LGBTQiwis

[polonium]

By this point I've all but accepted that I want to be with a guy, but what should've been the hardest question is just beset with a barrage of others. If I was a hard leftest sperg it'd be easy, but finding a right wing dude who likes dick while also being a reasonable distance away sounds impossible. And it's not like I can just look up a gay group since 99% of them are exactly the opposite of what I'm looking for in multiple ways, unless there's some kind of conservative gay social group I'm not aware of.

That and I'm fully aware there's reasons for it to avoid creepers and whatnot, but I really wish I could just casually browse dating sites to see if anyone I'd be interested in is even out there and not halfway across the country or whatever. Not really ready to just put my face out there and start talking to randos just yet. Only want to poke the waters and see what the ripples look like so to speak.

Non-leftist gays are a bit like unicorn feathers but we do exist. I joined an LGBT book club to try to meet people, but I actually ended up meeting my now-fiance through an app (not grindr though) so I guess it's just pot luck. I put in my profile that I was seeking something longer term though which probably helped. People do that here in apps because Western Aus is fairly thinly populated, and there are only really two gay bars, one is like a pub and the other is more of a nightclub. The chances of organically meeting someone are fairly thin.

 

[Surf and TERF]

This is bordering on a tangent, but the podcast S-Town has some interesting insight from a gay man who spent his life in a sparsely populated area. It won a Peabody award in 2017.

Gay bars didn’t exist in Alabama, but there used to be a telephone service that acted like Grindr before dating apps existed. Even back then, people needed assistance to find each other.

 

[polonium]

Gay bars didn’t exist in Alabama, but there used to be a telephone service that acted like Grindr before dating apps existed. Even back then, people needed assistance to find each other.

Well, think about it. If you're a statistically small part of a sparse population, your chances of bumping into someone compatible is pretty low. Perth has less than 2 million people, and the entire rest of this state has only 600,000 more people, but western aus is about half the space in the country, It's like finding a cock in a haystack.

 

[UntimelyDhelmise]

Well, came out to my parents so, that happened. Went as about I expected. They weren't happy about it exactly but they listened and talked to me about it calm and collectively. I'm sure they were expecting it since there was not a hint of surprise on their faces when I told them.

That and by this point my interest in women has dropped to rock bottom and my desire to have a boyfriend grown so much, that I'm definitely just outright gay. No bi/borderline middle ground shenanigans. I get labels are dumb and all, but it's a lot simpler to just say I'm gay, and I honestly feel happier for it.

 

[The Final Troondown]

Im bisexual but I hate the 'lgbt community', especially the troony part

Like you can marry or fuck who you want, just dont be a faggot about it

 

[Maamtis]

Transexual. I might have mentioned it once or twice. Also bisexual so generally a degenerate.

 

[stinky lush bath soap]

Hey.

I'm gay as Hell. I always knew and came out at 13 and my family didn't bat an eyelid. There is an older gay cousin so I think he took all the shock value.

I'm not very political but I do align myself as more on the left than the right. Pro trans rights and all that shit but I'm not the type of corrupt spastics we see on this website.

I think I'm lucky in that whilst I have plenty of fag friends that I go clubbing with, I also have my main group of friends which has a healthy mix of people from all backgrounds - and who don't bitch out if anyone suggests anywhere but a gay bar to drink it. Most of the trans people I know are normal and generally pass unless you really look at em.

 

[Scarlett Johansson]

Well, came out to my parents so, that happened. Went as about I expected. They weren't happy about it exactly but they listened and talked to me about it calm and collectively. I'm sure they were expecting it since there was not a hint of surprise on their faces when I told them.

That and by this point my interest in women has dropped to rock bottom and my desire to have a boyfriend grown so much, that I'm definitely just outright gay. No bi/borderline middle ground shenanigans. I get labels are dumb and all, but it's a lot simpler to just say I'm gay, and I honestly feel happier for it.

So proud of you!

 

[Surf and TERF]

How do gay people feel about raising children? I need about 10 more years before I'm prepared to care for another person, but the baby craving still nags at me so I think about this quite a bit.

I would not feel comfortable raising a son. A boy with lesbian parents will inevitably get teased. This, paired with the longing for a male role model, will only lead to resentment.

If anything, there should be at least two kids and they should be taught to look out for each other, so that they may be able to find familial support in situations where they feel alienated from their parents.

My girlfriend and I have discussed this hypothetically and her concerns lie with the idea of adoption because foster kids are more prone to psychological issues. She feels like artificial insemination is the safest way to reproduce.

Of course, babies always come with a myriad of potential problems, regardless of who made/acquired them. The question is: How do you minimize the risk?

 

[Gravityqueen4life]

i want to peacefully sunset all the gays

 

[UnKillFill]

Of course, babies always come with a myriad of potential problems, regardless of who made/acquired them. The question is: How do you minimize the risk?

Don't have a son?
I can't speak on being a male raised by two lesbians, but being a male raised by a single mother (for my most formative years at least) was not optimal (and that isn't even a slight against my mom, she did her best.) I doubt having two moms would change that. Can you not just adopt a daughter?

 

[GlueAsLube]

Lesbian. It’s kinda hard to find women in my area cuz all they want is to invite me to their threesome with their bf or are ~non-bianary lesbian, asexual uwu~ but whatever.

How do gay people feel about raising children? I need about 10 more years before I'm prepared to care for another person, but the baby craving still nags at me so I think about this quite a bit.

I would not feel comfortable raising a son. A boy with lesbian parents will inevitably get teased. This, paired with the longing for a male role model, will only lead to resentment.

If anything, there should be at least two kids and they should be taught to look out for each other, so that they may be able to find familial support in situations where they feel alienated from their parents.

