Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
Hanlon's Razor but it's the incompetence of Jeets
So far the only people posted here as involved have been surprisingly not Indian, but that doesn't mean they didn't outsource it in some way.

Also:
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Could the app be sued in the basis of discrimination of sex? Obviously men aren’t a protected class and anything like this would probably be laughed out of a courtroom I’m more so thinking in terms of if an app/website can discriminate based on sex.
De jure, laws against discrimination (including the Civil Rights Act of 1964) apply to everyone equally. I think courts have learned that lesson, especially with the current administration.

The app would 100% be legal if it stuck to its purpose of being a safety app. Discrimination is allowed if there's a legitimate reason; that's why we can have women-only sports and gyms and other places--safety and practicality. The problem is that "being a vapid gossip app" is not a legitimate reason, no matter how you dressi t up.
This isn't quite accurate about the federal civil rights acts. They didn't outlaw all single sex spaces. They only applied to specifically very important issues like housing and employment. They generally left smaller petty issues like a social media app to have a little more freedom in having single sex spaces.

Like idk if an app is considered a "place of public accommodation".

Now state laws at times were a lot more aggressive than federal laws and guys could totally sue in some state courts around the country.
 
The Tea app seems to have been vibe coded and the infamous hacker known as 4chan has compromised the public KYC buckets
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Link died :oops: (as in, in the last hour)

They hit a limit, other 13k at map 2
 
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Wow, are the carolinas just that boring, or is there just a fuckload of women there?
It's probably just where they were initially advertising/expanding to for whatever reason. This is only up through February 2024, I think it's more nationally distributed now.
They hit a limit, other 13k at map 2
This map is complete bullshit, the UUIDs don't match up and the data is laughable. I'm pretty sure they just picked at random from a list of towns and cities in the US, including tiny towns with 15 people in the middle of Alaska.

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Any coder bros want to set up an anonymous male-only website where we can post how many abortions a female has had?

I'm here to hate women with you guys, I'm happy when there's a lightning rod on the topic like this.

Anyone who is against me is basically demonic. Vote me autistic, I don't care.

Women should have dog collars that holographically display the amount of abortions they have.
 
Ain't no way I'm reading 40 pages of gender conflict from where I left off, just to get the pertinent facts. But to summarise:

On topic:

  • Tea is an app ostensibly to protect women's safety, in reality low-key gossip about men they dated, for mostly ugly women
  • women only
  • someone on 4-chan discovers an unsecured bucket of selfies and ID's of people trying to sign up, this includes men, floors & ceilings as well as a few men posing as women
  • according to Tea this verification data should not exist
  • company announces that the leaked data is 2023 and prior, current data is secure and they secured the old data
  • someone maps the location data onto a map of USA (and USA only as other countries appear to not be available)
  • someone points out that data is for non-metropolitan users only
  • theory is that metropolitan areas all have their own buckets, which must be secure at this point
  • a few purported screenshots of conversations from the app (nothing dire or illegal so far)
  • Teaspill goes up, an app that uses the leaked data by presenting two random images from the leak and asking users to rate which one they prefer. App offers a top 50 and bottom 50 leaderboard
  • App quickly gets brigaded to invert the expected results for leader boards then goes down
Off-topic:

  • Hoes mad
  • Incels seethe
  • Lil Drip is most popular (purportedly) female user of the forum and both categories of users want her back (she quit in frustration with the 'misogyny' pervading the thread and KF in general)

Did I miss anything? If so please add.
 
Anyone who is against me is basically demonic. Vote me autistic, I don't care.

Women should have dog collars that holographically display the amount of abortions they have.
I think that the funny stuff here is these people are too incapable of measuring the character of their partners, are extremely jaded about partners, or are otherwise living life as sad people that would actually use this app. I'm not sure recreating it is nearly as funny as just enjoying what organically occurs.
 
I think that the funny stuff here is these people are too incapable of measuring the character of their partners, are extremely jaded about partners, or are otherwise living life as sad people that would actually use this app. I'm not sure recreating it is nearly as funny as just enjoying what organically occurs.
Why hold shit in your hand?
 
  • someone maps the location data onto a map of USA (and USA only as other countries appear to not be available)
  • someone points out that data is for non-metropolitan users only
  • theory is that metropolitan areas all have their own buckets, which must be secure at this point
That map was fake, there is almost zero exif data in the dump. If you actually map it based on zip codes on ID cards you get my map, which includes expected metro areas with a heavier concentration around the Carolinas where they first launched. The user verification data (users/ and attachments/) only goes up through February 2024 (when they presumably switched the method), while the chats/ goes all the way through June 2025.
 
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