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This child was definitely left behind: a troon extols the virtues of HRT as if it is some sort of scientific seductress turning the cells that pilot his meat-mech into mindless thralls. And they say transphobes wouldn't pass 6th grade biology!
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"Hon"esty is the best policy: in a rare moment of actual truthfulness, a transbian (i.e., a heterosexual male) admits that homeboy just wants some fuckin' pussy, and would ideally like to get it from a woman willing to have sex with another woman in front of him for his own gratification. He states that he fears dying a virgin, but for some reason I think even unicorns would find this "maiden" far too soiled to make an appearance despite being untouched.Estrogen: gaslighting your body that you have ovaries
And it works! Your cells don’t know the difference. How could they? Want a magic wand that makes every cell of your body believe you’re a woman going forward? Congrats, it’s called HRT. All that’s left is leftover structural changes your confused body doesn’t know how to do anything about on its own.
*I’m not a biologist don’t at me lol
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Frumpy freakazoid with a fetish for FGM gemandrailfan94 wants to know how to make his horrible genitals smell less horrible. For those less acquainted with our buddy Mr. Benson, please review the post I made back in May where we explore at length what the hell is wrong with him, because a lot of it involves imagining himself as a tortured Victorian child.I feel "sexual orientation homelessness" and I struggle to find dating advice let alone a partner.
I am a trans woman in almost every regard, I am removing my body hair, on HRT, expression is feminine, female name, she/her pronouns, etc.
But sexually, I am a straight man. I would like to find a cis female partner (preferably someone who wants threesomes with another woman) and I would probably call it just a "relationship" instead of a "lesbian relationship". I would do T4T as a one-off thing but I'd like to be married to someone I can have PIV intercourse with.
I feel sexual orientation homelessness because nobody in the cis or trans communities has offered advice, and I've looked for threads but never got an answer. I would date a BTQ+ woman or feminine non-binary AFAB because straight women and lesbians are unlikely to date me.
In fact, I am not going to beat around the bush; I just wanna get some pussy. But I don't want to sound like Johnny Bravo or an objectifying dude-bro. If a woman rejects me I walk away and don't chat anymore. Rather, I'm looking for advice so I don't spend the rest of my life alone and die a virgin.
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Nothing infuriates troons more than the concept that female subjugation is real, which is what lights a fire under this guy's ass when people suggest to him the monstrously abusive concept of having female friends. The nerve of some people, don't they know all women have a psychic mind link to J.K. Rowling and that each one acts as a sleeper agent to put innocent transgender siscon puppygirls into corn threshers at a moment's notice?How to reduce crotch smell?
So I’ve been on HRT for about two years, and in less than month, I’ll be having my long awaited orchiectomy.
Of all the changes HRT has given me, the most prominent is that my crotch/perineum smells different and way worse than before. I shower regularly and keep the hair down there trimmed, and that helps, but what are other ways it could be reduced further?
Any products I could buy? Any techniques to follow?
Thanks
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A pooner on PrEP preens about how her promiscuity purportedly puts her in proper place with poofs. The homophobia rampant among troons 'n' poons is always galling, and yet they get away with it more than any other demographic! Baffling.I'm so tired of people acting like cis women can't be oppressors
It's always "trans women should find cis woman friends" this and "cis women are your sisters" that, people act like cis women can either be transphobes who make transphobia their whole personality or trans people's number one allies with no in-between, while there are several degrees to transphobia. And don't let me get started on the "cis lesbians are the most trans accepting group of cis people" stuff, like they aren't that just because the bar for cis people is in hell.
I even had people seriously argue that women cannot be oppressors, like, hello? It's not like the only people who supported slavery in the US, or the Apartheid in South Africa, were men. The fact that people who are part of an oppressed group can also be oppressors at the same time is like intersectionality 101.
Sorry if I've rambled a bit, but it really gets annoying sometimes.
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In preparation of coming out to his young son behind his mother's back, a tranny has some concerns that the son may begin to take after him and also start expressing discomfort around his birth sex. Still, he feels this conversation must be had as he is starting to look more soy than the other boys - and besides, he's got "no doubts" that the mother he splits custody with will surely be okay with it!Does anyone else feel... oddly gender affirmed by being on PrEP?!
