Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
The real moral of this thread is never ever trust tech bros and willingly hand over your personal info.
>tech bros

I'm not sure a gay man who hired a bunch of Indians to shit out an app so his whore mother would "unknowingly" (I had no idea this time, I swear!) stop letting felons fuck her counts as a tech bro.
 
The real moral of this thread is never ever trust tech bros and willingly hand over your personal info.

Good timing for this to happen at the same time the UK's Online Safety Bill came into effect. It reminds people that using a VPN is a better idea than having all their personal details on a database linking them to porn usage.
 
I think they come up with this overly intellectualized idea of what they want, leaning towards things that make them look good, and try to quantify something simple as chemistry.

And then when they find a guy who ticks all of their arbitrary boxes and there’s no chemistry they come up with “an ick” to explain why it didn’t work.
Women definitely comport their opinions of what a good man is to meet what they assume cultural expectations are and what they know will make them look good. I don't know if when they break up it is because there is no chemistry or women just are never satisfied. They'll be upgrading the kitchen cabinets and then the appliances, and, oh look, the husband is looking shabby too. Let's replace him with a better model. Only problem is they have no connection to objective reality and think they're still 25 while they are in their 40s or 50s. Meanwhile, young 25 year olds want men with money and look like the stereotype of a father figure. There is probably some fable about how if you can never be happy with what you have, then you will always be giving away the good things you used to have and didn't appreciate to other people who didn't have to work for them.

You also have to add in that women like being victims even if they are their own worst enemies. A women would rather live in squalor so a man can recurse her in her fantasy of how life is supposed to go instead of putting vermin traps and poison out and acting like a stable loving adult. Even if the fantasy is never fulfilled and she allows her self to languish, she considers her victim hood a sacred status which she will refuse to ever improve.
 
As dumb as these people are, I very seriously doubt they where taking selfies in top secret locations.

Ever seen a selfie or picture from inside Area 51? No because you cant. Same applies to the above.
They're not saying they took selfies in the locations. They're saying they provided military photo ID and then had GPS turned on while working at said top secret locations.
 
Good timing for this to happen at the same time the UK's Online Safety Bill came into effect. It reminds people that using a VPN is a better idea than having all their personal details on a database linking them to porn usage.
You wildly overestimate normies. I'd wager less than 15% of Internet users could even tell you what a VPN is, much less buy and use the service.

There are people who try to buy child pornography from fed honeypots or upload video of themselves committing crimes on a regular basis. Sending ID to an app or site that claims to be secure is nothing to them.
 
I had the dark realization that so many of the photos are grannies because they thought the "tea app" was literally for tea.
Nah it's because as gross as it is to imagine, old people fuck, and some old people have enough adaptability to learn to use a smartphone. Why do you think there are STD clusters in senior living? Old people who are usually widowed are lonely as hell and they still somehow have a sex drive despite the dire looks of what is around them.


The leaderboard here is a work of art.
 
You wildly overestimate normies. I'd wager less than 15% of Internet users could even tell you what a VPN is, much less buy and use the service.

There are people who try to buy child pornography from fed honeypots or upload video of themselves committing crimes on a regular basis. Sending ID to an app or site that claims to be secure is nothing to them.
Yea, supposedly only like 22% of internet users use adblockers which is fucking mind blowing considering the net is borderline unusable without it.
 
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They'll be upgrading the kitchen cabinets and then the appliances, and, oh look, the husband is looking shabby too. Let's replace him with a better model.
Nah, divorce is literal hell on both sexes. I'd never recommend it. But if you choose poorly and you realize it, either you try to fix it or have to get out of it. Men tend to think that there is nothing wrong until the divorce papers are served despite being told constantly otherwise.
 
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