I find it somewhat difficult to believe that Monica is being dragged by the ear through all of this. Just doesn't seem to square with reality by how the parties have been acting.
Ron is not some big bad serial manipulator or an abuser like we tend to think about in media. He's not some big burly guy that keeps his woman in check through fear and intimidation. He's not a Machiavelli; he's basically a giant man-baby. From what we know about him, he lacks even basic impulse control, and lashes out when he doesn't get his way. His response to any kickback or stress is to throw a big fucking fit until the person in question capitulates to him. I think the quotes in affidavit really go a good length to prove that.
To play armchair psychologist for a second, I think the reason why Soye positioned himself to be the center of KickVic the way he did, the reason why he calls himself "the sheepdog", and the reason why he is so fixated on "winning" this particular fight is that, deep down, Soye feels guilty about how he treats women. He regrets how he treated his ex-wife, and what he did probably still bothers him when he goes to sleep at night. I'd go as far to say that he probably hates himself. By his own admission, he got divorced because he "was an asshole." He's in therapy, has anger issues, and he knows he's out of control, at least to some extent, but not enough to actually stop himself. The paradox of Ron Toye is that he only realizes that he's out of control once the damage is already done.
Enter Vic, a guy that Soye probably despised and resented for being previously involved with Monica. Coincidentally, Vic is also being accused of hurting women as well as being predatory and manipulative, the traits the Ron hates about himself. I bet Ron went into this thinking that this whole ordeal would be his personal redemption. That he could be the "sheepdog", show that he's changed, and escape the mistakes he's made throughout his entire life. Even """"Monica's""""" most recent tweet about Ron having "changed" belies how much Ron wants to be seen as the good guy.
The problem is Ron is a fuck up. He hasn't changed. He's merely shifted targets and his outlet to Twitter and Vic. He's still the same overly emotional moron he was back then, and maybe he's gotten enough of it under control that he doesn't obliquely threaten to shoot a judge, but he is still definitely not in control.
I know a lot of us when #kickvic first started wondered why Ron was so goddamn insistent on making this HIS personal crusade. I think we finally got our answer.