I found r/MTFselfietrain & fell down a rabbit hole till I found this man:
https://www.reddit.com/user/Nicole46723?sort=new
He is 57 with kids, a wife and lives in Fort Wayne, Indiana.
Says he knew he was trans all his life even expressing it as early a 2 years old when his 4 sisters would put him in makeup & play dress up. Claims he was bullied because he was "feminine" so he eventually suppressed his "feminity".
8 years ago he was put on a testosterone blocker that caused most of his body hair to fall out and for him to grow "a nice set of C cups". He now wants to start HRT and transition into the "women he always was". Problem is he hasn't told his family...
He has been married to his conservative wife for 33 years who believes transgender people go to hell. So instead of being honest, he has begun to wear yoga pants, woman's tights and knee highs around the house until his wife got used to it. Next he plans to start wearing panties. (
https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransge...how_fast_is_the_transition_noticeable_on_hrt/)
As of 9 hours ago he has found a specialist that uses implied consent to start HRT, still no mention of being honest with his wife. He's mentioned Dr. Catherine Kreider Bast, MD located in Goshen, Indiana so I'm assuming that's who he is going to be seeing.
His first post to Reddit was less than 2 months ago, I really think the positive encouragement has caused him to rush into this so quickly with no one telling him to slow down to think it through. The only decent recommendation Reddit has given him is to see a therapist or counselor which he hasn't done "because then his wife would know".
Could you imagine being married to someone you love, you give them over 30 years of your life, your youth, children, etc. only for them to just say "hey I'm a chick now & I'm going to be wearing panties around the house."
I'll leave you with this quote,
"At age 57, I have decided to follow my dream and become the women on the outside that matches the inner women. I am scheduling my appointment to start HRT, knowing very well I will have no support from family, friends, or the community. But I can proudly say,”I am women, hear me roar”!!" (
https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/aazsrf/z/ecx5q4m?context=3&sort=top)