Daddies and Littles - Child Abuse Fetish

[why]

Hello, I suppose I also qualify as a member of this community. I don’t like to grouped together with these people. I wouldn’t ever mention I’m into this if it wasn’t the topic of the thread. Now I don’t really see myself as a “little”, I mean I love stuffies and cartoons and kids stuff but that’s just because I’m autistic and never grew up. On the other hand, I was made to grow up too fast too, as someone else said in this thread. I was beaten, neglected and starved by my father, so it’s safe to say I have daddy issues. I was also sexually assaulted by other kids and classmates when I was a child and because of the things they said, I can’t use “grown up” words for genitalia and sexual acts without feeling horrible, so me and my boyfriend do use groomer words. Personally I don’t think it’s much of an issue, it’s just between us in the bedroom, and when we have kids I’m not going to push this on them and take these words away from them. I’ve been with him for over two years now, when we first started dating I had no idea he liked this, and he had no idea I did either. As time went by I guess we both kept joking about it and then I found out he was serious and it just went from there. He too was forced to grow up too fast, taking care of his 3 younger siblings instead of their crackhead mother being a parent.
We don’t do this 24/7, I’d say we have a pretty normal relationship considering I have sexual trauma, except for the pet names and words we use. I can’t deal with feeling aroused or anything like that, and feeling like “hey I can’t consent anyway” gives me a bit of comfort. He initiates everything, he’s responsible, he’s doing it for himself. It’s a temporary cope, because I am getting better at being kind to myself and the goal is to be just normal with time. I want to be a housewife, with 3+ kids in a very trad christian family actually. Gosh, I make a perfect lolcow, don’t I? If anyone has any questions or tips for me I’d love to hear it. I’m very aware that I need help. I’ve been to a therapist but since “muh CorOnA” I can’t see anyone right now, so I have and am seeking help for my issues. Have a good day my absolute kings and queens.

No one cares plus you're gross and re/tarded. Happy father's day to your personal pedophile

 

[exhausted]

Wait it is? I thought it was serious shit

unironic pride icon
gay frog name
not understanding jokes
we've got a certified autist boys

 

[Meowthkip]

Wait it is? I thought it was serious shit

There was a period of time on Tumblr where making fun of the DDLG community was pervasive, and I think a lot of it had to do with the "I shouldn't have made her eat the doo-doo" post going viral. I don't know how you can read that transcript and not realize that it's going for comedy, unless you're fucking stupid or can't read. If you were to look in the earlier parts of the thread, you would see many examples of DDLG shitposts, and I assure you, there were so, so many.

 

[verygayFrogs]

There was a period of time on Tumblr where making fun of the DDLG community was pervasive, and I think a lot of it had to do with the "I shouldn't have made her eat the doo-doo" post going viral. I don't know how you can read that transcript and not realize that it's going for comedy, unless you're fucking stupid or can't read. If you were to look in the earlier parts of the thread, you would see many examples of DDLG shitposts, and I assure you, there were so, so many.

I’m tired ok? Shit happens

unironic pride icon
gay frog name
not understanding jokes
we've got a certified autist boys

Ok I’ve had this icon for months and now you bring it up? Plus it was like midnight when I posted that thing ok?

 

[soft breathing]

 

[AbraCadaver]

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Now the real question is what happens when Princess needs a hug from Daddy, but Daddy’s feeling more his Pokemon/Harry Potter OC otherkin that day.

Is a hug from the Slytherin Snorlax okay too?

 

[NoFeline]

For those saying their ddlg kink stems from being a “parentified child” forced to take on the role of housework and caring for younger siblings at an early age...

You know who else was forced to do that? Literally every child born before 1933.

I think the problem is more the situations that lead to children being put in that parentified position.
Like having alcoholic parents who are always away or asleep and the children are constantly left to their own devices with no guarantee of their needs being met. Having to guess if the next time Mom/Dad shows their face it will be nice or enraged for no reason, developing symptoms of traumatic separations when rehomed or a parent is arrested. People who grow up like that end up with a whole host of issues, including CPTSD and borderline.

I'm close to a much older woman that was physically neglected at pretty devastating ages, and while I really doubt she's into the DDLG scene, when anything goes even slightly wrong there's a 50-50 chance of a total blowup or regressing into a tiny childlike voice and suddenly acting like everything is ok. It's unsettling, ngl.

TL;DR There is definitely validity to these statements, just not in the way they think.

 

[Bec]

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This lovely thing appeared on my dashboard.
Edit: wanted to mention that I’m not into this shit, someone I follow fucking reblogged this onto my page so fuck them

Why post this here if you're not including the audio?

I went and retrieved the audio since verygayfrogs is a scaredy cat.

