Romantic orientation thread

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No demiromantic, autistromantic or otherkinromantic? Check your privilege, you shitlord bigot pissbaby!

I guess the homo one for me. I'm too old for these carn sarnin newfangled terms.
 
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So what did you want us to discuss about it? This thread lacks the starting point.

I'm in a good mood relating to the subject, AMA.
 
Clop said:
So what did you want us to discuss about it? This thread lacks the starting point.

I'm in a good mood relating to the subject, AMA.
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Well, I was kind of hoping some of you might use this as a springboard to talk about what it's like having a romantic orientation that doesn't match your sexual orientation, or observations on that phenomena. In particular, I'm interested in the idea of biromantic heterosexuality, because part of me likes the idea of "loving" a man in a romantic way, but I don't want dick in my ass and I do want to have a family with a woman. I feel like the Ancient Greeks were maybe onto something with their ideas about love between men and some of their homoerotic stuff, but I don't want manly hands jerking me off.

Or I'm extremely far in the closet.

I mean, as far as concrete stuff goes, there's one friend I had who I admired/liked so much that I felt something that I think was almost akin to a crush.
 
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Ughubughughughughughghlug said:
Well, I was kind of hoping some of you might use this as a springboard to talk about what it's like having a romantic orientation that doesn't match your sexual orientation, or observations on that phenomena. In particular, I'm interested in the idea of biromantic heterosexuality, because part of me likes the idea of "loving" a man in a romantic way, but I don't want dick in my ass and I do want to have a family with a woman. I feel like the Ancient Greeks were maybe onto something with their ideas about love between men and some of their homoerotic stuff, but I don't want manly hands jerking me off.

Or I'm extremely far in the closet.
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I can actually help you with that. I used to consider myself bisexual, but that had a lot to do with me being more liberal and slightly peer pressured. It simply felt comfier to identify as bisexual with those crowds. Between then and now one thing that never changed when I got comfortable saying "yeah I really only want to fuck women" was that I felt really strongly about one guy who I just had a great friendship with. There's a feeling of safety to being close to someone like that, someone who can have your back and who you don't feel averse to physically. This was one guy who I had a lot in common with and who spoke to me very openly and who I could speak to very openly as well.

This has repeated now and again with some guys who just become part of my good day's routine, and the joke from others is always "where's your boyfriend?" because I get along with them so well. You always tell your best jokes and moments to this one guy and try to get him involved in all activities? Yeah, I'd call that "romantic" in a way. You get along with the guy and enjoy everything more when he's there.

I know "bromance" is a fucking 'tarded word that gets thrown around a lot, but that's the best way to describe it. I simply felt more comfortable around the guy than I would with most men or women. That's just how best friends usually are. You're not gay until you start getting erections watching at other men. Give your pal a pat on the back and tell him you're paying for a burger and some beers and don't give that closet bullshit another thought (unless you start getting hard-ons from watching the guy - that's gay and you should just confess already you pussy.)
 
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Clop said:
I can actually help you with that. I used to consider myself bisexual, but that had a lot to do with me being more liberal and slightly peer pressured. It simply felt comfier to identify as bisexual with those crowds. Between then and now one thing that never changed when I got comfortable saying "yeah I really only want to fuck women" was that I felt really strongly about one guy who I just had a great friendship with. There's a feeling of safety to being close to someone like that, someone who can have your back and who you don't feel averse to physically. This was one guy who I had a lot in common with and who spoke to me very openly and who I could speak to very openly as well.

This has repeated now and again with some guys who just become part of my good day's routine, and the joke from others is always "where's your boyfriend?" because I get along with them so well. You always tell your best jokes and moments to this one guy and try to get him involved in all activities? Yeah, I'd call that "romantic" in a way. You get along with the guy and enjoy everything more when he's there.

I know "bromance" is a fucking 'tarded word that gets thrown around a lot, but that's the best way to describe it. I simply felt more comfortable around the guy than I would with most men or women. That's just how best friends usually are. You're not gay until you start getting erections watching at other men. Give your pal a pat on the back and tell him you're paying for a burger and some beers and don't give that closet bullshit another thought (unless you start getting hard-ons from watching the guy - that's gay and you should just confess already you pussy.)
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See, this is a quality post. Also, lol fag

You know, this doesn’t have much to do with romance as such, or your experience, but you can probably get what I mean.

This one time I was telling a good friend of mine about how much him and a mutual friend mean to me, and he made a snarky comment like “I love you too.”

Now, this dude is a good friend. I love his company and he has traits I admire. But it felt like a bit of a blow to be laughed off like that. Like, I wasn’t even getting weird on him or anything, I was just trying to tell him how I apprciare him.

That’s something that I think women are good for that men maybe aren’t. Most of us are, by nature or by social convention, unwilling to complement each other or share our feelings like that. And it doesn’t make the world any happier of a place.
 
Ughubughughughughughghlug said:
See, this is a quality post. Also, lol fag

You know, this doesn’t have much to do with romance as such, or your experience, but you can probably get what I mean.

This one time I was telling a good friend of mine about how much him and a mutual friend mean to me, and he made a snarky comment like “I love you too.”

Now, this dude is a good friend. I love his company and he has traits I admire. But it felt like a bit of a blow to be laughed off like that. Like, I wasn’t even getting weird on him or anything, I was just trying to tell him how I apprciare him.

That’s something that I think women are good for that men maybe aren’t. Most of us are, by nature or by social convention, unwilling to complement each other or share our feelings like that. And it doesn’t make the world any happier of a place.
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Eh, don't take it so hard. Even if he feels uncomfortable talking straight up without making jokes about it, I'm sure he appreciated what you had to say.
 
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