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- Oct 1, 2014
He gets to feel like he has a say in things. I mean I'm going to dress and act like a child anyway, I'm retarded. I've never had a strong male figure in my life. He sets boundaries for me and he also respects the ones I set for him. He feels important and listened to, like someone actually needs him for once. I think that's a big thing for anyone interested in being a "dom" of any kind. They want someone to depend on them more than what a partner in a regular relationship would do, in order to make themselves feel special. The difference between a coolrelationship and a toxic™ one (within the dom/sub dynamic types) is that in a cool
one the dependence is voluntarily and the partners can live without one another. Many of the girls in this thread seem to be incredibly scared of being alone and out of a relationship. They jump from guy to guy when it inevitably turns out that he demands total submission of the girl, who thinks she's up for anything, so she agrees to stuff she gets hurt by. See "it's just a little doo doo" guy.
I should also add that he isn't really okay with those things. Those are my thoughts and how I try to justify my actions and feelings. He wants me to improve and I'm so sorry that I made him seem like a total creep. I want to apologise for any unnecessary concern, or unnecessary lulz I may have caused. I'm still messed up. I'm bad at the "don't overshare" rule
Please love yourself more.
I'm not a prude and I don't really care what consenting adults do in the bedroom, I'm just here to comment on how the whole thing is very silly and weird, but this set-up you're in doesn't seem like it's helping you. If you're fine with it then I can fuck off, I guess, but I don't really see the point in trying to defend your lifestyle to a bunch of people who will remain convinced that it's weird and more than a bit creepy.