Just got my PrEP prescription and took my first two pills. I've been hooking up with people a lot more often since starting T two months ago and figured going on it would be a good idea. My dr also prescribed me DoxyPEP to take as needed, which I wasn't going to ask about but she offered it so I figured I may as well get it as well.
It feels kind of incredibly gender affirming to be on PrEP and I wonder if anyone else feels the same way? I saw a dude on here a while ago post about how he felt getting HIV would make him feel affirmed in his gender/sexuality, which, ehhhhhhh not a great take lol, but being affirmed by taking PrEP is something I can get behind haha.
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Independent thought alarm: a TiF is stewing furiously over the ways that TiMs control language and the part they play in the greater patriarchy, only for handmaidens in the comments to immediately attempt to bring her to heel lest any Lilithian overlords overhear to the point that the mods of r/FTMventing removed the post entirely.How to come out to my child, all advice is welcome!
Hello friends!
I am a 29yo trans woman living in a blue city in the southern US. I have spent the last year transitioning and am finally in a space of starting to come out to my wider familial group apart from my partner and siblings. The experience has so far been wonderfully supportive, caring and helpful. The people in my life are truly awesome and in such a tumultuous time for our country it is wonderful to feel such support.
However, I find myself running into a bit of a mental wall here and I am hoping for some experience, advice, or just someone to help talk this through with.
I have a elementary school age (AMAB) child and am having a very hard time figuring out how to come out to them. We have had several discussions in the last few months about gender and identity, and they feel very firmly about who they are and what their standing is in life. Certainly none of the answers I would have given at that same age. The issue is compounded in my mind due to the fact that I have split custody with their mother. Their mother and I get along extremely well and spend a consistent amount of time together, I want to figure out how to talk to our child before I come out to their mother. I have no doubts that mom will be supportive, open, and kind during this time.
The wall comes in due to a fairly simple fear, my child loves to do what their parents are doing.
Am I talking about horror movies? You know that's what dinner time conversation will be that night.
Has she been learning something new in school? They're an immediate expert!
Have I been diving into a fun new video game? They absolutely want a turn with the controller.
I fear that in coming out to my child it might spark something in them that says "Oh hey, since parent is doing that, I want to do it to."
I really want to be cautious, and do right by my child but I also know I can't continue lying to my child (it's starting to be excessively obvious that there's something different about me compared to other 'dads' that they see). I'm hoping that you fine folks might be able to help provide some guidance, assistance, or words of encouragement perhaps. I'm struggling with this pretty hard and I could really use some help here.
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A deceptive man who wants to trick men into sex asks other deceptive men if he's in the wrong after a female friend questions the integrity of his desires. You won't believe what happens next!Trans women aren't female, I am trans female
I know it sounds mean. But I feel angry. I feel like I am suffering and being suffocated out of a space to talk about it. I am legally female and assigned female at birth. I am also intersex, but I still fall very much on the female side of the spectrum. Lots of people with my specific intersex condition consider themselves female anyways. There are so many struggles specific to being female that you will not experience just by transitioning to a woman. The overlooked pain of PCOS, or even just monthly periods. We're told to suck it up and that our bodies are gross and less hygienic anyways. Medical research just isn't calibrated to my biology. Not even fucking toothpaste. And I genuinely have to worry about unwanted pregnancy. Or even worse, the surveillance of unencrypted data on period trackers. Being female means you literally have to choose between trying to know when your period will come or getting charged for an abortion you didn't have because you tracker showed you missed a month. I feel the specifically biological female oppression is ignored so much. I just recently had a trans woman tell me that I am not a trans female, she is a real trans female. So now its like my female oppression is undermined by default but then even more now because I'm trans?
I feel like I'm trying to reconcile with myself and understand the specific things that cause me pain and there just isn't the space for it.
It feels like its just rubbing male privilege in my face. Cause male oppression isn't a thing, so trans women don't care to hold onto the label of male so they don't understand why a trans man might need the word female. I want acknowledgement of my female oppression to not impede me being recognised as a man. But it seems this trans woman wasn't taking that into consideration.
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Friend thinks me wanting to go stealth is deceptive to people
And I’m like in like 4 years I get a full depth vaginoplasty and she’s like it’s lying and I’m like but like even without bottom surgery still it doesn’t effect most people and she’s like what if a guy is into you. Is it lying? I don’t think it is…
[–]greyw0lv
Its so deceptive!! What if some man from across the bar looks at you and wants you to produce his babies. It would be terrible. /sneed
Dress how you want, act how you want. Fuck what those cisies want.
