🐱 What Does Anal Sex Really Feel Like? Find Out From Men Who've Tried It.

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Anal sex is in. To be fair, it has been for quite some time (and for queer men , its always been in). In fact, Marie Claire went as far to call 2014 the Year of the Booty , and in December of that year, Mic wrote a feature called: .


Six years later, anal is still going strong. As a sex writer, Im constantly asked to write pieces about how to have healthier and more pleasurable anal sex .

By why is everyone talking about anal sex now? In large part, it's because a sex-positive revolution is happening, and were more open to exploring our sexuality and vocalizing our desires. (For the record, people were always having anal sex before it was inthe mainstream media simply wasnt talking about it the same way.) Also, anal sex feels really fucking good . Plain and simple. It feels good to do things to someone elses butt, and have someone else do things to your butt. Really, the more butts involved during sex, the better.


Don't just take my word for it. I reached out to 12 sex-positive men, asking them to describe, in detail, what anal sex feels like. Their answers make it clear that anal sex isnt just inits here to stay.


What anal sex feels like for the insertive partner (a.k.a. the "top"):

Neil, 28: I love anal because it feels like my dick is being crushed into pure heaven in every direction, if that makes sense.

Joey, 29: In my experience, buttholes feel tighter than vaginas 99% of the time. That additional pressure of an asss tight grip around your dick feels like nothing else youve ever experienced. Its a completely different experience from vaginal sex.

Brad, 30: "What I like most about anal is the unleashing of sexual energy. Leaving a handprint on their ass. Having scratch marks down my back. Getting sweaty. Just the sheer primal physicality of it all.

Stephen, 31: "I found the best thing about sticking my dick into someones ass is dominance. Taking control and going as hard or soft as you want is a huge aspect to me. However, this always means taking your partner into great consideration. For example, starting slow and easy, adding in lots of foreplay , maybe dirty talk to make them feel desirable and more 'ready' to take it."



Gregory, 29: "The feeling of someones ass slapping against my thighs, or their hole tightening around my dick is incredibly empowering. Watching them react when I know I'm stimulating them in a way they're enjoying is a huge ego boost because, in a sense, theres a kind of ownership over this other persons orgasm."

What anal sex feels like for the receptive partner (a.k.a. the " bottom "):

Edwin, 35: My favorite part of anal sex is definitely the foreplay. The sensation of a tongue hitting those spots takes the experience to a different level. It just builds onto the anticipation for receiving, and for me, that time in between is the most erotic. Once inside, it feels like every nerve ending in my body is being touched. Its the perfect balance of pain and pleasure.

Guillermo, 22: After getting into recovery, sex was something that was sort of new to me again. I felt like a born again virgin but I still knew what to do. Bottoming feels great without any inhalants, and its a lot more intimate.

Bruno, 26: Anal sex has always felt like a giant stress relief to me. Ive often said I need to get this hangover fucked out of me, because thats how good anal sex feels. With the right partner, its a euphoric experience that can both mellow you out and put you to fucking work.


Barret, 30: To me, receiving anal sex feels like total vulnerability. Its like having all your secrets laid bare in front of someone. But its also euphoric, and fabulous. Receiving anal sex feels like realizing the power of your queerness. It takes every unkind feeling or thought youve ever had about yourself, every slur anyone has ever called you, and puts a certain amount of pleasure behind the shame of sex. And in that moment, when youre getting your guts rearranged, you feel sexy, and powerful and queer."

Eliot, 24: First of all, I'm a masochist. Not that all bottoming is painful, but generally, there is some discomfort, especially at first, and especially with larger penises. But the discomfort usually goes away quickly (with enough lube ) and is replaced with this subtle feeling of being stretched or filled. And that is what I lovethat pressure. It makes me hard and builds the longer and harder I bottom. The feeling eventually takes over, until it's all I can think about is that pressure against my prostate and in my penis until I orgasm."

