Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
You'd have to fill us in with the exact definition of free speech you use. There are so-called "free speech absolutionists" where anything goes, or there are those that exempt things like yelling "Fire" in a movie theater, or those that exempt hate speech, it goes on and on.

So if you clue us in on how you define "free speech" then we can consider whether given instances meet your definition or not. "Free software" has the same type of categorical issue where there can be 5 people all talking about it and they are using 5 different definitions.
That's because the right to free speech in the U.S. literally only applies to the government censoring you. People seem to sometimes mean free speech means the right to say offensive things and be free of consequences. Which doesn't work, because you're taking someone else's right to be free of your shit away. Say whatever you want but expect consequences.
 
Why does it seem like half the license pics are from North Carolina? You see some representation from high population states like Texas and California, but I swear every other matchup has an NC driver's license.
 
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There's nothing better than retards on KF who whine about women wanting to date actual attractive men and not some disgusting fat ass monster who smells like shit, can't take care of themselves, have no skills, just nothing redeeming about them at all, yet they expect all women to line up to get a piece of them. I'm sorry to say that yes, women prefer attractive men just like you prefer attractive women. Nothing will ever change this. Also lmao at the idea that just because a guy is fit it means he's an "abusive asshole". Fuckin pathetic.
You misunderstood me; I was working within the other poster's example of attractive men who happen to be abusive, not stating that that is categorically the case. In fact, I tend to think a lot of the reason attractive men are preferred in the first place is that men who can maintain their appearance just generally tend to have their shit more together. But the occasional Hollywood Nightmare Marriage does happen.
 
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I don't even consider myself conservative really, just a bit right of centre, but I don't really think there's much more conservative men even can do to gatekeep retards. The threads about the America First personalities, sektur orbiters etc. on this forum prove that moderates on the right will rip into retarded extremists if they're given the opportunity to, far more so than moderate liberals ever do with the radical trans activists and BLM rioters who drag their side down - but far right personalities don't really exist in mainstream spaces so it would be kind of strange to keep bringing them up unprovoked to talk about how much you dislike them.
People like Andrew Tate are talked about by mainstream media, so I don't think what you're arguing here is accurate at all.
 
I feel a lot of the women on this app are down on their luck Beckies who initially sought support among fellow not-so-popular women, only to get sucked into weird femcel ideologies that only seem vaguely helpful on the surface.
Then I remember they cope by shitting on innocent men and I quickly stop feeling bad.

for all her true womenness, she pulled a sniperwoof
Off-topic but I've always felt it's weird how KF users of all people get offended over stuff like this. You're willingly on KF, a place where people laugh at lolcows and say wacky offensive shit all the time, and at the end of the day hardly any of it matters. Who gives a fuck if some faceless forum poster uses a word you don't like? Just brush it off lmao.

Even more off-topic: never knew sniperwoof/ruin was a tranny, nor that he apparently ragequit KF. What a shame.
 
So, what you’re saying is men have no agency and only enable women to be this way because they a slaves to vagina? Interesting.
Nah not at all. I was saying that because YOU said women are only whores because men want them to be, that they must have no agency.
 
one thing this leak has taught me is that the majority of women have no idea how to smile. while another majority smiles too much. all that aside genuinely who in their right mind would give away their ID like this? even if it was secure its astoundingly retarded to use any program or app that demands your drivers license of all things for photo ID. whats next? gonna ask for the birth certificate too?
Eh well, with women, some are not smiling just to be a bitch in general. They will do the same thing to other women. Women who aren't a bitch and don't really smile that much are trying to avoid attention and not attract flirtation because either they don't want a relationship or are already in one. Men take smiling as an invitation to come and talk. Not trying to be rude, but just saying already spoken for or just generally not interested.
 
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That's because the right to free speech in the U.S. literally only applies to the government censoring you. People seem to sometimes mean free speech means the right to say offensive things and be free of consequences. Which doesn't work, because you're taking someone else's right to be free of your shit away. Say whatever you want but expect consequences.
I am offended by your speech. You should be banned immediately.
 
What you're overlooking there is the woman in question views "conservative" men as a threat. Why is that, you think? Is it because women are le heckin stupid? Is it DA JOOOOOOOZ? Or is it because there are "conservative" men all over social media saying dumb shit like women don't deserve bodily autonomy and shouldn't be allowed to vote? Men can justify their shit however they please, but they are still shooting themselves in the foot when they say things like that and/or orbit other men like that.

