Plagued Nice Guys

[Ceiling Kitten]

To try reviving this page, I present you a ~genderqueer version of this trope: Jacob Tobia, who's just become one of the VA's in the SJW reboot of She-Ra:

The Harsh Realities of Dating for Gender-Nonconforming Femmes | them.

In a world that both desexualizes and hypersexualizes transfeminine people, I am desperate to find companionship and touch.

www.them.us

Nonbinary Femmes and the Realities of Dating

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They're such a selfish asshole and feels so entitled to gay guys, some person at Medium.com denounced them as a Nice Guy (tm):

Jacob Tobia Promotes “Niceguyness” as Trans Oppression

Entitlement to love and affection doesn’t look cute on any gender.

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Jacob Tobia Promotes Being a Nice Guy as Trans Activism

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Some choice quotes

"But amid all of this pussypower, I’ve found myself struggling to communicate with feminist allies, organizers, colleagues, and friends about something that’s been putting me off: the word “woman” itself."

”As much as folks want to claim an intersectional approach, organizing that occurs solely under the label of “woman” always feels to me — a genderqueer, male-assigned, feminine-of-center cutie with facial hair and a bold lip — like something of a fuck-you.”


"Alok went on to tell a similar story about how they had this crush on a masc boy while they were on tour, who would come over all the time to talk and watch TV shows, but would always find some reason to go home when Alok invited him to spend the night."

"[...] hangers-on who only want them for their social caché but don't actually want to sleep with them."

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That's just... ew. EWWWWWWWWWW.

 

[AnOminous]

To try reviving this page, I present you a ~genderqueer version of this trope: Jacob Tobia, who's just become one of the VA's in the SJW reboot of She-Ra:

What a joke. People just need to cope with the fact that if they have an extremely specific fetish and either can't or won't turn it off, they've limited their dating pool to people who aren't totally disgusted by it. Tough shit.

 

[THOTto]

To try reviving this page, I present you a ~genderqueer version of this trope: Jacob Tobia, who's just become one of the VA's in the SJW reboot of She-Ra:

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The Harsh Realities of Dating for Gender-Nonconforming Femmes | them.

In a world that both desexualizes and hypersexualizes transfeminine people, I am desperate to find companionship and touch.

www.them.us

Nonbinary Femmes and the Realities of Dating

archived 25 Oct 2019 16:41:42 UTC

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They're such a selfish asshole and feels so entitled to gay guys, some person at Medium.com denounced them as a Nice Guy (tm):

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Jacob Tobia Promotes “Niceguyness” as Trans Oppression

Entitlement to love and affection doesn’t look cute on any gender.

medium.com

Jacob Tobia Promotes Being a Nice Guy as Trans Activism

archived 25 Oct 2019 16:43:14 UTC

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That's just... ew. EWWWWWWWWWW.

That’s just a man in a dress and makeup. If he dropped the ‘uwu nb femme’ shit it would make it a lot easier to get a gay man. Usually the men who pull this are “lesbians” but Christ.

 

[TowinKarz]

What a joke. People just need to cope with the fact that if they have an extremely specific fetish and either can't or won't turn it off, they've limited their dating pool to people who aren't totally disgusted by it. Tough shit.

Funny how the side that made "your sexuality is not a choice" a mantra immediately turned around and claimed your sexuality was most certainly a choice, and evil one at that, one you deserve punishment for in fact, if you rejected them because you're not into transfolk/helicopterkin/intersexuality/whatever made up bs is goin' round the interwebs.

Consent for thee, but not for me.

Oh, and it doesn't mean I'm a hypocrite. I'm so woke I have transcended your obsolete human notions about personal boundaries, the very concept is more like personal oppression if you think about it......

 

[Red Hood]

To try reviving this page, I present you a ~genderqueer version of this trope: Jacob Tobia, who's just become one of the VA's in the SJW reboot of She-Ra:

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The Harsh Realities of Dating for Gender-Nonconforming Femmes | them.

