Hi everyone.
I hope you're all doing well tonight. I'm making this thread to try to provide some clarity to some of you about some things that happened quietly recently so I can keep all of you informed.
/u/Loenth has taken her leave from the community and we will miss her dearly. Her dedication to the community and immense contributions are more than we can ever thank her for. There were some extenuating circumstances surrounding this and it was a very difficult topic for the mod team to discuss. I'd like to share some of that with you here.
Our friend Shin (
/u/meldragon) came out to some personal friends as having fallen out of love for Rem and started to have feelings for her daughteru, Miki.
The mod team felt this was an awful action. She left her wife for their own adopted child and such a thing has to be emotionally scarring for both of them. A daughter being advanced on by a parent and a spouse left behind.
However, every situation has its details and those things can't always be ignored. Shin has struggled through many personal problems and came to me about relationship troubles many times in the past and I did my best to advise her.
Deliberating over that decision took quite a bit of time. There were advocates for no punishment, advocates for a permanent ban, and those in between. We settled on a temporary ban. If Shin had waited on her feelings longer this situation would never have happened. We are giving her a month off, roughly the same amount of time she needed to wait to discover what was really going on with her feelings.
What she did we consider generally unacceptable; however, it was a first for us. Never had we seen someone so repentant and so sorry for what they had done. We agreed on a one month ban.
/u/Loenth felt that her opinion on the matter wasn't heard on the mod team and felt that the community in general did not share her views on how serious the community should be, and thusly chose to leave the community. We respect her choice and her views and we want all of you to consider why she said what she did and took the actions she did.
In summary:
- /u/meldragon (Shin) is banned for one month to give her time to think about her relationships.
- /u/Loenth has left the community indefinitely, but she is welcome back if she ever chooses to return.
We encourage all of you to think carefully about your relationships so that such a thing does not happen again in the future. We will not be so lenient in the times to come. Be careful and thoughtful in who you adopt and who you declare is your waifu.
Where do we go from here? The remainder of the mod team do not honestly feel that the community has changed significantly to become less serious. We still intend to promote the thoughtful, dedicated, and loving community we always have. That will not change. We will miss those who have left, but we will carry on the way we always have.
Much love to all of you, thank you for reading.