Kiel 27: Anal feels like both heaven and hell. Its hard to explain why the sometimes painful stretch or depth is intoxicating, but the feeling of a well-lubed bare penis moving back and forth is amazing. I can feel my prostate being hit and massaged. Anal sex feels like that first glass of unsweetened iced tea on a hot summer day. It feels like the hot shower after a weekend camping trip. Its titillating, orgasmic, and perfect.

Kevin, 30: Good anal sex is like eating a delicious meal that is too hot. Those first moments are filled with a slightly uncomfortable sensation mixed with bits of euphoria. During this time, you are bordering between regret, eagerness, anxiety, and pleasure. After a deep breath out and an inhale of determination, time passes and the meal cools. You then enter a state of delicious consumption, as your booty devours their penis.

 

[CivilianOfTheFandomWars]

I do think media, and articles like this, have kind of spread this myth than buttsex is something you can just do. It takes time to get there, to get clean, and to actually have it be enjoyable. And, quite frankly, it’s not for everyone. Guys actually do have ‘parts’ in there that give it a way to feel good, but even then it’s not for every gay guy, much less every straight guy.
Look, you want to try stuff, go for it. But don’t do things you don’t want just because it’s a hot topic.

 

[Stardust]

I cannot get behind this.

Seriously though, 95% of the guys who are giving sound like animals.

Neil, 28: I love anal because it feels like my dick is being crushed into pure heaven in every direction, if that makes sense.

Joey, 29: In my experience, buttholes feel tighter than vaginas 99% of the time. That additional pressure of an asss tight grip around your dick feels like nothing else youve ever experienced. Its a completely different experience from vaginal sex.

Brad, 30: "What I like most about anal is the unleashing of sexual energy. Leaving a handprint on their ass. Having scratch marks down my back. Getting sweaty. Just the sheer primal physicality of it all.

Stephen, 31: "I found the best thing about sticking my dick into someones ass is dominance. Taking control and going as hard or soft as you want is a huge aspect to me. However, this always means taking your partner into great consideration. For example, starting slow and easy, adding in lots of ​

foreplay ​

, maybe ​

dirty talk ​

to make them feel desirable and more 'ready' to take it."

Gregory, 29: "The feeling of someones ass slapping against my thighs, or their hole tightening around my dick is incredibly empowering. Watching them react when I know I'm stimulating them in a way they're enjoying is a huge ego boost because, in a sense, theres a kind of ownership over this other persons orgasm."​

​

Totally focused on themselves. 'Stephen' shows some concern, but then ends with "ready to take it", a cliche porn line. 'Gregory' kind of acknowledges the other's pleasure, then mentions his ego. This reads like a weaboo girl's fanfic.

 

[Red Hood]

I do think media, and articles like this, have kind of spread this myth than buttsex is something you can just do. It takes time to get there, to get clean, and to actually have it be enjoyable. And, quite frankly, it’s not for everyone. Guys actually do have ‘parts’ in there that give it a way to feel good, but even then it’s not for every gay guy, much less every straight guy.
Look, you want to try stuff, go for it. But don’t do things you don’t want just because it’s a hot topic.

Porn definitely pushes this idea too. The proliferation and availability of porn since the internet's inception has definitely had an effect on what every generation since deems acceptable and "normal" in sexual practice, despite porn having about as much to do with real sex as Mortal Kombat has to do with genuine martial arts tournaments.

 

[CivilianOfTheFandomWars]

Porn definitely pushes this idea too. The proliferation and availability of porn since the internet's inception has definitely had an effect on what every generation since deems acceptable and "normal" in sexual practice, despite porn having about as much to do with real sex as Mortal Kombat has to do with genuine martial arts tournaments.

The easy access to vast amounts of absurdly hardcore pornography has sexually fucked up so many younger people. I'm not one of those anti-porn crusaders, but I will fully admit it's not healthy.

