I'm trans and just transitioned full time at work, so I'm out everywhere. Been questioning my sexuality for a long time, but last night confirmed it, I'm a total lesbian and loving it.
One thing I'm concerned about is when to disclose that I'm transgender. I'm not dating anyone, just going to lesbian meetups, and the group is supposedly trans friendly, and I've put that I'm trans on my profile. But it's not like I'm wearing a trans flag or introduce myself as trans, I don't really want to bring it up and make it a topic of conversation. To me it's a birth defect...a medical condition, not my identity. That said, I'm not ashamed of it either, and I'm not trying to be stealth.
I honestly am not sure if I really pass or not under scrutiny, pic is in my history; I know I get by most of the time even when speaking, but I know sometimes I am clocked. But I have a feeling someone I was dancing with was flirting and having a good time with me last night thought I was cis then got upset when she read my profile and gave me the cold shoulder and that really bothered me. I find myself unable to be upset at her for it, and fall into crappy self hate when I think about it.