Stupid mobile paste.
Go right on ahead, friend.
Here goes then:
"My name is [deleted] . I used to be a very good friend to Danya Lancaster. I met Danya around 2012/2013. I attended many doll meets and helped host them at her home. My friendship ended with Danya about a year or so later.
From my understanding, after leaving the bjd hobby, Danya's behaviour has been unsavory and detrimental to many people involved in the Northern California doll community, as well as International through her Echowigs business dealings or bjd trades/transactions. She has been an absolute nightmare to those who are much more vulnerable to her harassment. I will try to keep things short and concise, since I know Danya on a personal level. This is about her actions in the community, not outside of that.
I was asked to come forth with my experiences with Danya Lancaster. I do not have screen caps, as I was physically with her and her abhorrent behaviour. I witnessed, in person, her vehement retaliation to opposition, and was the victim of her harassment.
Danya likes to be in control, and have the attention on her and only her. She intimidates and bullies other people she doesn't like, or to make sure they are on her side. She will have multiple accounts to snoop on you, or have other people snoop on you. Then post slanderous information to her blog, or annonymously to True Bjd Confessions. She will incite a fight online, because that is how she hurts people. She will grab onto any information from you, that she had someone snoop for, and then drag it into an online forum. Mostly anonymous, on True Bjd Confessions or some similar website/blog. She will even go as far as digging up old issues, or making something up, just to hurt someone.
I know this, because I was there, watching her pitch these fights. I have no doubt in my mind it was because of her that La Esperanza closed shop. In fact, I've seen it in action. I was there when she got pissy about wig patterns and that she taught this other owner how to make wigs. She did not teach anyone anything, except me. I was her helper. I know how she makes her wigs, and it's not any different or more special than that of any other person's fuax fur wigs. Yes she has her own cut and style preferences, and has her own designs...but the over all factor is that she is no more better or less than anyone elses work. She was always super competitive towards La Esperanza, and their counterparts. Almost aggressive, really. I remember one time I went up to congratulate the girls on getting their booth and telling them I was so happy to see them. (because they had left our group and I didn't get a chance to talk to them, because of all the flak that they got from Danya)
I remember shyly telling them that I hoped that they didn't think poorly of me, because I am friends with Danya. They told me that they loved my doll and that I should not be worried about the past drama. We've been friendly since. Danya didn't seem to like that, but I am not the type to be swayed one way or the other on here-say.
I usually sat with Danya and helping with her products. Mostly taking photos, working on her photos, her logo and giving my advice towards her work. I witnessed first hand how she acts online towards people. She will nag, and nag until she gets what she wants out of you and hold your friendship as a bartering tool. She'll flat out threaten friendship as well. She will literally attack users who give negative reviews from sales. Not directly, but on her personal sites, bjd forums, blogs, and of course, Bjd Confession blogs. If she knows your name, she'll drop it or post it about. Of course, this will always come back to her, and then she will cry that she is being bullied for defending herself. That she was angry at the time. People buy it, and she does it again and again.
So, most people do not leave negative reviews, and I was told that several times when I've attempted to defend Danya. Turns out, they were right in their actions, and that she had hurt them pretty badly. These people got the backlash from "Confession Wars", and Danya would always say "They deserved it." As if it was their fault.
She is very giving, and comes off as incredibly friendly. So you don't realize what she's doing to you. She lords over certain meetup groups, and people tend to be very divided, and weary of what to say or not to say...because Danya would fire off on them in private or blast them on the internet. She never says anything in person, though.
The last straw with her, was a trip out to [deleted], to help another friend to move. We were already parting ways, but I was needed to help move. Danya told me she was picking me up last minute, so I agreed to go. She hardly spoke to me, and to be honest, it was me that led up to her big blowout. It was covered by her insistence to bully another person in the bjd hobby. I will not mention her, because she has serious issues from that ordeal.
Danya insisted repetitively to use phones, and refused to listen to the advice to not get involved and to not post anything to Bjd confessions about this particular person. I am very certain that everyone who gets into "anonymous" confession wars, are people that know each other. I've seen it happen in front of my eyes.
Danya incited a huge fight that made everyone upset, and it took away from our time to actually get things done. She had succeeded in getting once friends, fighting with each other. I decided to stay the night with my friends at their house, mostly because I didn't want to get caught in any after burn from Danya. She wouldn't talk to me anyways. The next day that confession war was still going on, no doubt spurred on by Danya.
We were supposed to leave around 2pm I think. Danya suddenly shifted from anti social, to aggressive, and I thought this had to do with the bjd war that she had started. We had finally gotten things to simmer down, when she suddenly just marched out of the house. She had rudely said something to effect of 'move/GO', but I can't remember. I have never been the type of person to let people dictate what I can and cannot do, and she knew how I was from the first day I showed up to her meet and when we became friends. This was why we were having a fallout. I wouldn't let her push me around, intimidate me, or try to dictate who I spoke to in the hobby. So, I naturally ignored her tantrum, and can't remember details.
She had suddenly drove off, and left me stranded in [deleted]. Because she didn't get her way. My friends had to drive me home, and loose that time and the rental truck they sorely needed, so I could go home. Danya knew I had an appointment the next day, and it was an important one for psychiatric treatment.
I had a mental breakdown, because she threw the most childish tantrum, over people in this hobby. Because she didn't like that people weren't agreeing with her. She wasn't getting her way.
I was so incredibly angry, to the point I locked myself in my friend's bathroom because I hit a very aggressive level and didn't want to hurt my friends. Unlike Danya, I care about the people I call my friends. I care more than gossip, rumors, and Bjd Confession Wars.
After that, I tried to stay with the hobby, keeping contact, and Danya had pretty much left after attacking everyone on their facebook profiles, tumblr, text messages and emails.
I'd like to remind you, this was over A HOBBY. This happened before I came into the group to another person. This was only the second time Danya had done something like this. People weren't sure what to do, because it split them apart the last time, and then it got split up again.
I ended up leaving the hobby, when Danya returned and people decided to give her a chance. I don't blame them for being the better person. They didn't know the whole story and of only what Danya said. I flat out said at my first and last doll meet, that she is not a friend. Friends don't log into your account and read archived messages to find out if they're being talked about, nor do they strand each other in strange places because they are mad at each other.
I will not participate in a group, or associate with anyone that associates with Danya. I had not spoken to anyone for about 4 years.
I remind you, this was over A DOLL HOBBY.
I wasn't in the loop of what has happened since, but this is how she treated me. From the sounds of it, she has done the same in varying degrees to other people. She is unyielding in her malice, threatening with slandering good people's businesses, and forcing her followers to attack and bully individuals that stand up to her.
She ruined my friendships with people OVER A HOBBY.
So that is what happened a few years ago. That is why I don't go to meets or talk to people. Most of my other hobbies had been disrupted because of her as well. Since most of us in Nor Cal always hung out with each other at cosplay events, or different gatherings. She's made it impossible and uncomfortable to be in the hobby, and having mutual friends is difficult, because she will nag them about me or other people. Just so she can start a fight.
This is more than just "bad behaviour". It's harassment and abuse. She's not only damaged this hobby, but my life with friends inside and outside of this hobby. It needs to be stopped. "
And that was sent in to a designated person who stands resin hearts. They brought that and other claims to the chairman of that convention.
