You're right, since Dworkin teamed up with the Moral Majority to try and ban porn, and both were in front of the Meese Commission, arguing for the prohibition of pornography. I'm 100% certain that Dworkin didn't need the validation of the Religious Right, anymore than Nina Hartley needs the validation of her husband. Frankly, it comes across as sort of misogynistic that you think she needs a man in order to succeed. I've seen her in a couple interviews, and she doesn't strike me as an incompetent.
It's about wrapping around the ideological corkscrew far enough that your political bedfellows are exactly the kind of people that Margaret Atwood had in mind when she wrote The Handmaid's Tale. I'll be blunt, maybe people should be asking the men how they feel, instead of assuming their lives are all perfect and amazing. It's also about trying to claim you know better than a lot of women that didn't have those experiences. It's also very much about that Stonetoss comic, except instead of driving guns into the back alleys and dark corners, you'd be quite happy driving pornography back into the back alleys and dark corners, instead of demanding that it be something that has to abide by an ethical standard.
Gonna need citations that it's predominantly gay male couples, since adoption is socially acceptable for same-sex couples. I can give you a citation to at least one case where a lesbian couple paid a gay man for sperm, in order to have an IVF prior to the UK changing the discriminatory laws that prevented it, and then the guy got screwed for child support. Even though the lesbian couple had signed a contract waiving all of his parental involvement, the courts ordered a man that acted to circumvent an unjust, discriminatory law, to pay child support anyways.
I can honestly say, as someone old enough to remember porn from the 90's, I have zero idea who Ashley Blue is, and I wouldn't be able to pick out her, let alone most of the women (or men) I've seen in porn, barring Ron Jeremy, Jenna Jamieson, Mercedes Carrera, and Nina Hartley. It's almost as though drawing additional attention to oneself might be the problem there, more than people specifically remembering her.
And again, instead of demanding that pornography and prostitution be held to standards, you're taking a position that would reenact prohibition, and force them both into dark corners and alleys, where ever fewer protections exist, for anyone.