Edit:
The video I've linked also follows up on Amy confronting her grandma over having being molested by grandma's boyfriend back when she was 7. I know we found the court hearing aspect of the story completely incredulous but later in this video she reads out a letter-based argument back and forth with her aunt in which the aunt acknowledges this hearing happening and the grandma taking the stand. So yeah something weird did happen there, although I still doubt the claimed judges' words were ever spoken to Amy.
Each time I come across one of these videos I learn a little more about Amy- I definitely do believe she was sexually abused, and even the aunt dances around it in a very "if it happened you shouldn't make a fuss anyway" manner. But here's the thing, I think it's not the number one formative experience of Amy's life. To me, she was formed like Amber and in similar circumstances, with the continual breaks in care and attachment, and she has gained a glib and untruthful manner from a young age. She's also from a pretty rotten lineage, which the aunt confirms by shit-talking Amy's parents.
Cut to now, and Amy's super mad about having been sexually abused, and why not, but her insistent attempt to bend an unsupporting family to her will is something to see. The grandma who didn't support her at age 7 and then in her teens probably isn't coming around now at age 93, but Amy's determined to make her and others see it her way when, had they ever, she likely wouldn't have been sexually abused at all. I do appreciate her need to hold them accountable but some people are never going to examine themselves and say the magic words you want them to. Amy is also very fixated on the idea that no-one ever gets over sexual abuse, ever, which suggests she's spinning her wheels in therapy. It's a complicated road for sure but her assertions about a recovery she knows nothing of are so firmly made yet profoundly incorrect. And this is the kind of person who can waste a long time in therapy getting nowhere since they're getting their ruler out and measuring how they had it 100x worse than anyone else.
And for Amy in the here and now? She grasps at credible social identities she can use as a shield:
- Amy's a mommy, you cannot question her
- Amy's a wife with a family, you cannot question her
- Amy's a Muslim now, you cannot question her
- Amy has a mixed family, you cannot question her
- Amy's the biggest abuse victim there ever was, she advocates for you, and you cannot question her
