There is a reason why, for millennia, men have been valued and respected by women. Its mostly because even a teenage boy can easily overpower a full grown woman, and you probably want them to be raised up feeling as though they will have a place of honor as a lover, protector, and provider for their wives and children. When you strip away the purpose for the strength, and the meaning for the man, you're left only with a beast.
I'm a big dumb faggot, but I was raised in that culture and I have a lot healthier attitude than those that failed to properly internalize healthy masculinity, like gangbangers or male feminists. I'd never rape a woman, and I'd never abuse one, but I'd do just the same as your friend if I had to chastise you.
