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[Non-Expert!]

All of them are already unattractive and seem to not make any effort to be attractive. Don't you understand, they don't need to be attractive. They're queering up social and sexual norms. They're challenging society's notion of what is attractive, who can be happy, and what a relationship means. Of course it doesn't make sense to some repressed boomer like you.

This is literally the thought process of ugly people when they have degenerate sex.

I don't get it. All they have to do is wait a couple of decades to join the rest of us ... why accelerate pushing down the ugg lever?

 

[break these cuffs]

I don't get it. All they have to do is wait a couple of decades to join the rest of us ... why accelerate pushing down the ugg lever?

It's how they liberate themselves from their oppressors. They genuinely believe that looking attractive, looking like a normal man or a woman, etc are evil and tools of the patriarchy/whatever to oppress them. It used to be goth, or grunge, or any number of other rebellious fads that have waxed and waned over the decades going against society at large. The difference here is their rebellion is being back up by institutions like the MSM, colleges, etc and has achieved a near religious level of reverence. Old or traditional = bad. New or different = good.

 

[Non-Expert!]

It's how they liberate themselves from their oppressors. They genuinely believe that looking attractive, looking like a normal man or a woman, etc are evil and tools of the patriarchy/whatever to oppress them. It used to be goth, or grunge, or any number of other rebellious fads that have waxed and waned over the decades going against society at large. The difference here is their rebellion is being back up by institutions like the MSM, colleges, etc and has achieved a near religious level of reverence. Old or traditional = bad. New or different = good.

Um ... what oppressors?

The Syrian government, the Hutu's, the KGB, al Quaida ...

 

[break these cuffs]

Um ... what oppressors?

The Syrian government, the Hutu's, the KGB, al Quaida ...

Oppressors are hard to find if you're an upper middle class white person going to college in a high GDP Western country. They gotta take what they can get.

 

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oh dear Lord no

r/polyamory - Nine months for this triad and their fur baby!

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fur baby. k.

 

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oh dear Lord no

r/polyamory - Nine months for this triad and their fur baby!

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fur baby. k.

Dog doesn't look happy.

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Play stupid games, win STDupid prizes.

 

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I know if my wife was upset and not having sex with me because I looked at porn, my solution would be to tell her to have sex with other men. Pool for how long before she leaves her kids and cuck for the boy toy? Lmao and he's a stay at home dad. He's been "clean" from porn for 40 days. So literally all he was doing was staying home and jerking off all day while his kids were at school. No wonder his wife hates him.

 

[Non-Expert!]

I know if my wife was upset and not having sex with me because I looked at porn, my solution would be to tell her to have sex with other men. Pool for how long before she leaves her kids and cuck for the boy toy? Lmao and he's a stay at home dad. He's been "clean" from porn for 40 days. So literally all he was doing was staying home and jerking off all day while his kids were at school. No wonder his wife hates him.

Does anybody else here share that sinking feeling ... That these people can't be helped?

 

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Does anybody else here share that sinking feeling ... That these people can't be helped?

I forgot to add that he's been addicted to porn for two and a half years and is only 40 days clean. He doesn't say how long he was doing it before she found out. My guess is that he started on tranny porn a year ago and he'll troon out shortly after the divorce.

 

[Non-Expert!]

I forgot to add that he's been addicted to porn for two and a half years and is only 40 days clean. He doesn't say how long he was doing it before she found out. My guess is that he started on tranny porn a year ago and he'll troon out shortly after the divorce.

Not sure about the tranny dimension. We can only speculate ... But in support of your point, a 2.5 year dry spell for a guy would be damn rough, especially knowing that some other guy is dumping his load in his wife.

I can see how this type of trauma would merely psychologically emasculate any guy, but thanks to today's technologies ...

 

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Not sure about the tranny dimension. We can only speculate ... But in support of your point, a 2.5 year dry spell for a guy would be damn rough, especially knowing that some other guy is dumping his load in his wife.

I can see how this type of trauma would merely psychologically emasculate any guy, but thanks to today's technologies ...

He claims he happily encourages her to bang the boy toy and is only upset now that she's hiding it from him, so he undoubtedly has a cuck fetish. Dude is pornsick as fuck and I'd be shocked if he hasn't gotten into tranny porn and other weird shit. He also hasn't told her he's quit porn despite it presumably being a huge issue within the marriage and he's doing it in an effort to fix things with her. There's all types of fucked up sexual dynamics and fetishes going on here. None of these people are normal, healthy individuals.

