Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
Eh, I have no interest in fucking any man except the one I chose to have a relationship with. Other men simply don't exist.
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Cool. No-one asked.

I hate women.
Homosexual hands typed this post.
 
You know, I know it's the social media/cyberspace world and we're supposed to just...cut off that percentage of people when it comes to framing out view of reality as it actually is; certain that there continues to exist a strong divide between the heightened, clownish existence we're hypnotized into seeing and the normalcy that actually pervades...

But shit like this is making it extraordinarily difficult to just not be exhausted. Particularly with modern women.
 
Here's some wisdom:
The reason there are no good women to date is because they found a good man and were too smart to let him get away.
The reason there are no good men to date is because they found a good woman are were too smart to let her get turned into an Eat-pray-love depraved whore.

The rest of are having to wait for someone quality from these relationships to die, or find the least diseased of the fellow left overs.

What I'm saying is if you aren't finding dates via the obituary pages you are doing it wrong.

Wait Null didn't ask you for cock photos when you signed up?
He never asked I just sent them.
 

Well aren't I just the fucking Oracle of Delphi huh
You don't need to be an oracle to know that it's not a matter of "if" data gets leaked, but when.
There is one and only one way to ensure data leaks don't ever happen, and that is to not store data in the first place. Otherwise it's just a matter of time before it happens.
 
The reason there are no good women to date...
To put it even simpler, most people pair up in their late teens, early 20's. It's just nature. You'll meet your future wife a party or a bar when you're hanging out with your friends. There will be a minimum hand wringing about if they are the "right one." The nature of human relationships is far less picky than people put on. Maybe it will be at college or one of your first jobs. Either way. If you are not in a stable relationship by then, something is wrong and you will start missing out on time. 2 kids instead of 3, that sort of thing.

All this dating app bullshit is for the dregs. The people that through bad luck or negligence did not find a stable partner that was, not even perfect for them, god no. Just good enough. Good enough is all you need folks. Don't overthink this.
 
Didn't know this, what a faggot. No one is going to take him seriously anyway because he runs this site, using the word holes wasn't losing him any support other than from the forums most retarded members. oh well
I never saw the original post or if it was changed my self. I just saw another post mentioning it. That's all I know about all of it.
 
Please gib link. Finally a ray of sunshine in this shit creek the last few days have been.
Its literally the front page my guy, but whatever
 
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