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Wow, my dead mom was a prostitute? Damn.
Would make a good story wouldn't it?

Be careful not to over analyze what's being said here. While it's true, it's also way more complex than this. It's easy to get lost in the details and miss the big picture. If it's not a first person story with an internal monologue most, if not all of this will be lost. "Yea, I'm alright" is about the most public grieving a man of that era would display.
 
I know it fits for British attitude, so it makes sense.
 
This is kind of why my original idea was childbed fever since c-sections are more complicated.
Just a bit of dating so you can make your timeline right.
- first successful (ie both mum and baby lived ) c section was about 1820 ish and was actually done by a woman (James Barry, who disguised herself as a man.)
-ether as an anaesthesia was introduced about 1846. Queen Victoria used chloroform which was very new for at least one of her births.
-jospeh lister introduced the practice of carbolic acid disinfection in 1867.
-later, 1880 ish, they figured out how to safety suture the uterus and tissues and that also improved survival rates.
C section in that timewas rare though it did happen, as it was effectively a death sentence for the mother. They were actually reported in the papers (if it bleeds it leads isn’t a new concept.) you could maybe have that as a plot point? A clipping from the paper.
Some woman should ask another question.
What’s the nicest thing a woman could do for you?
 
What’s the nicest thing a woman could do for you?
The nicest thing a woman can do is turn a man's brain off. Getting lost in a woman's embrace completely resets a man's brain. That kind of affection lifts a weight off their shoulders.

If you mean nicest thing they can do outside of that. It really depends, the obvious stuff like cook a good meal or gift something for a hobby. But it's the small things that mean the most. When you fall asleep and wake up with a blanket over you. Where she's been "motherly" and got your back is always really touching.
 
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The reason is simple. 80% of why men cheat on their GF or wife is because the other girl does anal. or any other sort of weird fetish you're not willing to do. That is also why if you are a gross fat woman they will see you as just an object to satiate their fetishes while dedicating their relationship efforts on their actual partner. Next question.
Informative murder porn and it's consequences have been a disaster for the human race. No, not every man is Chris Watts. Your husband will not murder you and your children because your three year old threw a chicken nugget at him.
 
Informative murder porn and it's consequences have been a disaster for the human race. No, not every man is Chris Watts. Your husband will not murder you and your children because your three year old threw a chicken nugget at him.
chris watts is a fucking sicko though
 
Just a bit of dating so you can make your timeline right.
- first successful (ie both mum and baby lived ) c section was about 1820 ish and was actually done by a woman (James Barry, who disguised herself as a man.)
-ether as an anaesthesia was introduced about 1846. Queen Victoria used chloroform which was very new for at least one of her births.
-jospeh lister introduced the practice of carbolic acid disinfection in 1867.
-later, 1880 ish, they figured out how to safety suture the uterus and tissues and that also improved survival rates.
C section in that timewas rare though it did happen, as it was effectively a death sentence for the mother. They were actually reported in the papers (if it bleeds it leads isn’t a new concept.) you could maybe have that as a plot point? A clipping from the paper.

What’s the nicest thing a woman could do for you?
Not pepperspray me
 
Alright men, favorite Disney Princess (TM) and why? As a reminder, this is the lineup:
Snow White, Cinderella, Aurora, Ariel, Belle, Jasmine, Pocahontas, Mulan, Tiana, Rapunzel, Merida, Moana, and Raya.

If you want to answer a girl not on the list, you have to make a really convincing argument.
The only Disney movie I had as a kid was Atlantis so Kida by default, tbf I didn't even realise that was Disney until I checked just now. Semi-related but I still remember the year (2011) Chel from Road to El Dorado went from annoying to hot, she will always be my GOAT.
 
That's solved by just not reading the thread. The real issue with the thread is that while the woman-hate thread has an explicit subtitle not to reference Kiwifarms users or threads, the women aren't held to this standard. In fact, they frequently directly quote posters and send shrew patrols to threads to shit them up. A prime example is the news article thread about the food delivery woman who entered the guy's house and posted a nude video of him on TikTok or something. Saloon seamstresses deliberately planned a false narrative where he was actually guilty of exposing himself to her, and entered the thread together to try to push it. Null is currently in his "married Lowtax" arc, so we can't expect this to be fixed.
So its basically /r/shitredditsays except they dont like trannies
 
Just a bit of dating so you can make your timeline right.
- first successful (ie both mum and baby lived ) c section was about 1820 ish and was actually done by a woman (James Barry, who disguised herself as a man.)
-ether as an anaesthesia was introduced about 1846. Queen Victoria used chloroform which was very new for at least one of her births.
-jospeh lister introduced the practice of carbolic acid disinfection in 1867.
-later, 1880 ish, they figured out how to safety suture the uterus and tissues and that also improved survival rates.
C section in that timewas rare though it did happen, as it was effectively a death sentence for the mother. They were actually reported in the papers (if it bleeds it leads isn’t a new concept.) you could maybe have that as a plot point? A clipping from the paper.
I went down a rabbit hole and looked up the list of women throughout history who have died in childbirth. I even saw mentions of c-sections happening in the 1600s, which was crazy to think about.
 
Alright men, favorite Disney Princess (TM) and why?
If you want to answer a girl not on the list, you have to make a really convincing argument.
I've never been able to enjoy Disney. Only as background children's entertainment for my children. If I had to pick a princess, it would be Leia or Mononoke. Interesting, complex characters with lots to think about once the film is over.
Well, Disney bought Star Wars, so Leia is technically a Disney Princess.

Disney also owned the exclusive english-language international distribution rights for Studio Ghibli from the mid-1990s until the mid-2010s through Miramax, so San/Mononoke,when voiced by Claire Danes, is technically a Disney Princess, too.

