Did you ever eat icecream? You musn't have developed your personality properly because you were eating icecream all the time. If you did anything except eat icecream, people would like you.
I enjoy ice cream occasionally.
Consider what we know about you: software development, WoW, foreign gf. These are all bad signs. Watching you complain about social anxiety or shyness is like watching someone say, "I'm a dropout and a junkie and I run scams. No one will hire me for a real job, and its unfair see, employers are biased against me because I'm shy and have social anxiety."
Your feelings betray you. You seem to think that the kind of girls I hung out with when I was your age are bad, dishonest, hypocritical people. You belong to a different scene, but that's where you have chosen to be, and seem to fit, and you appear to hate (what I would call) normal women for it.
You say you don't believe nor disbelieve women who say that they do not wish to be beaten, and that you don't care one way or other whether women get beaten. The whole point of this angle is to say, "No I can't get laid, but it's not because I suck, it's because I'm so nice that I won't hit women, and they're beneath me anyways since they're willing to be hit." That's stupid and pathetic and we can all detect it. So yes I imagine you spent your formative years alone in your room. You certainly weren't hanging out with reasonable and cool people.