Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
That map was fake, there is almost zero exif data in the dump. If you actually map it based on zip codes on ID cards you get my map, which includes expected metro areas with a heavier concentration around the Carolinas where they first launched. The user verification data (users/ and attachments/) only goes up through February 2024 (when they presumably switched the method), while the chats/ goes all the way through June 2025.
OK, but I thought some images had EXIF, others didn't, something like that. Why fake a map like that? Didn't they have links to the filenames in the original dump?

The reason I bother at all is that, something about this even glows. I'm interested in finding out what that is.

Also, there were chats - sort of news to me, I thought a few just got leaked by the users. What format are they in?
 
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Lil Drip is most popular (purportedly) female user of the forum and both categories of users want her back (she quit in frustration with the 'misogyny' pervading the thread and KF in general)
I like how you air quoted misogyny but not the "quit". Everybody knows Lidl is just using one or more sock accounts.

Broke brained terminally online weirdos always do.
 
This map is complete bullshit, the UUIDs don't match up and the data is laughable. I'm pretty sure they just picked at random from a list of towns and cities in the US, including tiny towns with 15 people in the middle of Alaska.
Yeah, that was my thought as well, the data didn't seem to have much in terms of zeroing in on locations. Depends if it was also based on profile info, which can be subjective if a user lied about a location as a form of opsec.

Also FUCKING LOL at the woman who used her DoD ID as a form of verification.

GIVING YOUR MILITARY ID TO A PRIVATE COMPANY SO YOU CAN GOSSIP!!

If the brass finds out, that chick is fuuuuckcked.
 
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OK, but I thought some images had EXIF, others didn't, something like that. Why fake a map like that? Didn't they have links to the filenames in the original dump?

The reason I bother at all is that, something about this even glows. I'm interested in finding out what that is.

Also, there were chats - sort of news to me, I thought a few just got leaked by the users. What format are they in?
People lie on the internet for clout all the time, I saw tweets about that map with over 50k likes and millions of views.

The chats just look like the media attachments, grouped by UUID. So presumably it's the pictures they were sharing in their private chats.

Here's the metadata file for the 55 GB torrent floating around, it breaks down the structure of the leaked data and how much there is (rename to .json).

Edit: also some guy on Twitter went through and found all the DoD ID cards, lmao: https://x.com/MarcoPolo501c3/status/1949309065370247222
 

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It's getting juicy


The ugly as fuck fat selfies no one really gives a fuck about other than the world having a laugh at them. What some do care about however are the women who took their verification selfie at Marine Corps Base Quantico, a gunner ranger at the Aberdeen Proving Grounds, - An ammunition storage bunker at Naval Weapons Station Earle in New Jersey.- The legislative offices at the Connecticut State Capitol building.- One of the headquarters buildings at Minot Air Force Base.- A maintenance site on the airfield at Eglin Air Force Base.- Alumni Hall at the US Naval Academy in Annapolis.- And the off-base housing complexes at nearly every single military base in the United States.

You know, secret Gov and military stuff. All the leaked photos have precise geo-data attached so this is now a national security concern. See tweet above for more info.

According to some AI info (may be incorrect) big lawsuits are coming:

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Tea also lied about saying they would delete verification photos so that's another detail for the lawyers:

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If anyone wants to help get the app kicked from the Apple store the report form is here. You can raise concerns over privacy violations that there are no safeguards to prevent men being falsely accused of rape or the women posting revenge porn on it:

And lastly, this fat bitch needs a shave

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Looks like the teaspill site has been down for a bit?
yeah. i wonder what happened to it. i know a bunch of users were scrambling to take down their photos so maybe that had something to do with it. I think it was a reddit post i saw where someone was explaining how to get their info and pics removed from the tea app and other sites.
 
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So these are the feminists who call men "incels" online? lmao
The women whose pics/info were revealed are feminists?

Hey, I know we're on a the most evil, racist website to have ever existed, but I first wanted to say that I appreciate your candor in your response. That being said, I don't care if someone calls someone else a "cad" anonymously on some app. I think you and I both know that. There are some serious, life-ruining allegations made on that app. Are some of them true? I'm sure plenty are. Are some of them false? I'd bet money on it. Which are which? We'll never know because the only proof needed is that you have access to a smartphone.


I'm all for free speech, but does attempted/successful life ruination count as free speech? I honestly don't know. I'd think it would fall under defamation, but I'm not an expert. If it is legal, then I have no sympathy for those who are hoisted by their own petards.

Thank you for your thoughtful response! And "cad" was shorthand for specifics that I assume were laid out there, without assuming everything was serious. I'm sure the statements there ran the gamut from "boohoo, he didn't like me" to "he's a predatory rapist," and everything in-between.

Ah, RLM=ReichLuftfartsMinisterium, who were in charge of their airforce. They had standard paints. Like RLM 76 which was a light blue.

As for camouflage, it helped when they were sitting still on the ground for example.

Around WW1 they also figured that some of the best kinds of camouflage were among animals like zebras.

So you had stuff like this:
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The purpose of the camouflage wasn’t to hide it but to break up the lines and make it harder to judge angle, speed and direction. Stuff that’s handy for ships as well as planes flying at 500 km/h.
See, that's not so hard to explain. A good conversationalist on the other side of the table would ask a few more questions out of genuine interest and curiosity. And if you are a good conversationalist and person you'll talk a bit more to answer the questions but also deftly segue to other topics instead of sperging, so you can actually get to know each other a bit...and you won't think she's dumb just because she doesn't immediately produce her Advanced Certificate in Ship Camouflage. It's dumb to expect a date will have a 1:1 set of interests as you do, and it's self-defeating to adopt snobbery about your own esoteric interests (which are not necessarily an indicator either of intelligence or fitness as a companion).

The comments here about how vapid and uninterested in the world women are are rich. Stop thinking women are braindead idiots who can't possibly understand your obsessive hobbies or follow along with your oh-so-advanced interests (lol), and stop thinking either that you must find your hotter, prettier mental doppelganger, or that those who don't already share your love of [whatever] have nothing to offer. That kind of thinking, hyper-specificity, and/ or ignorant sense of superiority is going to make you into a miserable person no one wants to be around.

They're not on the floor, I have a clean clothes hamper just like I have a dirty clothes hamper, and items from the former go to the latter with use. I'm not an animal.

But more importantly, say hello to Christina P. Bacon:

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[others slagging on her]
What's wrong with her, other than not trying to get a super-flattering picture for a random verification demand? She's got great big blue-green eyes, a really well-shaped mouth with full lips, good bone structure and symmetry, and appears to be HWP. She doesn't even seem to have piercings (which always seem to send people here into orbit). In a couple years she'll have gotten over the hair color, if that's your glitch. And when the camera isn't aimed up her nose, 90-10 it's a cute little squishy button-nose. Face-wise, you'd be lucky to get a glance.

I picked the towel up to see just what was going on
What the fuck, you picked up a towel on the floor in a bathroom?

Immediately I walked back into his bedroom and threw the piss towel in his face and screamed at him calling him a disgusting subhuman manchild,
For real? That's unhinged. If you were overly grossed out, just leave.

And some things you just don't want to know about. Should have used a bit of tact in that situation.
 
yeah. i wonder what happened to it. i know a bunch of users were scrambling to take down their photos so maybe that had something to do with it. I think it was a reddit post i saw where someone was explaining how to get their info and pics removed from the tea app and other sites.
I did archive the winners and losers several times over the past day or two because I knew it wasn't gonna last long.

What I need to know is who the fuck is this guy and why does he have so many different pictures on Tea?
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