 

[#zzz]

A question I've been wondering about as I've been browsing the thread is how much of this is the underground ageplay community. Apparently ageplay is deemed obscene under US law and therefore illegal. And yet it enjoys a sizable fanbase overseas. I wonder if tumblr is virtually the underground western ageplay community and fanbase.

 

[Yeah I pegged him]

I think the problem is more the situations that lead to children being put in that parentified position.
Like having alcoholic parents who are always away or asleep and the children are constantly left to their own devices with no guarantee of their needs being met.

I wish it was something like "yeah no more cartoons for you, get up and go work in the coal mine" instead of neglect and sexual abuse. I can guarantee that kids abused at 1930 also got some incredible psychological damage. I guess the whole ddlg thing is popping up now because it's a lot more socially acceptable to be connected to your childhood, since pretty much everyone has that one childish thing they cling onto. This dude also stated that since the 50's children have been allowed to be children for longer, so there has been a massive shift in societal expectations for children and childishness. The same thing with mental illness and sexuality being shoved in people's faces in the name of acceptance and tolerance. The perfect storm really

 

[verygayFrogs]

I went and retrieved the audio since verygayfrogs is a scaredy cat.

Thanks, I would’ve done it but a, I don’t need tumblr trauma and b, I’ve been busy

 

[mellifluous]

Hello, I suppose I also qualify as a member of this community. I don’t like to grouped together with these people. I wouldn’t ever mention I’m into this if it wasn’t the topic of the thread. Now I don’t really see myself as a “little”, I mean I love stuffies and cartoons and kids stuff but that’s just because I’m autistic and never grew up. On the other hand, I was made to grow up too fast too, as someone else said in this thread. I was beaten, neglected and starved by my father, so it’s safe to say I have daddy issues. I was also sexually assaulted by other kids and classmates when I was a child and because of the things they said, I can’t use “grown up” words for genitalia and sexual acts without feeling horrible, so me and my boyfriend do use groomer words. Personally I don’t think it’s much of an issue, it’s just between us in the bedroom, and when we have kids I’m not going to push this on them and take these words away from them. I’ve been with him for over two years now, when we first started dating I had no idea he liked this, and he had no idea I did either. As time went by I guess we both kept joking about it and then I found out he was serious and it just went from there. He too was forced to grow up too fast, taking care of his 3 younger siblings instead of their crackhead mother being a parent.
We don’t do this 24/7, I’d say we have a pretty normal relationship considering I have sexual trauma, except for the pet names and words we use. I can’t deal with feeling aroused or anything like that, and feeling like “hey I can’t consent anyway” gives me a bit of comfort. He initiates everything, he’s responsible, he’s doing it for himself. It’s a temporary cope, because I am getting better at being kind to myself and the goal is to be just normal with time. I want to be a housewife, with 3+ kids in a very trad christian family actually. Gosh, I make a perfect lolcow, don’t I? If anyone has any questions or tips for me I’d love to hear it. I’m very aware that I need help. I’ve been to a therapist but since “muh CorOnA” I can’t see anyone right now, so I have and am seeking help for my issues. Have a good day my absolute kings and queens.

For me, the issue isn't understanding how someone becomes a little. A lot of the littles documented in this thread seem, much like you, to have had trauma and/or are dealing with mental health problems. You'll see things like "Don't self-harm" in their rules. There's a variety of reasons I can think of for why someone may become a little. The difficulty is understanding why someone would want to be the DD part of the equation. In a lot of these situations, it seems like the little is vulnerable in some way and the DD is taking advantage of them. I've seen a lot of littles say that the childlike aspect of DDLG is a way of living the childhood they didn't get to have when they were younger, but what does the DD get out having a sexual relationship with someone who dresses and acts like a child?

I mean:

feeling like “hey I can’t consent anyway” gives me a bit of comfort. He initiates everything, he’s responsible, he’s doing it for himself.

Someone who is okay with this setup doesn't seem to have the best intentions to me. This isn't healthy.

I'm really happy you're seeking help, though. Please, please keep going with it, even if he doesn't take too kindly to your recovery from your trauma meaning you may not want to maintain this. If teletherapy isn't possible, I've heard good things about The Compassionate Mind Approach to Recovering from Trauma: Using Compassion Based Therapy by Deborah Lee and The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk is often considered a must-read by a lot of trauma survivors.

 

[dirtydeanna96]

what does the DD get out having a sexual relationship with someone who dresses and acts like a child?

A legal way to act on pedophilic and/or incestuous thoughts, obviously.

 

[Trombonista]

If only tumblr threads could be tagged Infected...

 

[Meowthkip]

Thanks, I would’ve done it but a, I don’t need tumblr trauma and b, I’ve been busy

It has gunshots and overly-dramatic music. It could not be more obviously a joke if it tried.

You're a fucking pussy and you don't want to admit you're dumb.

 

[verygayFrogs]

It has gunshots and overly-dramatic music. It could not be more obviously a joke if it tried.

