The "nerd girl" scene, whether it's video games, comic books, DnD, whatever is full of predatory grifter women, mentally unstable women, and massively egocentric women who are used to being a big fish in a small pond, and most of them have no career or domestic skills whatsoever. And the women who aren't like that are taken. Or fat, which if you're into that more power to you, just keep in mind that fat chicks can also fit in the above categories of awful.
In short, your manic pixie dreamgirl fantasy is fake and gay. Hollywood lied to you. Get your head out of your ass and look at things realistically before you end up like Holowka, betas
Anyone involved in the games industry with an opinion on Zoe Quinn in either direction (though especially if that opinion is favorable, for obvious reasons) should be discounted out of hand when they express said opinion. The games industry is incredibly incestuous and cancerous with patronage and cronyism. This would be marginally fine if it were also a meritocracy, as then it would at least be on par with nearly every other big business in the West. I only single out the West because I'm ignorant as to how things operate in places like Moonland. But with things as they are you can't trust anyone who makes games, or writes about games, when they make claims like "Zoe is one of the best people I know" because of the parasitism involved between the two fields. Very few games or developers can generate and sustain the level of hype machine expected by shareholders nowadays. Journalism is tied to and implicit in things like Zoe Quinn persisting, which is sad in her case in particular because such a connection is what touched off Gamergate to start with before in ballooned into the caricature it eventually became and getting blamed for everything from mass shootings to the election of a United States president.
If a Games Person is talking about the industry in any capacity other than the games themselves you should just mock them publicly and tell them to choke on their opinions, and even then you should at least read things with a critical eye.
And because I've gone back into a place of sanity, I've also written something like this about the western anime convention community out in the Weeb Wars main thread. To summarize, anime convention culture is shit out west right now because it is full of golddiggers, grifters, and exploitative whores who sail on a vast majority fandom and spectator driven body of an audience. I know that making your own creative works demands talent, dedication, and a career effort to make, but that is one of many major reasons why Japan is capable of having its shit kept together unlike out in the USA: because there is a body of homegrown creators who are pushing shit out and a impetuous of respect that comes with it.
With video games however, this is both a similar and yet still opposite end scenario we have, and I can tie this down to a few things. I'm not going to lie either, video game development attracts more "grounded" yet vindictive and self absorbed cynical fucks who hope to use their careers and their fruits of labor to throw their weight around. I don't know what the fuck makes them out to be like this, but I am going to pin the blame on them never living down how many wedgies and insults they got in high school and at home, and then becoming so asshurt at how society "betrays" them to where they pick on and lash out at other crowds "lower" than them to have some emotional crutch to stand on before they hope to Hollywood Movie Success TM their way to vindication and stardom with their star video game like it's a fucking late 90s romance comedy. I do think society has its fair share of the shit sandwich to eat as it gets passed around, but these kinds of devs have proven to have gotten way the fuck out of hand and are no better people than what entitled vindication drives them to act out of. And then when it comes to the shit dev women? Oh lawdy are the women scorned and spoiled to shit. These were the kind of skunts who shittalked other bratty shit girls or shittalked anyone who was seemingly better than them in looks or attracting the guys out of nothing but outright jealousy and self absorbed pride back in high school, and never learned or were belted enough to knock this shit off.
I'm even going to push this shit in further with this psychological dissection. Shit game devs are also atheists. Not anything sane, I'm talking neckbeard fedora tipping ponyfucking Christianity mocking zealot atheism. These guys are so "smart" but use that as an excuse to fling shit and act however they want without seeming moral repercussions. I still have a hate boner for religious cults and zealots, but cults and zealots are just what these fuckers are. They think that because they study computer science and coding they know the secrets of the universe and become exceptional beyond their britches. In fact, did I just find the origins of galaxy braining? And we all know how smartassing eventually festers into self entitled moral purism and SJW faggotry and male feminist penis mutilation initiation, take a look at SomethingAwful.
And how do I know this?
I used to be an amatuer game dev myself, until I decided to put this on hold. A lot of small fish game devs before GamerGate festered with a ton of this unprofessional shit, and boy, was I glad to have dodged a nuke zone down the line. A lot of people with an interest in video games, be it as fans and spectators or developers, have a lot of emotional baggage of being picked on and having no respect, but it takes being a bigger man to actually be someone and gaining respect, including where to find it and to not be a self entitled self victimizing self pitying and projecting dipshit, and unfortunately, they infest the upper echelons as we speak like the days before the French Revolution.