Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
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I love the "keep their online identity secret" part in the 1st paragraph.

Keeping your online life seperate from your real life truely is a lost art, isn't it?
I remember the days when everyone said never to put your name or any identifying information on the Internet. Now that's considered suspicious and makes you a weirdo social pariah.
 
Because those poor and oppressed -yet somehow simultaneously strong and empowered- wahmen weren't a bunch of swampdonkeys, amirite? We've seen the ID pics...

What makes you think men should want or accept exactly what you just projected?
No man would ever want to have sex with a nasty woman so why would any woman want to have sex with a nasty man? That's the point I'm making, the post I was responding to was pointing out that these apps are a great thing because it would make "attractiveness" obsolete meaning that women can finally just date based on true and honest personality or some retarded shit like that. It's the reverse side of the coin that the women on this app are on.

What you see outside is those couples that still manage to find a relatively equal-value partner. They're not a majority these days.
They 100% are the majority. Stop moping around about how women don't want to fuck you online and you might be able to join the human race with a partner outside of your house one day. Seriously, just stop assuming the worst of women because of some retarded dating app with like 20 users, or some reddit posts from disgusting women. Ironically, the women that paint the picture that so many men like you believe about women are the type of women you wouldn't even want to look at let alone date. Go outside and you'll see that women aren't that bad unless they're too young.
 
Men like that do exist, I wouldn't say they're a majority of incels, they're a small minorit
Fair enough.
Plus you're on a forum whose majority are fervently against genocide and rape.
This gave me a good chuckle.
Maybe the problem is you - why do you only keep talking with guys that are such "scum" by your own admission? Maybe that's what's on your level?
Huh? I am a married man. I know it's hard for some people to believe, but there are heterosexual men who think incels are a bunch of angry losers. The incels here call everyone who disagrees with them a woman, which only underscores their mindset and why they will never get a match.
 
No man would ever want to have sex with a nasty woman so why would any woman want to have sex with a nasty man? That's the point I'm making, the post I was responding to was pointing out that these apps are a great thing because it would make "attractiveness" obsolete meaning that women can finally just date based on true and honest personality or some retarded shit like that. It's the reverse side of the coin that the women on this app are on.
Yeah, I went back and reread it. I was skimming when I replied. Mea culpa.

I woke up late (my dogs let me sleep in, its a fucking miracle!) and a tad hungover, and my coffee levels were still critically low.
 
Just date someone your on your own level lol. If you're an unattractive guy stop expecting attractive women to line up around the block trying to get some of your dick. Women aren't interested in men who go into online forums and complain about how much women don't want to fuck them as if they're evil for it, like they're the male equivalents to the women you guys keep posting from this app and making fun of.
If you're an unattractive girl stop expecting attractive men to line up around the block trying to get some of your pussy. Men aren't interested in women who go into online forums and complain about how much men aren't on their level as if they're evil for trying to ask them out. They are the female equivalents to the men you guys keep making fun of.

See how easy that was? Personally, I'm tired of walking around seeing women who are 250lb+ heffers thinking they're hot shit and beautiful and can land Chad just because they got a drunken one night stand in college with a hot guy when they were 80lbs lighter and 19 years old. I'm tired of old bitches who are 35+ thinking they're hot shit, even though they aren't in any man's dating preferences, and simultaneously be the most demanding in terms of dating requirements while also jumping through every logical hula hoop to justify it. Do you see how easy it is to flip this?

I'm not disagreeing. The world would be a better place if men and women would stop having these delusions of grandeur.
 
Huh? I am a married man. I know it's hard for some people to believe, but there are heterosexual men who think incels are a bunch of angry losers. The incels here call everyone who disagrees with them a woman, which only underscores their mindset and why they will never get a match.

I think the funniest thing is the lack of self awareness on the left that the majority of their young men are also incels, yet they throw that around as if incel can only mean someone who is a right wing loser.
 
No man would ever want to have sex with a nasty woman so why would any woman want to have sex with a nasty man?
Welcome to the farms. Since this is your first day here you should try reading some threads on the main topic of the forum. Lolcows and the people who have relationships with them.

Cobra JFS got laid. He's a bald alcoholic with rotting teeth and he got laid.
 
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