In a world that both desexualizes and hypersexualizes transfeminine people, I am desperate to find companionship and touch.

www.them.us

Nonbinary Femmes and the Realities of Dating

archived 25 Oct 2019 16:41:42 UTC

archive.fo

They're such a selfish asshole and feels so entitled to gay guys, some person at Medium.com denounced them as a Nice Guy (tm):

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Jacob Tobia Promotes “Niceguyness” as Trans Oppression

Entitlement to love and affection doesn’t look cute on any gender.

medium.com

Jacob Tobia Promotes Being a Nice Guy as Trans Activism

archived 25 Oct 2019 16:43:14 UTC

archive.fo

That's just... ew. EWWWWWWWWWW.

WHAT THE FUCK is that a gender bent Mike Stoklasa

 

[Cosmos]

 

[vertexwindi]

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can you not post my texts thank you

 

[Fake News Anchor]

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Truly a testament to the struggles we gamers face.

Nice Guy: "Hey baby."

Ungrateful Whore: "Haha, I'm not a baby."

Nice Guy: "What the fuck did you just fucking say, you little bitch? I'll have you know I graduated top of my class in the Navy Seals, and I've been involved in numerous secret raids on Al-Quaeda..."

 

[Bitch Kitten]

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Who doesn't call someone a "dumb ass bitch" to prove how nice they are? That's a dream catch right there with no way that super nice guy could ever turn abusive in the blink of an eye. How dare a woman not want him

 

[Lucifer's Rectum]

So when i was in high school I was close with this one girl who was dating a nice guy. One time at a party we kissed while playing truth or dare and a few days later I get these wonderful messages in my dms. The first two are from immediately after, and the second two are from a couple of months later when they broke up.

 

[Strange Rope Hero]

So when i was in high school I was close with this one girl who was dating a nice guy. One time at a party we kissed while playing truth or dare and a few days later I get these wonderful messages in my dms. The first two are from immediately after, and the second two are from a couple of months later when they broke up.

I'm jealous of you.

 

[Lucifer's Rectum]

I'm jealous of you.

Don't be, you didn't have to deal with this dumb motherfucker in person.

 

[Cosmos]

Nice Guy mentality summed up in a single tweet.

 

[Mitt Doggy Dogg]

these guys act like getting a piece of ass is the hardest thing in the world, if they would just stop trying to get it , it would fall all over them probably.

 

[Lucifer's Rectum]

these guys act like getting a piece of ass is the hardest thing in the world, if they would just stop trying to get it , it would fall all over them probably.

All they really need to do is show some confidence and not come off as narcissistic assholes and they'd probably be fine. Having a personality other than "being nice" would help too but they're too stupid to figure that out.

 

[DrJonesHat]

All they really need to do is show some confidence and not come off as narcissistic assholes and they'd probably be fine. Having a personality other than "being nice" would help too but they're too stupid to figure that out.

One of the biggest issues is that they want the supermodel girlfriend when they have nothing to offer.

 

[Lucifer's Rectum]

One of the biggest issues is that they want the supermodel girlfriend when they have nothing to offer.

You're right, this is a huge issue. Imo part of knowing your limits is also knowing how attractive you are as a person, like if you're ok looking at best and you're pursuing some crazy hot model you're going to get rejected. These guys need to approach women that are at their level and stop thinking they're entitled to people way out of their league. Like by all means have standards, but have realistic ones.

 

[Pomniman]

People who behave this way aren't fixable. By the time they've they've fallen into the "nice guy/girl" loop it's basically an incurable form of autism.

 

[SamTheEagle]

People who behave this way aren't fixable. By the time they've they've fallen into the "nice guy/girl" loop it's basically an incurable form of autism.

I disagree. You can get out of the Nice Guy mindset, but it's most likely going to take a mix of multiple rejections and self-reflection.

 

[Pomniman]

I disagree. You can get out of the Nice Guy mindset, but it's most likely going to take a mix of multiple rejections and self-reflection.

Maybe if it happens when they're young enough. Like 18-25 at most, and even that's optimistic. After someone's spent years if not decades acting this way there's not going to be any capacity for self-reflection left.