, corporation, business, media, social media, and social norm. I am sure if you just man up hard enough you can deprogram some feminist slut into being a trad waifu... give me a break.
 
Absolutely psychotic and not for the reasons most are giving

Yeah a "free" app that just wants your bitching and all your PII plus God knows what tracking permissions (I hate smart phones these days). Sure Jan.

And naturally these grifters with the big noses don't even give a thought to the permissions on their PII containers. These assholes probably full log credit card numbers somewhere if they take payment through any direct means.

Kids, most free phone apps are micro transaction spyware. I've decompiled some recent android apps and a lot of them are react native that compiles to Hermes which is not currently decompilable (Javascript you can't decompile. God I hate current era) then the android base exists only to
- defeat emulators and debugging tools from running their app in any sandbox
-massive amounts of spyware mostly from Googles own frameworks
-serve up ads and steal data for giant lists of scam spam and sketchy sites

Seriously I'm not kidding. My most recent example is a top rated crafting related application. Owned by some Jeet company, EU based coders (oddly) and some really batshit stuff.

I never did get around to figuring out how to recompile the android part to defeat all the anti sandbox checks but it was horrifying.
 
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