You're too hard on Alec's sister. Let's leave the patreon post out of this, as there's a good chance that one is as fake as some of the other stuff that made the rounds.
She didn't save Alec, who obviously couldn't save himself. Neither could whatever services they called, nor his girlfriend, nor anyone else. Chances are, if you let someone suicidal go to the bathroom alone, they can an hero themselves.
Could she have stood up for her brother publicly? Certainly. But consider this: Alex Kennedy was thinking about suicide, and he had no or at least a lot less mental issues than Alec. Alex did stand up for himself immediately, threatening to sue. The only reason his story gained a lot less traction was because Alec killed himself, and Zoe being Alec's accuser. Kennedys wife has been very explicit about how she, too, has been "cancelled" simply for being his wife.
While the Kennedys aren't anywhere near as radical as Alec's sister is, or now maybe was, they too had trust in doing the right thing - and you can't blame them. There is nothing wrong with the idea of wanting to help people. Eileen is just finding out she's been working for HYDRA all along. It's fence-sitting sure, but it's fence sitting from someone who went to the streets to cry in public with strangers to raise awareness for rape survivors.
I know that there are likely even more that were not posted. These stories are all true in their own ways, even if they don’t always correspond with what was true for Alec
Believe that "everyone has their truth" should be a dead giveaway how deeply entrenched into the whole identity politics she is.
Her post is vague, and yes, a hard stance against Zoe, Scott, and the industry would be what is necessary, but just because she didn't commit yet, doesn't mean she wont.
"I understand all too well why victims of abuse take to public platforms. I know firsthand how broken the legal system can be. It has failed us in so many ways and we’re scrambling to find an alternative. That said, this current system is also deeply broken, because it is not a system at all. There are no rules here, no guidelines, and no accountability. "
Eileen has both legs in the anti-camp. Whatever happened, she feels society and justice has failed her badly. But now she has to learn, that the alternative she chose
killed her brother.
I have been criticized for being both not supportive enough of Alec and also not critical enough
On the one hand was everything she believed, and on the other her brother. People hated her regardless of which side she chose, before he had even offed himself, and it's plain to see that she herself is not the most steadfast individual out there.
I was surprised not to see any of that nuance and care coming from many of the game devs I once admired, not even the ones who have made games about mental health.
She was working in games herself. They were people she knew and, in a way, trusted, and they all turned on her brother - a brother she knew was at times verbally hurtful.
Take a look at Albertines accusation: It's garbage. There's nothing beyond "he made me feel bad, and I was sad". If you believe that that's a valid statement to drive a witch-hunt, that's already kinda fucked up.
But Albertine was working with her and Alec.
Those hurt the most, even when they had very worthy goals, because I saw how they were perpetuating more harm and silencing even more survivors
"Worthy goals" - Eileen still thinks they were trying to do good. Her social network are these people, as shitty as they are. Those are the ones she cries out on the streets with.
TL;DR: Eileen is neck-deep in the shit of socjus, and is just finding out that maybe those people are kind of a loose cannon. Condemning her for slowly learning she might be on the wrong side is the opposite of what you want from people. By all means, she should be encouraged to explore how
"The ones who pretended nothing had happened, who wrote long articles days later" AKA Scott Benson, is a fucking opportunistic bastard, who threw her brother under the bus three times before he died. She should be encouraged to see her brothers death, which was not to prove a point, as she says, as a wake up call: Zoe ruins lives and if Eileen wants to
"move towards a space of mutual understanding, healing, care, and change" , she can't let people like Scott and Zoe get away with it.
"When we have the power to judge, and our judgements have consequences, what do we owe one another?”
Whatever Eileen did before, whatever she believed to be right, if she can find it in herself to stand against what ruined the life of her brother, it will change the industry more than screaming into the rain ever could.
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