Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

Marvin said:
I mean, to be fair, Rob Schneider's grandma was a Filipina (unless that's what you meant by "learned who [he] was"? Is that enough to get the Asian slur pass? Idk
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I didn't know that! I just didn't know who Rob Schneider was as a person, I wasn't very aware of actors until I dated Ron. I thought he was white, but I guess he's a quarter brown Asian? I honestly don't care, the Chuck and Larry character doesn't bother me that much.
 
Chromeo said:
was willing to watch MLP with me
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That’s funny, to me this just reads as an unambiguous red flag. I mean that’s kind of a joke, but do you know how normals do this stuff? They understand that dating is interfacing with a fundamentally alien intelligence and that they won’t share every interest, in fact not only their interests but the way that they relate to them will be different. There’s some middle ground between “openly mocks what I like” and “we met at the gay autist convention”.
 
Gregis said:
That’s funny, to me this just reads as an unambiguous red flag. I mean that’s kind of a joke, but do you know how normals do this stuff? They understand that dating is interfacing with a fundamentally alien intelligence and that they won’t share every interest, in fact not only their interests but the way that they relate to them will be different. There’s some middle ground between “openly mocks what I like” and “we met at the gay autist convention”.
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We didn't meet at the gay autist convention, we met on the gay autist honeypot dating site. then we went to the gay autist convention!
 
Chromeo said:
We didn't meet at the gay autist convention, we met on the gay autist honeypot dating site. then we went to the gay autist convention!
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See, I thought I was demarcating extremes, not describing your situation and its antithesis, but it's possible that what you're describing is more extreme than what I said.
 
The Stranger said:
How many women are assaulted (including domestics) and could have defended themselves with a firearm each month?

Hell, if y'all started blasting wife-beaters maybe that 57 figure would start coming down lmao
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You would need to have a firearm at hand and loaded, without your partner knowing. If it's unloaded in a safe somewhere, or in your purse, it isn't going to help you when he starts hollering at you as you take a shower and then comes in to beat you. I want you to consider the feasibility of a woman with a weapon she can access and her partner can't, at all times.

I do think when out walking the dog or running, women should be armed. I also say this while knowing that many of these random attacks have an element of surprise and the woman might not be able to reach her weapon in time. Also carrying as a woman is much more difficult to accommodate than for a man.
 
Hi Kiwisisters. So, uh, I lost my mom at the beginning of the month, and while I'm missing and grieving her in many ways, today the lack of just pain ol' female maternal intimacy is really hitting me. My aunt and grandma pre-deceased my mom, and while I have my closest friend and minor friends and even my cousin who are female left, all of my remaining intimate family and the penisnigger I've been cavorting with shhh don't tell anyone are all, well, male. What do when you're not young anymore but you're just a little girl who misses her mom? What do when you've been fighting the crazed urge all day to call your hairdresser and tell her you got your period finally and today sucked but the weather was nice and the funeral home guy was snotty and also can we go shopping together tomorrow cause all of your blue and black bras are old and the wires starting to wear through the fabric and poke you and need new ones? I know no one can replace my mom or aunt or grandma, but is that part of my life just over? Maybe an older female grief counselor?
 
Chromeo said:
I'm mostly doing this thing called joking
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lol would you believe this is not the first time someone has said that to me today? in this case, I thought I was too...
Disgruntled Pupper said:
So, uh, I lost my mom at the beginning of the month
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I'm really sorry, I don't have anything to offer except generic condolences. Also though:
Disgruntled Pupper said:
What do when you've been fighting the crazed urge all day to call your hairdresser and tell her you got your period finally
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women really are different from men, huh? (and I don't mean the having a period thing)
 
Hi Kiwisisters.

Just wondering if you still romanticise ice skating and would like to go for it on a first date? I’m thinking about asking out a Gen Z from work about 8 years younger than me.

I grew up around a lot of boomers so naturally Ice Castles was my first romance movie.

Plus would it be a turn-off if a man’s somewhat getting the attention of women? She’s seen me getting drunkenly groped on the shoulder by another Gen Z woman at a work party and get drive-by compliments from Boomers with one wanting me to vacation with her to Ibiza nearby.
 
Gregis said:
women really are different from men, huh? (and I don't mean the having a period thing)
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Just to be clear, that's not something the vast majority of us would share with a hairdresser, or even friends, it's just me being crazed from missing my mom.
 
Disgruntled Pupper said:
Just to be clear, that's not something the vast majority of us would share with a hairdresser, or even friends, it's just me being crazed from missing my mom.
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Oh yes that was clear, you described the urge as crazed, but it just struck me that there is no one in my life the loss of whom would rob me of such a confidante. I think I may be an outlier even among men though. For instance, whenever Null complains about the problems that sex pests are causing him and how it annoys him, I always think that were I him I would never even mention such a thing out of fear of letting an adversary know that they were bothering me.
 
Chromeo said:
Okay, I've been told that the average person has random hookups with strangers and doesn't have meaningful multi-year relationships, and that people like me who don't have random hookups and do have meaningful multi-year relationships are called "dating to marry," if I'm misusing that phrase please let me know.
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Forget the common usage or whatever. If YOU mean YOU'RE dating with a purpose of finding a potential lifelong person, that's what I'm talking about. If you're serious and intent on a real thing, stop messing with trivial people.

