Ironically, my partner (a trans woman who's not transitioning) sometimes acts as annoying as a cis man would...things like not appreciating me or helping enough around the house or with the kids. He has gone out now to watch a rugby game which he acts like it's the most important thing in the world, so I have to clean and look after the kids alone, even though I'm really tired. It's the only time that I want him to act more womanly, haha.
He also told me he's jealous of me for being a cis-woman, being able to be pregnant, breast feed, have periods, have my body, etc. I really feel like he subconsciously resents me for it.
I do understand that that is probably normal and understandable in a way. But also, he obviously has no idea how hard it is to go through pregnancy and child-birth, he would not be able to handle doing all the night feeds for the baby every two hours or wouldn't have enjoyed when my first baby had tongue tie and my nipples were bleeding and painful, he knows I have endometriosis and get incredibly painful periods, and that my body is in pain because I have an autoimmune arthritis and may well be disabled in the future.
So as much as I understand that he wants my body, he really would not want it if he knew the things I have to go through...I guess you could say being trans could be as painful, who knows which is worse, but he's also lucky to not have my body at the same time.
It'd be a bit like if I said I was jealous of him even though he's trans and wanted to be him...
And yet he resents me so much for it. He says he doesn't, but it's subconscious. He might fly off the handle at me just for being a cis woman at any time. We go through cycles of him being ok or being really bad for a few days or weeks.
Sometimes I feel like he sees sis people as the enemy, which is kinda understandable but do I really deserve that...
I feel so sorry for him for all the things he has to go through, but also upset that it's all about him being trans all the time and my problems are left behind or I just have to get on with life and keep the family doing ok.