[–]im-ba
It's not lying. Trans women are women, so automatically she's saying that she doesn't believe that. Sounds like a good candidate for an ex friend to me
[–]Glittering_Star8271
But how will people discriminate against you if they don't know you're trans!?!? Of course it's lying—how are transphobic straight men supposed to feel ashamed for being into you if they don't know you're trans!?!? Those poor poor transphobic het men—
[–]Orcawhale2320
Ha, your friend is full of shit. But tbh this is a disappointingly common perspective among cis people. My wife actually used to think like this. Time around me and seeing the reality of my existence has changed her mind.
That said, you can go about your entire truthful existence as a woman without once lying by just simply not saying "I'm trans".
For those more personal questions:
"I was born without a uterus or ovaries."
"I have a hormone imbalance, so I need to take regular medication."
"I changed my name because the old one didn't feel right."
"My voice was lower because of the hormone issue, I've taken some classes to make it sound more like how I want."
The label of transgender carries a lot more weight than the reality of being so does.
[–]ApocDream
Is a white passing mixed race woman being deceptive by not openly advertising she's mixed.
I mean, what if a racist happens to be into her? Is she lying?
[–]SDD1988
Even if it's deceptive, why would that be a bad thing?
Has your friend ever given a man a fake phone number or lied about availability to protect herself?
Sometimes you have to be deceptive to protect yourself.
Maybe going stealth is just what you have to do to protect yourself.
Safety first.
[–]sabihope
What if a woman has boob augmentation or a nose job? Is she lying?
[–]Suchega_Uber
You don't have a friend, you have a bigot that uses you as a smokescreen from criticism.
[–]Rogers1977
"What if a guy is into you?"
Sounds like she sees you as competition and you're winning. Which is, like... gender affirming, I guess?
Don't let her tear you down with dumb comments like that.
[–]NocturneSapphire
Your friend is being transphobic.
Unless they also think a person with alopecia wearing a wig is lying?
What about a person with less-than-perfect eyesight wearing contacts?
Or a bi person only dating the opposite gender because their family is homophobic?
It's not lying when you hide a part of yourself from others in order to protect yourself from them.
Its so deceptive!! What if some man from across the bar looks at you and wants you to produce his babies. It would be terrible. /sneed
Dress how you want, act how you want. Fuck what those cisies want.
got kicked out a bar in georgia for exactly that visiting my mother last year. the cís girls bartending had known my family & how my mother had a trans daughter. but all the guys didnt know and kept buying me drinks. that only lasted so long before those girls conspired against me & i was kicked out for pissing all over their womens bathroom ceiling. i never used their single locked occupant womens room as im germaphobic, but that’s probably something they read on facebook of ppl saying we do.
oh well, im still the fun one & they still suck.
[–]im-ba
It's not lying. Trans women are women, so automatically she's saying that she doesn't believe that. Sounds like a good candidate for an ex friend to me
Probably
This is a horrible take. Yes trans women are women, but most importantly we are TRANS women, women who had the unfortunate (or fortunate depending on how you look at it) experience of living a portion of their as gender that didn’t align with them. I think if you’re going to cultivate an honest real relationship with anyone you need to be honest with them other wise well we’ve all read the tell tale heart. Also even if by some chance you’re able to carry out the relationship guilt free while withholding a pretty significant piece of who you were, if somehow they find out even if they’re not transphobic they could feel betrayed, deceived, and call into question your entire character, I think that the best case scenario that is realistically possible. Worst case they’re enraged because they do harbor transphobia inside themselves. Do I think every person needs to be privy to all the parts of your past? Absolutely not, but in terms of a romantic relationship or even platonic on an intimate level, not sharing a pretty fucking important part of who you are today robs them of the opportunity to truly love you, creates space for hurt for yourself and the other person involved, and also creates the possibility of violence. And I don’t think someone potentially thinking critically about whether or not withholding information from people about yourself when trying to cultivate relationships is grounds to remove them from your life, in fact I think they’re probably someone you should cherish in your life because they won’t allow you to get lost in an echo chamber.
Ma'am, line breaks are your friend
Also quit stuffing paragraphs I didn't say in my mouth
I think what you're describing is a fine way to go about life, generally speaking I tell most people I regularly interact with that I'm trans. I'm definitely telling anyone I'm really close to. That's a personal choice.