 

[Non-Expert!]

He claims he happily encourages her to bang the boy toy and is only upset now that she's hiding it from him, so he undoubtedly has a cuck fetish. Dude is pornsick as fuck and I'd be shocked if he hasn't gotten into tranny porn and other weird shit. He also hasn't told her he's quit porn despite it presumably being a huge issue within the marriage and he's doing it in an effort to fix things with her. There's all types of fucked up sexual dynamics and fetishes going on here. None of these people are normal, healthy individuals.

"Insight that I don't have."

Let's just say that men and women have very different sexualities. I always find it interesting to learn about how men see and experience sex and sexuality.

Marriage probably started to die when he started fapping to porn, and she found an alternate ...

Married polyamory, and its obvious pitfalls is like you are watching some Kamakaze go down. Especially if you know what is invested in marriage, and kids ...

 

[Tanner Glass]

Not sure about the tranny dimension. We can only speculate ... But in support of your point, a 2.5 year dry spell for a guy would be damn rough, especially knowing that some other guy is dumping his load in his wife.

I can see how this type of trauma would merely psychologically emasculate any guy, but thanks to today's technologies ...

I think the emasculation isn't for the guy, it's for the wife. His porn habits affecting his relationship probably means literally "I jerk off a lot so I have no drive to fuck my actual wife" - meaning she had the worthless feelings and dry spell. It sounds like they had a talk about it a while back and instead of him saying "I will stop with porn and make love to my wife" it sounds like his solution was "I will continue with porn and let someone else make love to my wife".

She probably felt very worthless and discarded by her husband, that she wasn't good enough for him. She probably still thinks that but is very likely ready to move on with her new boyfriend - who actually gives her the affection and validation she needs. Realistically, a spouse you live with but never fuck is essentially just a roomate and it looks like she's treating him like one.

 

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this dude brought it entirely on himself, sounds like. who chooses porn over their spouse for 2.5 years straight?

 

[iafiv]

this dude brought it entirely on himself, sounds like. who chooses porn over their spouse for 2.5 years straight?

Maybe she's really bad in bed?Or so nagging he can't get anything done?

 

[TaimuRadiu]

this dude brought it entirely on himself, sounds like. who chooses porn over their spouse for 2.5 years straight?

I've known some people...

 

[Tanner Glass]

Maybe she's really bad in bed?Or so nagging he can't get anything done?

Typically it's an issue of patience, understanding, and timing.

Realistically it's the guy's fault because there's nothing inherently wrong with watching porn and rubbing one out every so often when you're in a relationship. Once or twice a week, when your wife has to work late/go out with friends/travel out of state/has a headahce/whatever, won't destroy your relationship. Getting "addicted" to porn means you're likely going 4+ times a week, sometimes even multiple times per day, which will hurt your sex drive and desire with your partner.

Watching a lot of porn can also lead to some abnormal/extreme sexual habiats, which his wife may not be down for.

There's also the issue of him claiming to know his wife is "cheating", but doesn't say why or how he knows - which usually means stalking/snooping. Another really big red flag in a relationship.

 

[Agarathium1066]

Realistically it's the guy's fault because there's nothing inherently wrong with watching porn and rubbing one out every so often when you're in a relationship. Once or twice a week, when your wife has to work late/go out with friends/travel out of state/has a headahce/whatever, won't destroy your relationship. Getting "addicted" to porn means you're likely going 4+ times a week, sometimes even multiple times per day, which will hurt your sex drive and desire with your partner.

I wouldn't be shocked if it became a self-perpetuating problem at one point but it still rests heavily on the man's shoulders for not being willing to put a pause in masturbating. As is usual a lot of this crap would be less pressing if they'd just talk and put some effort into changing things.

Nah clearly it's just 'easier' to let someone else fuck your partner.

 

[Buer]

Maybe she's really bad in bed?Or so nagging he can't get anything done?

He said she had a much lower libido to him after one of her kids were born and then he became addicted to porn resulting in this mess of a relationship. He said he's working on himself and his marriage now:

r/DeadBedrooms - Self reflection saved my marriage

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Hopefully he also gets his wife to close the relationship too but I doubt that's going to happen because once that pandora's box has been open there's no way to close it again usually.