Big Miss Steak said:
I do think when out walking the dog or running, women should be armed. I also say this while knowing that many of these random attacks have an element of surprise and the woman might not be able to reach her weapon in time. Also carrying as a woman is much more difficult to accommodate than for a man.
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this is insane unless you live in a certified war zone.
 
Marvin said:
All that is very true, and it would be a great justification for more gun control if gun control was actually effective. But because it isn't, and because police are often useless when you actually need them, you're often going to need to be your own first responder. My sister and I dealt with a home invasion from a disgruntled ex-boyfriend (hers), who legally wasn't supposed to be able to possess firearms (and yet he did), and the police were next to useless. Baltimore City police are incompetent dipshits.

But the bigger issue I've found is that because guns are scary (I'm not being sarcastic, I understand being nervous around firearms), going full Ben Shapiro and jabbering at women with facts and figures never works. It's awkward and everyone gets quiet and uptight and doesn't erase their actual feelings.

Likewise I've found it super difficult to peak women on troonery because for a long time, I approached it like I was talking to another man. With facts and figures. Doesn't work that way.
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So I recently went through trying to talk a female friend into getting a gun (after she was approached by cops and told a literal mental patient who she'd never met was stalking her and planning to kill her). For her, she said she'd rather be killed than be a killer. She wasn't going to get a gun because she wasn't going to shoot anyone. I think a lot of men have kind of this fantasy of someone crossing the line in the sand where you get to pull the trigger, but whether it's nature or nurture (or most likely some of both) I think a lot of women don't share that fantasy. Even ones who have a lot of justification, like battered wives/girlfriends or stalking victims, tend to not want to kill the asshole, they just want it to stop. A lot like rape victims keeping the secret or not pursuing charges because they don't want to ruin their rapists' lives (I know several of these, too; the worst case, she almost died after what they did to her). And on top of that, women tend to be pressured to respond this way whether it's their natural response or not, with kindness and forgiveness and understanding (/martyrdom) instead of getting to just say 'fuck that guy, he's lost the right to a life after this.'

And so for any of these women who aren't ready and willing to put down any fucker who puts them in that position, it's better if they don't carry a gun, because all that's going to do is introduce a gun into an already bad situation, piss him off more, and he's probably going to take her gun away and use it on her. Flight, fawn, or even freeze is more likely to get them out of that situation alive than choosing to 'fight' with a lethal weapon without being prepared to use it lethally. Shit, my own mother managed to talk some retard out of murdering her, a lifetime ago.
 
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UvaUvamVivendoVariaFit said:
And so for any of these women who aren't ready and willing to put down any fucker who puts them in that position, it's better if they don't carry a gun, because all that's going to do is introduce a gun into an already bad situation, piss him off more, and he's probably going to take their gun away and use it on her. Flight, fawn, or even freeze is more likely to get them out of that situation alive than choosing to 'fight' with a lethal weapon without being prepared to use it lethally.
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Yeah, that's a good point.

This is one reason why I'm glad that my state mandates a class for getting a carry permit.

Immediately after Bruen, I got my sister to take a carry class with me so we could get our carry permits. I think the class was very helpful in breaking down a life-or-death situation into its constituent pieces.

You don't want it to be a lot of last minute fumbling "oh, but he was a nice guy once... he's just worked up... do I really need to shoot him... is my life really at risk?" etc.

I think the class was good at presenting complex hypotheticals and breaking them down for analysis. I think it gave my sister the confidence to be able to defend herself with lethal force if it came down to it.

I also pay for self defense insurance for the two of us.
 
UvaUvamVivendoVariaFit said:
For her, she said she'd rather be killed than be a killer. She wasn't going to get a gun because she wasn't going to shoot anyone.
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Can't relate. I'm the kind of person who would enjoy pulling the trigger on a sicko. That's probably part of why I've never gotten a gun. I don't mind the idea of killing a predator, but I'm concerned the judge wouldn't see it the way I do.
 
Friend of Dorothy Parker said:
this is insane unless you live in a certified war zone.
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Female jogger raped in a residential area in broad daylight a few miles from my friend two weeks ago: https://www.cbsnews.com/sanfrancisc...ly-assaulted-near-stanford-university-campus/

Violent rampage involved a woman out walking her dog: https://www.kgns.tv/2026/04/16/home...king-dog-another-woman-killed-series-attacks/

A week and a half ago, woman walking her dog is stabbed to death, again in broad daylight: https://www.cbsnews.com/miami/news/...-walking-dog-martin-county-kersten-francilus/

I could go on
 
Big Miss Steak said:
Female jogger raped in a residential area in broad daylight a few miles from my friend two weeks ago: https://www.cbsnews.com/sanfrancisc...ly-assaulted-near-stanford-university-campus/

Violent rampage involved a woman out walking her dog: https://www.kgns.tv/2026/04/16/home...king-dog-another-woman-killed-series-attacks/

A week and a half ago, woman walking her dog is stabbed to death, again in broad daylight: https://www.cbsnews.com/miami/news/...-walking-dog-martin-county-kersten-francilus/

I could go on
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And I could tell you I've gone on a walk 8 million times and never had even a slight side eye, much less an incident. And?
 
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