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Can someone please explain what a 'stockfish' is, i've never looked an actual vagina in the eye before so maybe i'm just missing something

I thought it was a chess engine.

which is best: top, bottom, or versatile?
It is like yin and yang: you need both tops and bottoms (or versatiles to assume those roles) to be meaningful.

I think it is perfectly reasonable to care more about dominant/submissive personality than gender. If you are submissive you may find being dominated by either gender to be okay. I think it is hot for either gender. The same applies for being dominant. If you can appreciate either gender in different ways then it does not matter so much.
 
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I've noticed that whenever fags talk about top/bottom stuff that lesbians tend to like to jump in and talk about their versions of top/bottoming. It's not an entirely unreasonable comparison but to @polonium 's butthurt credit, I don't think that they are equivalent at all. If it's pegging, i guess that's a lot closer but i do think it's silly to describe anything other than fucking from the hips as topping/bottoming.

It's similar to when people describe giving oral sex to a woman as "sucking dick" or "giving head"- sure I can figure out what you're talking about, but it sure does sound like you're choking down a tranny cock when you say it.
 
At the risk of triggering anyone who can’t handle diverse perspectives, the terms top and bottom are widespread. My original comment was made in that context. I’m tired of it popping up among lesbians and I’m tired of people treating it like a personality or a dealbreaker in a relationship. This angle seems to have gotten misconstrued in the tantrum so I’m elaborating.

I think the top and bottom labels perpetuate this idea that the current style in which you have sex is innate and unchangeable. I don’t think this is realistic. Nor should it be a priority when you’re choosing a partner. If two people are a good match in every other sense, they’re going to figure out a way to satisfy each other.
 
At the risk of triggering anyone who can’t handle diverse perspectives, the terms top and bottom are widespread. My original comment was made in that context. I’m tired of it popping up among lesbians and I’m tired of people treating it like a personality or a dealbreaker in a relationship. This angle seems to have gotten misconstrued in the tantrum so I’m elaborating.

I think the top and bottom labels perpetuate this idea that the current style in which you have sex is innate and unchangeable. I don’t think this is realistic. Nor should it be a priority when you’re choosing a partner. If two people are a good match in every other sense, they’re going to figure out a way to satisfy each other.

This can vary a great deal by culture; in asia, top VS bottom are much more stringently defined roles and there was a distaste for versatility for a long time.

People are lazy and want to conform to a label because it makes it easier to know how to interact with others. The more cleanly you fit into a specific box, the less work it us for others to know what to do with you. I believe that in the west, we're seeing a rise with this as a by-product of the stringent labeling game required for the social justice movement.
 
I think the top and bottom labels perpetuate this idea that the current style in which you have sex is innate and unchangeable. I don’t think this is realistic. Nor should it be a priority when you’re choosing a partner. If two people are a good match in every other sense, they’re going to figure out a way to satisfy each other.

ok but if you just wanna fuck they are pretty good labels. your last sentence may not be true either.
 
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