But if I think about it, I feel like the mom is worse. The dad comes off as woefully immature but the mother seems just horribly vindictive.
Watching the Disney Land video, the dad seems legitimately disappointed that they decided not to being Cody (I'm not legitimizing his abuse with this, just that he seems to have a conscience somewhere deep down). But the mother doesn't even want to give Cody the time of day and thinks that ostracizing him will somehow fix him. You can see this attitude in other videos where she yells "you're the only one in this family that can't take a joke."