You're a fucking pussy and you don't want to admit you're dumb.

I mean your not wrong about the dumb part.

 

[Yeah I pegged him]

The difficulty is understanding why someone would want to be the DD part of the equation. In a lot of these situations, it seems like the little is vulnerable in some way and the DD is taking advantage of them. I've seen a lot of littles say that the childlike aspect of DDLG is a way of living the childhood they didn't get to have when they were younger, but what does the DD get out having a sexual relationship with someone who dresses and acts like a child?

He gets to feel like he has a say in things. I mean I'm going to dress and act like a child anyway, I'm retarded. I've never had a strong male figure in my life. He sets boundaries for me and he also respects the ones I set for him. He feels important and listened to, like someone actually needs him for once. I think that's a big thing for anyone interested in being a "dom" of any kind. They want someone to depend on them more than what a partner in a regular relationship would do, in order to make themselves feel special. The difference between a cool relationship and a toxic™ one (within the dom/sub dynamic types) is that in a cool one the dependence is voluntarily and the partners can live without one another. Many of the girls in this thread seem to be incredibly scared of being alone and out of a relationship. They jump from guy to guy when it inevitably turns out that he demands total submission of the girl, who thinks she's up for anything, so she agrees to stuff she gets hurt by. See "it's just a little doo doo" guy.

Someone who is okay with this setup doesn't seem to have the best intentions to me.

I should also add that he isn't really okay with those things. Those are my thoughts and how I try to justify my actions and feelings. He wants me to improve and I'm so sorry that I made him seem like a total creep. I want to apologise for any unnecessary concern, or unnecessary lulz I may have caused. I'm still messed up. I'm bad at the "don't overshare" rule

 

[Terrorist]

Hello, I suppose I also qualify as a member of this community. I don’t like to grouped together with these people. I wouldn’t ever mention I’m into this if it wasn’t the topic of the thread. Now I don’t really see myself as a “little”, I mean I love stuffies and cartoons and kids stuff but that’s just because I’m autistic and never grew up. On the other hand, I was made to grow up too fast too, as someone else said in this thread. I was beaten, neglected and starved by my father, so it’s safe to say I have daddy issues. I was also sexually assaulted by other kids and classmates when I was a child and because of the things they said, I can’t use “grown up” words for genitalia and sexual acts without feeling horrible, so me and my boyfriend do use groomer words. Personally I don’t think it’s much of an issue, it’s just between us in the bedroom, and when we have kids I’m not going to push this on them and take these words away from them. I’ve been with him for over two years now, when we first started dating I had no idea he liked this, and he had no idea I did either. As time went by I guess we both kept joking about it and then I found out he was serious and it just went from there. He too was forced to grow up too fast, taking care of his 3 younger siblings instead of their crackhead mother being a parent.
We don’t do this 24/7, I’d say we have a pretty normal relationship considering I have sexual trauma, except for the pet names and words we use. I can’t deal with feeling aroused or anything like that, and feeling like “hey I can’t consent anyway” gives me a bit of comfort. He initiates everything, he’s responsible, he’s doing it for himself. It’s a temporary cope, because I am getting better at being kind to myself and the goal is to be just normal with time. I want to be a housewife, with 3+ kids in a very trad christian family actually. Gosh, I make a perfect lolcow, don’t I? If anyone has any questions or tips for me I’d love to hear it. I’m very aware that I need help. I’ve been to a therapist but since “muh CorOnA” I can’t see anyone right now, so I have and am seeking help for my issues. Have a good day my absolute kings and queens.

I sympathize with the desire to have a traditionalist life but this ain't it. You are too damaged to conceive of traditional sexuality normally, and this guy is using you as a legal outlet for his sick fantasies about underage girls. I mean what else do you think this is? Doesn't it ever strike you as odd that your "community" faces constant accusations of pedophilia?

I think you're better off being celibate. I know you think you want a relationship, but there are also people with brittle bone disease who want to be weightlifters. Catch my drift?

 

[Ascendancy0]

I'm retarded. I've never had a strong male figure in my life.

Sounds about right.

 

[Daughter of Cernunnos]

Okay, I know what we usually do here is point and laugh, but I'm taking this opportunity to pick brains instead since @apricot_berry offered.

I haven't heard about EDMR before this, but a cursory search says it's mainly being used to treat PTSD. Is that the case for you?

It's mental health treatment with lack of sufficent evidence. Like many forms of pseudoscience, it claims to be able to process your trauma at rapid speed.

EMDR is Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. EMDR has been recommended for Post-traumatic stress disorder, a condition that was not one that the patient was known to have. There is currently debate about whether EMDR is effective even for PTSD because the meta-analyses on EMDR were based on poor-quality studies.[80][81]

She also says she does DBT and meditation so we've got a borderline here.