 

[Return of the Freaker]

Barret, 30: To me, receiving anal sex feels like total vulnerability. Its like having all your secrets laid bare in front of someone. But its also euphoric, and fabulous. Receiving anal sex feels like realizing the power of your queerness. It takes every unkind feeling or thought youve ever had about yourself, every slur anyone has ever called you, and puts a certain amount of pleasure behind the shame of sex. And in that moment, when youre getting your guts rearranged, you feel sexy, and powerful and queer."

Tfw you will never realize the power of your queerness

The tops are all, "Yeah, rape feels good", and the bottoms are all, "You just get used to it after a while".

Interesting footnote: In ancient/classical cultures that were ok with dudes boning, it was typically not acceptable to be bottom. It was usually slaves, prostitutes, or otherwise lower class men getting dicked down. In fact, the Roman conception of sexuality was top/bottom instead of straight/gay

 

[Stilgar of Troon]

Ehh, let consenting adults, straight or gay, do whatever they both enjoy.
If they're both enjoying it, why not? Any adult who's willingly getting plowed up the old tan track has no excuse for not having explored the possible pitfalls and potential enjoyment, per their tastes.
I subscribe to the idea that if both parties are happy with what's going on, the limits are their business alone.

 

[DocHoliday1977]

When your uncle/rabbi/pastor/teacher assrapes you when you are 4, you have the revelation that you have always been attracted to men and you were just born that way

Being gay is just the male version of women having daddy issues

Hm? Maybe.

A good five minutes searching for a thread to make people lol is priceless

Yeah, he thinks it's funny as hell. It's his way of trolling.

 

[UntimelyDhelmise]

Anal is for faggots, I can't believe this atrocious display of sexual appropriation!

 

[Zero Day Defense]

I subscribe to the idea that if both parties are happy with what's going on, the limits are their business alone.

I'm not going to champion anti-sodomy squads to inspect the kind of sex that two people are ready to engage in, but it's pretty naive to think that actions that don't actively harm anyone don't matter because we're not immediately exposed to the acts themselves. We're defined in part by our actions-- even if others aren't exposed to our actions, there's still a good chance they'll be exposed to the fruits thereof.

What those fruits may be? That depends on the act, and this principle doesn't just apply to "bad" actions. But it in fact applies.

 

[Getting tard comed]

Ehh, let consenting adults, straight or gay, do whatever they both enjoy.
If they're both enjoying it, why not? Any adult who's willingly getting plowed up the old tan track has no excuse for not having explored the possible pitfalls and potential enjoyment, per their tastes.
I subscribe to the idea that if both parties are happy with what's going on, the limits are their business alone.

I read a book by a woman, Moira Greyland, who endured quite a lot of sexual abuse as a child from her parents as well as the other adults she grey up around and she raised an interesting point about consent.

Is it really consent if someone is pressured into something with the threat of being left alone if they don't comply? Or if things are withheld if they don't do what is asked of them? Or in extreme cases if someone threatens suicide?

I don't have an answer but the question has stayed with me. Food for thought.

(Please don't respond ONLY to the extreme example of suicide. It was last for a reason. Don't miss the forest for the tree)

 

[Stilgar of Troon]

I'm not going to champion anti-sodomy squads to inspect the kind of sex that two people are ready to engage in, but it's pretty naive to think that actions that don't actively harm anyone don't matter because we're not immediately exposed to the acts themselves. We're defined in part by our actions-- even if others aren't exposed to our actions, there's still a good chance they'll be exposed to the fruits thereof.

What those fruits may be? That depends on the act, and this principle doesn't just apply to "bad" actions. But it in fact applies.

I'm not out for a slapfight here but I don't accept that argument in the slightest. It's a watered down version of the "violent video games" trope, with the exception that they at least try to have the point of offence shut down, however impractical that might prove to be. Sitting on the fence saying "This is a bad idea and will probably harm someone but we aren't going to attempt to act on that" is worse than not even acknowledging that you believe there to be a problem in the first place.