My girlfriend and I have discussed this hypothetically and her concerns lie with the idea of adoption because foster kids are more prone to psychological issues. She feels like artificial insemination is the safest way to reproduce.

Of course, babies always come with a myriad of potential problems, regardless of who made/acquired them. The question is: How do you minimize the risk?

Had a girl with lesbian parents back in grade school. She still got teased- it’ll happen but I think with more recent stuff it’s cooled down. Do whatever makes you comfortable tho.

 

[Surf and TERF]

Don't have a son?
I can't speak on being a male raised by two lesbians, but being a male raised by a single mother (for my most formative years at least) was not optimal (and that isn't even a slight against my mom, she did her best.) I doubt having two moms would change that. Can you not just adopt a daughter?

Maybe. I think it is better to have a child with genes from both parents. (The artificial insemination route would be done with contributions from a male family member.)

Certain mannerisms and personalities seem to be genetic. It could be more advantageous to have parents with the life experience to anticipate and guard against the issues that might come with inherited character traits. (For example: OCD, alcoholism, etc.)

You have no idea what you’re getting with a foster child.

If you don’t mind me asking, what did you feel like you were missing out on with a single mom? Do you think something like a big brother program would’ve helped?

Lesbian. It’s kinda hard to find women in my area cuz all they want is to invite me to their threesome with their bf or are ~non-bianary lesbian, asexual uwu~ but whatever.


Had a girl with lesbian parents back in grade school. She still got teased- it’ll happen but I think with more recent stuff it’s cooled down. Do whatever makes you comfortable tho.

I think boys would be more sensitive to teasing because of all the pressure to be masculine.

 

[vertexwindi]

If you don’t mind me asking, what did you feel like you were missing out on with a single mom?

Well, a child needs that balance between coddling and disciplining parent, and you sure as fuck aren't going to get much discipline from a single mom if statistics are anything to go by. You're also missing out on learning a lot of knowledge on shit like assembling furniture, laying floors or fixing a car. Moms usually can't help with that.

 

[UnKillFill]

If you don’t mind me asking, what did you feel like you were missing out on with a single mom? Do you think something like a big brother program would’ve helped?

I'm already pressing dangerously into "power level" territory with what I've said so far... Sorry, but I'm not comfortable saying much more than what I already have. Suffice it to say, I do believe it affected me. (in a probably negative way.)

I will say, I did eventually get a step dad... and I even eventually formed a relationship with my biological father later than that... (and I have nothing negative to say about either of them.) but I do still believe I missed out by not having a positive male role model for the first several years of my life.

In answer to your second question, I couldn't honestly tell you if a "big brother" program would have helped in that regard. I was never offered anything of the sort, and I never considered it myself.

It's also worth mentioning, I can not actually speak for how a female child would feel being raised by one or even two women, because I have obviously never been in that position. (hopefully better than I did being raised by a single woman.) I likewise can not honestly say how a male child would feel being raised by two lesbians, so maybe I'm totally wrong.

I do sincerely wish you (and any children you may have with your partner) the absolute best though.

 

[AltisticRight]

Fag

 

[Andrejborg]

what the FUCK am i doing on tumblr?

 

[Underestimated Nutria]

Pro trans rights and all that shit but I'm not the type of corrupt spastics we see on this website.

They don't exist.

How do gay people feel about raising children? I need about 10 more years before I'm prepared to care for another person, but the baby craving still nags at me so I think about this quite a bit.

I would not feel comfortable raising a son. A boy with lesbian parents will inevitably get teased. This, paired with the longing for a male role model, will only lead to resentment.

If anything, there should be at least two kids and they should be taught to look out for each other, so that they may be able to find familial support in situations where they feel alienated from their parents.

My girlfriend and I have discussed this hypothetically and her concerns lie with the idea of adoption because foster kids are more prone to psychological issues. She feels like artificial insemination is the safest way to reproduce.

Of course, babies always come with a myriad of potential problems, regardless of who made/acquired them. The question is: How do you minimize the risk?

IVF is awesome, you can choose sperm from an Aryan IQ 170 orthopedic surgeon or something. Within a couple years, there'll also be embryo selection available so you'll literally be able to rank embryos to implant by height, disease propensity, and intelligence before you go ahead. It's really exciting stuff!

I'm gay, I'd never want children, but if I did .... it would have to be a girl just because that lowers the possibility of false accusations, etc. In our case, we both have jobs that more or less involve working with the bottom quartile of society, so I could basically guarantee it'd become a nightmare. Not sure if that's relevant to you at all, things are probably very different here too.

 

[MembersSchoolPizza]

How do gay people feel about raising children?

On a personal level, I don't think I'm really cut out for it - I'm one of those people that has no built-in, uh... reflexive love? for babies. I can play "peek-a-boo" or make funny faces at a cute baby for about 30 seconds, then I'm bored, and the baby is just a crying biological poop factory for the next three years or so. Until people become, well, people and able to hold at least a simple conversation, I just... I don't, in all the ways that could mean, you know?

But that's not really "as a gay man", that's just... as me. I don't think it's because I'm gay, I've met straight men (and even some women) who feel the same way.

Conceptually I would like to have a descendant, and I think I probably could manage it, but I have no interest in adopting a random batch of genetics. If it's not my blood, or at least maybe my partner's blood, I have no interest. So there's little chance of it happening at the moment.

Beyond all that? Fucking terrified. A gay man being around children is still not without it's risks in our society. Same reason I declined to go into K-12 education like I had planned, years ago. Too fucking risky. Hell, straight men around children, alone, have it bad enough.

 

[polonium]

A child needs a male and a female parent,I would never have kids for that reason.