That said, we don't owe anyone that info. We especially don't owe that information on threat of violence or hurting someone's feelings. It's not about other people. It's about you. Your trans-ness will always be your business to handle how that info goes around.
She's being told that getting a vaginoplasty is lying. Seriously, stop. Her friend is being transphobic and should be told as much. You're allowed to get a gender affirming surgery without being called a liar.
No.
Ew
Maam dont speak for all trans woman bc ive always lived as a woman at the end of the day im a Woman that comes from a trans experience its so tired when one trans woman try to speak for us all as if were a monolith you just said a whole bunch of nothing its ok you feel that way about YOU but lets try to only speak for ourselves trans woman are woman period there is nothing after
You need to churn through that transphobia that you’re spreading here.
This is not relevant for the majority of OPs interactions in public or even first, second, third dates etc. I wouldn't say your take is horrible but its pretty tone deaf. I don't think OP is referring to being stealth throughout some 20 year marriage lol. Divulging intimate details about your gender is always at your discretion and no one elses. And even if she stayed stealth through a marriage or something. How is that any of your business?
And MOST importantly, trans women are women, full stop.
i bet u think bi ppl have to tell their partner they're bi
That felt pretty gross to read, to be totally honest. It's not like they're going to drop their pants and shock somebody with a trouser snake, all that's gone. 4 years is a pretty long time when it comes to development.Most of what you said seems to gloss over all of the details here.
I've got plenty of trauma I could share that might warn a person about my personal issues. I could describe my tools of survival that I've learned to use for the benefit of myself and my partners. Am I going to start with that? Hells no. They get to find out how affectionate and silly I am before finding about grief, kinks, and trauma.
Once I'm at a comfortable point where "transitioning" has become "transitioned", I'm likely not going to say a damn thing unless I have to.
Okay I'll do it when infertile women and women with menopause tell everyone they know about it before making friends or getting into relationships
[–]Glittering_Star8271
But how will people discriminate against you if they don't know you're trans!?!? Of course it's lying—how are transphobic straight men supposed to feel ashamed for being into you if they don't know you're trans!?!? Those poor poor transphobic het men—
[–]Orcawhale2320
Ha, your friend is full of shit. But tbh this is a disappointingly common perspective among cis people. My wife actually used to think like this. Time around me and seeing the reality of my existence has changed her mind.
That said, you can go about your entire truthful existence as a woman without once lying by just simply not saying "I'm trans".
For those more personal questions:
"I was born without a uterus or ovaries."
"I have a hormone imbalance, so I need to take regular medication."
"I changed my name because the old one didn't feel right."
"My voice was lower because of the hormone issue, I've taken some classes to make it sound more like how I want."
The label of transgender carries a lot more weight than the reality of being so does.
I'm currently stealth at work, and have considered using some similar truthful statements if anyone ever asked me anything particularly about my womanhood.
Have similar answers prepared just in case. Cause I fucking need this job for insurance to cover my upcoming bottom surgery and can't afford anything going awry to make the job either unsafe or intolerable.
So far no one has asked anything too, but good to be ready.
These are all amazingly truthful, but also safely guard one's trans status from disclosure. And definitely stealing some of these just in case.
[–]ApocDream
Is a white passing mixed race woman being deceptive by not openly advertising she's mixed.
I mean, what if a racist happens to be into her? Is she lying?
[–]SDD1988
Even if it's deceptive, why would that be a bad thing?
Has your friend ever given a man a fake phone number or lied about availability to protect herself?
Sometimes you have to be deceptive to protect yourself.
Maybe going stealth is just what you have to do to protect yourself.
Safety first.
[–]sabihope
What if a woman has boob augmentation or a nose job? Is she lying?
[–]Suchega_Uber
You don't have a friend, you have a bigot that uses you as a smokescreen from criticism.
[–]Rogers1977
"What if a guy is into you?"
Sounds like she sees you as competition and you're winning. Which is, like... gender affirming, I guess?
[–]NocturneSapphire
Your friend is being transphobic.
Unless they also think a person with alopecia wearing a wig is lying?
What about a person with less-than-perfect eyesight wearing contacts?
Or a bi person only dating the opposite gender because their family is homophobic?
It's not lying when you hide a part of yourself from others in order to protect yourself from them.






