People's sexual mores/preferences are only likely to have an externally adverse effect if:

a) said practices are so physically detrimental that outside agency is required to deal with the fallout.

b) the person or persons involved have a personality disorder of some sort that takes its fuel for said external effect from their sexual activities. Absent the sexual activities, a person of this particular mental bent would find a different impetus; their breakfast cereal, the weather report, that one guy's eyebrows... It's conflation to equate freaky sex to harmful behaviour to third parties.

c) they are utterly degenerate, irrespective of sexual choices; in which case, much like b), they will only find another way to issue harm.

I read a book by a woman, Moira Greyland, who endured quite a lot of sexual abuse as a child from her parents as well as the other adults she grey up around and she raised an interesting point about consent.

Is it really consent if someone is pressured into something with the threat of being left alone if they don't comply? Or if things are withheld if they don't do what is asked of them? Or in extreme cases if someone threatens suicide?

I don't have an answer but the question has stayed with me. Food for thought.

(Please don't respond ONLY to the extreme example of suicide. It was last for a reason. Don't miss the forest for the tree)

I wouldn't dream of reducing your point to that one aspect and I am absolutely not minimising the specific you've raised. Whilst what you say here is valid, it's an edge case argument, IMO. If a person is the type who thinks coercion is the same as suggesting something, they're probably not the kind of person one should be having sex with, anyway.
Threats of abandonment, suicide, withholding privilege/favour, all of these are huge fucking red flags that tell you that you shouldn't be around this person full stop, much less be bumping uglies with them.
I know not all situations are that cut and dried but again, these are edge cases and are not applicable to the majority population. If the issue of consent is that much of a morass, how the hell can anyone say they've ever had informed consent by that metric?

 

[Zero Day Defense]

I'm not out for a slapfight here but I don't accept that argument in the slightest. It's a watered down version of the "violent video games" trope

"Playing violent video games" is still an action you partake in, and therefore it's part of your person. The question isn't "does this affect society at large", but rather "how does this affect society at large". It all does, in the same way watching pornography regularly will affect how you interact with others even if you tell nobody about your habit, and in the same way that volunteering at a charity org influences how you interact with the world regardless of whether you tell others of your deeds.

This is also a poor comparison-- the reason that the "violent video games" idea is inaccurate, apart from it being a distraction from the terribly high rates of single parent families intimately affecting the development of millions of children for generations, is because playing GTA doesn't provide nearly the level of simulation that, say, watching porn while masturbating does. You recognize none of it is real, none of it even looks real, the acts are only vaguely possible and distinctly contrary to ingrained social norms, and you're not even accurately simulating the acts you perform-- you'd be easily able to compartmentalize those experiences.

The degrees of separation involved in porn are far less because the means of simulation (masturbation) is pretty close to actual sex and directly involves your body, what you watch is real people involved in a manifestation of a primal drive that you're also indulging, and the acts displayed are more socially acceptable (I mean, compared to murder and grand larceny).

...so, when there's no degrees of separation (i.e. you're actually having sex, you're actually grasping at a real person)... why, exactly, does an act you perform not influence or reinforce general qualities that also exist outside that context?

I mean, in the article, you read how self-centered the straight men were about the act. They kept talking about how they felt, without regarding that the woman was quite literally putting on a show for them and at best could only be stimulated by the context of domination attached to the act they were engaging in. The men themselves very likely figured this was okay to do because of porn-- something that they watch and stimulate themselves with in their own privacy.

If absolutely nothing else, the fact that you're making exceptions to your own blanket denial of my assertion makes my point by itself.

Finally, I'm "not sitting on the fence" about my disapproval-- I'm acknowledging that there is literally nothing that can be legally done about an act between two mutually consenting adults in the confines of their own bedroom when it comes to sexual acts... outside of turning the public opinion against a particular act.

 

[No. 7 cat]

@snailslime seems upset by this?

S/he seems upset by non-woke posting. If you post you like bum fucking, men doing it to men in particular, you might possibly be safe. It is objectively a bad idea, but whatever.