On that note, Disney owns 20th Century which, via Brandywine, owns the Aliens franchise, so the Xenomorph Queen is also technically a Disney Princess.
What’s the nicest thing a woman could do for you?
Be dozing on my couch, warmed by the dappled shafts of sunlight sneaking past the trees and between the blinds, and stretch sleepily like some sexy naked tiger as I pass by on my way out to work.

I do not actually have a goodexplanation for why that memory was what the meat computer decided to pull out of storage to associate with your question.
women throughout history who have died in childbirth
How incredibly not unexpected it would be for a first-time-mother to die in childbirth makes this whole "her memory haunted the village" theme a bit of a hard sell. Her husband is gonna be fucked up about it, as he was the one whose endogenous oxytocin addiction was tied to her, his dealer just abruptly cut him off cold-turkey, and he's in withdrawal, but everyone else in the village? Tragic. Oh, well. Anyway.

Something not pointed out about the Yorkshire-Father-w/-Son-Killed-in-Somme vignette is how, despite being intrusive and irrational, his grief is still deeply analytical.

He's identified a problem, and is tracing it backwards to examine all the things that he could've done differently that perhaps would have prevented it. (This, btw, is the OG definition of "victim blaming" before it was maladapted into weaponized therapyspeke.)

Grief resolves as you check these off, one-by-one, and conclude there's no good reason you'd have done anything differently and/or it wouldn't have actually changed anything if you had. Or, rarely, that you should've done something differently, and you've learned all you can from it to make better choices in the future (if relevant).

This is a significant factor in why therapy styles based on what's most profitable effective with female marks patients falls flat with males.

A woman tells you her problems and the thoughts she's had about those problems and is satisfied if you agree and affirm, yes, that is a problem and she's right to feel whatever way.

A man tells you his problem, et al. because maybe a fresh set of eyes will see some potential solution or different angle he's missed. He is satisfied if you agree snd confirm that he's correctly thought all the thoughts, there's no need to continue thinking about it.

Note: "there's no need to continue thinking about it" may mean it's now time to take action. So if you talk to a man and confirm for him that, yep, life sucks and, yep, it's probably gonna continue this way indefinitely with no reasonable expectation of improvement, he may genuinely thank you, genuinely feel like a great burden has been lifted from his shoulders, and genuinely cheerfully go home to suck-start a shotgun. Problem: solved.
 
"her memory haunted the village"
Her memory haunted the village because in the story, she was a local teacher who taught the girls, so she was popular and well loved.

It has nothing to do with her death that causes the haunting in the village. She dies, yes, but since she was appreciated by the villagers, her death leaves behind her legacy.

Somebody else asked about my male character's details. He's a teacher in Yorkshire and he's working class, since from what I read, teachers were very low paid at that point.
 
What’s the nicest thing a woman could do for you?
Show appreciation for the things a man does. A lot of what we do isn't sexy, but essential, notably giving up a portion of an honest day's wages to ensure she never has to choose between food, heat, or rent.
 
A woman tells you her problems and the thoughts she's had about those problems and is satisfied if you agree and affirm, yes, that is a problem and she's right to feel whatever way.

A man tells you his problem, et al. because maybe a fresh set of eyes will see some potential solution or different angle he's missed. He is satisfied if you agree snd confirm that he's correctly thought all the thoughts, there's no need to continue thinking about it.
You just said the same thing twice and said it's different.

A man wants solutions. He wants to find a way to solve the problem or a way to deal with the problem. Reaffirming he has a problem and he has thought about it is what the woman wants. A woman wants to be on the journey, the man wants to be at his destination
 
Alright men, favorite Disney Princess (TM) and why? As a reminder, this is the lineup:
Snow White, Cinderella, Aurora, Ariel, Belle, Jasmine, Pocahontas, Mulan, Tiana, Rapunzel, Merida, Moana, and Raya.

If you want to answer a girl not on the list, you have to make a really convincing argument.
nigger i dont recognize half of these names, you might aswell have put mupshup dindu on this list. oh wait you did, yeah I guess the princess and the frog wasnt horrible so ill go with her.

The C-section thing goes deeper. The whole idea is he was desperate to have a child, they tried unsuccessfully for years, he gets his wish, but she dies and so does the child.
i have not been following the thread so i dont really know what your talking about but ive always thought the mother dieing but the child living and that causing the father to resent the child for taking his one love away is a more interesting plot than just a grieving man who loses both his wife and his child as it explores more of the mans failure to cope and instead shift blame because he wont accept the death and instead focuses on the negative instead of realizing the good thats right infront of him. that probably doesnt make sense with the context of what your writing but i just thought id add that.
 
A man wants solutions. He wants to find a way to solve the problem or a way to deal with the problem. Reaffirming he has a problem and he has thought about it is what the woman wants. A woman wants to be on the journey, the man wants to be at his destination
Or perhaps the woman simply wants a hug? I get what you’re saying, but I know many problems that plague me aren’t immediately fixable. Close mouth, open arms, is what I’d need.
If I want a solution, and often I do want a solution, I will ask for a solution.
It’s funny, this is a thing I keep finding crop up with people’s misunderstandings and arguments. It’s maybe not quite so simple as needing a solution vs needing to know your partner has your back, but that is an aspect of it. Someone above said about turning a man’s brain off, that’s perhaps the same thing.
Sometimes you know there’s no answer, you need to know you’ve got each others back.
 
What’s the nicest thing a woman could do for you?
I'm a simple man and people already gave you the deeper answers so i'll give you a simple one

The nicest thing a woman could do for me is a massage. That's it. It's me getting home, taking a bath and getting a massage until i fall into a nice dreamless sleep, the kind you get when you're exhausted
 
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