So I took my parents to court... (
self.raisedbynarcissists)
0/10, would not recommend. I filed a restraining order, and the system is, unfortunately, rigged against you. Despite having tons of evidence that the abuse occurred, it was dismissed because the most recent incident wasn't "legally classified as abuse." The judge literally told me to "Move on." When I've been trying to, but my mother keeps harassing me via email, despite my continued requests for her to leave me alone.
He also claimed, according to their lawyer's statements about the emails, that "It doesn't sound like they're abusive." and that I didn't have to respond to them. I'm glad to see that he understands what lovebombing is and was clearly trauma-informed. Despite everything I've said, I'm proud of myself for doing it, even if it wasn't granted.
I told my mother that if she didn't stop harassing me, I would file civil action. I was firm with my boundaries, and now they know that I won't hesitate to take action if things escalate further. They also didn't show up. My advocate claimed this was illegal, but the judge allowed it because their lawyer claimed my case didn't qualify. It showcased their cowardice, and I'm guessing that they didn't want to lie under oath.
I'm trying my best to take the L and move on. It really sucks, and I wish more legal assistance was given to people like us. Hopefully, the system will catch up one day. Until then, I'm gonna continue blaring punk rock and fighting for other victims of abuse. I encourage you all to do the same, because things won't change if narcissists have anything to say about it