 

[A Grey Cat]

You see joker it's not your life that's a fucking comedy... It's the whole fucking world that's become a comedy

 

[Stilgar of Troon]

"Playing violent video games" is still an action you partake in, and therefore it's part of your person. The question isn't "does this affect society at large", but rather "how does this affect society at large". It all does, in the same way watching pornography regularly will affect how you interact with others even if you tell nobody about your habit, and in the same way that volunteering at a charity org influences how you interact with the world regardless of whether you tell others of your deeds.

This is also a poor comparison-- the reason that the "violent video games" idea is inaccurate, apart from it being a distraction from the terribly high rates of single parent families intimately affecting the development of millions of children for generations, is because playing GTA doesn't provide nearly the level of simulation that, say, watching porn while masturbating does. You recognize none of it is real, none of it even looks real, the acts are only vaguely possible and distinctly contrary to ingrained social norms, and you're not even accurately simulating the acts you perform-- you'd be easily able to compartmentalize those experiences.

The degrees of separation involved in porn are far less because the means of simulation (masturbation) is pretty close to actual sex and directly involves your body, what you watch is real people involved in a manifestation of a primal drive that you're also indulging, and the acts displayed are more socially acceptable (I mean, compared to murder and grand larceny).

...so, when there's no degrees of separation (i.e. you're actually having sex, you're actually grasping at a real person)... why, exactly, does an act you perform not influence or reinforce general qualities that also exist outside that context?

I mean, in the article, you read how self-centered the straight men were about the act. They kept talking about how they felt, without regarding that the woman was quite literally putting on a show for them and at best could only be stimulated by the context of domination attached to the act they were engaging in. The men themselves very likely figured this was okay to do because of porn-- something that they watch and stimulate themselves with in their own privacy.

If absolutely nothing else, the fact that you're making exceptions to your own blanket denial of my assertion makes my point by itself.

Finally, I'm "not sitting on the fence" about my disapproval-- I'm acknowledging that there is literally nothing that can be legally done about an act between two mutually consenting adults in the confines of their own bedroom when it comes to sexual acts... outside of turning the public opinion against a particular act.

Well responded, points taken on board.

I still don't and won't accept that a person's behaviour in sexual situations informs their behaviour or impact on the wider world, though. I would say, rather, that a person's behaviour and attitudes can often inform their sexual choices. Differing attitudes and mindsets can still have overlaps in sexual preference without being in any other way intercompatible. You don't bugger your partner and immediately start acting like a degenerate in every other aspect of your life.

The failure to distinguish between pornography and actual IRL sex is not the fault of pornography, it is the fault of the viewer. I've no particular love for porn and I find swathes of it to be intensely distasteful but to suggest that the failing is the media and not the consumer of said media is disingenuous; we are responsible for our own attitudes and actions. If a man (or woman) is able to be conditioned so easily, then they are lacking something, on a mental level.

The exceptions I made are precisely that, exceptions to the norm. Again, it's not the acts themselves that are at fault in those scenarios, is it? It's the mindsets which, amongst other things, include those acts. I'll call back to the point I made just now in the previous para; if your attitude or demeanour is of a certain kidney, then regardless of the sex acts you favour, your interactions with the world will be broadly similar. Incels who are assholes are just as harmful as sexually active people who are also assholes. The factor of commonality is that they're an asshole.

TL;DR: If people are shitbags, it doesn't matter what they do in bed. They're still toxic to the world.

 

[Getting tard comed]

I wouldn't dream of reducing your point to that one aspect and I am absolutely not minimising the specific you've raised. Whilst what you say here is valid, it's an edge case argument, IMO. If a person is the type who thinks coercion is the same as suggesting something, they're probably not the kind of person one should be having sex with, anyway.
Threats of abandonment, suicide, withholding privilege/favour, all of these are huge fucking red flags that tell you that you shouldn't be around this person full stop, much less be bumping uglies with them.
I know not all situations are that cut and dried but again, these are edge cases and are not applicable to the majority population. If the issue of consent is that much of a morass, how the hell can anyone say they've ever had informed consent by that metric?