When an incel stops assuming the worst about every woman and takes some personal responsibility for himself and who he associates with, he improves.
The men that are hostile against women are called misogynists. That's a separate group from conservatives. There are some misogynist conservatives, there is some overlap between those groups. But you also have left-wing progressive misogynists. Like MTF transexuals that hate women and think that they can be better than women, because they're a man smarter than all women. Those trannies aren't conservative.
I think you are falling for a thought trap that the progressives are setting up. They hate conservatives so they paint them as evil. They generalize and wrongly attribute that the thoughts and actions of a small minority of a group is representative of the entire group. It's never like that, just like it isn't for progressives. Do you agree with the leftists that go out protesting, commiting arson and attacking police officers? Do you agree with the violent antifa that go and smash people's head with bike locks, just because they don't agree with them? Do you think there is a certain group on the right that wants to paint all leftists as crazy violent insane people? (there is) but you need to recognize propaganda and what's true and what's bullshit. Even if it's coming from people from your own side. I don't trust anybody, not even people on my own side. I'm right wing, but my values don't align with traditional conservatives, nor do they align with most any conservative group. It certainly doesn't align with the misogynists that think that all women are xyz. There are some women that are like that, but there are also normal women who I don't have any problem with. Just like there are some crazy men that the misandrists are right about, that doesn't mean that all men are like that. Not all incels are like that. An incel is simply an involuntarily celibate man. That doesn't mean he hates women, or anything of the sort.
 
It is unusual to see couples where the attractiveness doesn't match and when it doesn't, first thought is that one of them is cheating. Most couples rate about the same. Sure a landwhale and omega male can couple, but it really is strange to see a couple where the physical attractiveness does not match at all.
If I had a dollar for every tall, white, reasonably fit, man with decent hair and facial structure I've seen dating a ran-through 3/10 brown goblina I'd have enough money to buy a used Honda Civic at a reasonable price.

For example, picrel is a mediocre (tho former champion tbf) MMA fighter with millions of dollars. Not only is this his wife but he's notoriously okay with her fucking other guys behind his back. I'd rather kill myself than have this, but many other women will see this and it will affirm their high expectations.
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Off-topic but I've always felt it's weird how KF users of all people get offended over stuff like this. You're willingly on KF, a place where people laugh at lolcows and say wacky offensive shit all the time, and at the end of the day hardly any of it matters. Who gives a fuck if some faceless forum poster uses a word you don't like? Just brush it off lmao.
because muh wahman
Even more off-topic: never knew sniperwoof/ruin was a tranny, nor that he apparently ragequit KF. What a shame.
He realized he got screwed over and was detrooning or already had after a certain point. Didn't really know him either. He just got really mad at supreme feeder for the simping shit, I think. I don't know. Lidl was maybe involved? Shit was like two years ago.

makes it even funnier
 
Someone used her dod id for it

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Someone use the DOD's website to report her. She'll lose her job for this lol

I feel a lot of the women on this app are down on their luck Beckies who initially sought support among fellow not-so-popular women, only to get sucked into weird femcel ideologies that only seem vaguely helpful on the surface.
Then I remember they cope by shitting on innocent men and I quickly stop feeling bad.

I have a feeling some of them got uglier and uglier physically as they got radicalized by femcel feminism and became bitter towards men. Roald Dahl was right about what he wrote in the Twits- people really do become uglier physically if all they think about are ugly thoughts.

I can see why the app draws women in, the creators are clever with their marketing. It gives women a fantasy they can play at "FBI girly" and discover they are dating the same man as another woman and shit.

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One last thought- it seems clear a lot of these women think "it's just a verification photo it will be safe and secure" so didn't bother to put on make-up or pose or make sure the lighting etc was suitable. It shows them how they really look. It's clear a big portion of them really are ugly but this is a reminder just how much of women's beauty is fake and artificial?
 
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If I had a dollar for every tall, white, reasonably fit, man with decent hair and facial structure I've seen dating a ran-through 3/10 brown goblina I'd have enough money to buy a used Honda Civic at a reasonable price.

For example, picrel is a mediocre (tho former champion tbf) MMA fighter with millions of dollars. Not only is this his wife but he's notoriously okay with her fucking other guys behind his back. I'd rather kill myself than have this, but many other women will see this and it will affirm their high expectations.
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Reminds me of one of the richest men on the planet who married the Bogdanoff twins' cousin
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