I’ve been more content with myself than I ever was after I got top surgery, I truly am. My friend invited me for a pool day at his place. I had never taken off my shirt in front of other people since my surgery which was…over 2 years ago as of July11. He is also trans yet the way his family is along with what he has already told me, they give off mixed signals
I didn’t have a swim shirt so I didn’t have much of a choice so I hesitantly said fuck it, there’s at least no one else around to see
I did consider keyhole but I thought my breasts were too big, even for their small size, esp my nipple already needed resizing and my doctor said if I’d do that, nipple grafts were a whole separate thing, cost, procedure, whatever
Anyway, even though I’m glad my scars aren’t like super eye-catching, they’re still lines that are just there across my chest. It’s ironic that a I don’t even feel comfortable around another trans person. I think most of the problem is his family. They’re more accepting than my parents ever were/are but they still don’t completely understand and it scares me because I realised I hope I don’t come up in any of their casual convos with the people in their life. Like “oh, [friend’s name] has a trans friend.”
I’m stealth, well try to be, and I always say I got gyno instead but that can only convince so many people because I’m pre-T. But I also have a whole story behind that too. If you guys are like want a tip, I’ve been saying I have wacky hormonal deficiencies and connect that to my “gyno” when need be
But yea, I feel I made a huge mistake revealing that. Even before, after getting top surgery I still was embarrassed to go shirtless even though I technically could then. Because I knew people would see and I don’t want judging or hate or negative assumptions before people even meet me personally, esp this horrible time in society.
But now I’m about to never go shirtless again. I’m starting to dislike my scars. Not because the doctor did poorly, they did a clean job, but well like the title says.
I wish it doesn’t feel like a burden to live in the shadows