Marriage used to be the metric. When you married somebody that meant you consented to sex at all times basically as part of the vows. Now one could argue certain parties couldn't consent in that situation but that's the point.
In fact, I'm fairly certain that certain early feminist thinkers argued that you couldn't and can't have consent in a situation like that or in any situation in a society where men are dominant but I digress.

A Question: If a guy tells a girl that in order to be with him she has to blow him. She thinks oral sex is disgusting or degrading but she feels like she loves him so she does it to be with him. Is that consent in the sense that two people agree to something coming from an equal position of power? I've been told the equal power thing is important where consent is concerned.

 

[Stilgar of Troon]

Marriage used to be the metric. When you married somebody that meant you consented to sex at all times basically as part of the vows. Now one could argue certain parties couldn't consent in that situation but that's the point.
In fact, I'm fairly certain that certain early feminist thinkers argued that you couldn't and can't have consent in a situation like that or in any situation in a society where men are dominant but I digress.

A Question: If a guy tells a girl that in order to be with him she has to blow him. She thinks oral sex is disgusting or degrading but she feels like she loves him so she does it to be with him. Is that consent in the sense that two people agree to something coming from an equal position of power? I've been told the equal power thing is important where consent is concerned.

Consent isn't hard to establish, as long as you're not a selfish shitbag, in my experience. You're right in as much that marriage was historically considered to be automatic consent at all times but thankfully, that seems to be receding. If a person thinks their spouse is a piece of property or some sort of indentured sex worker, they probably shouldn't be married.

Your example of the girl blowing the guy is a good one, definitely. I would say, personally, that if she feels that strongly about oral sex, she should be telling him that.
If he's not a steroidal brain-damaged ape and actually gives a shit about the girl herself and not just the orifices she's toting, he would either understand and accept it or move on.
Also, if someone is issuing sexual ultimatums as a condition of "being with them", that's a good cue to GTFO. That mindset has very little to do with sex and a lot to do with power dynamics and is never gonna lead to anywhere pleasant.

If you don't value yourself sufficiently to set your own red lines and stick to them, then you're going to have that vacillation taken advantage of. Horrible but demonstrably true.

 

[Getting tard comed]

Consent isn't hard to establish, as long as you're not a selfish shitbag, in my experience. You're right in as much that marriage was historically considered to be automatic consent at all times but thankfully, that seems to be receding. If a person thinks their spouse is a piece of property or some sort of indentured sex worker, they probably shouldn't be married.

Your example of the girl blowing the guy is a good one, definitely. I would say, personally, that if she feels that strongly about oral sex, she should be telling him that.
If he's not a steroidal brain-damaged ape and actually gives a shit about the girl herself and not just the orifices she's toting, he would either understand and accept it or move on.
Also, if someone is issuing sexual ultimatums as a condition of "being with them", that's a good cue to GTFO. That mindset has very little to do with sex and a lot to do with power dynamics and is never gonna lead to anywhere pleasant.

If you don't value yourself sufficiently to set your own red lines and stick to them, then you're going to have that vacillation taken advantage of. Horrible but demonstrably true.

I don't think someone agreeing to terms of a contract means they somehow magically turn into property. Vows went both ways and while there isn't any data proving it one way or the other, I doubt that most husbands threw out history actually treated their wives like property in day to day life. At least not in the West, but this is a tangent.

I agree that she shouldn't do something that goes against her personal values. That doesn't answer the question being asked. The question is if she does go against her personal values in order to stay with him or even be with him in the first place is that considered consent.

Also.. different people have different standards in what they are looking for in a partner. I don't think a guy or girl having sexual standards means they are a "steroidal brain-damaged ape".

 

[Just Here for A and H]

Anal is not for everyone, to the point where a sizable portion of gay men don't even enjoy or do it. They're called sides (like top or bottom). I don't think the 'sides' thing is as well known outside of gay subcultures as top and bottom are, though. I don't understand the appeal of anal. Bottoming hurts and topping feels dirty.

 

[Stilgar of Troon]

I don't think someone agreeing to terms of a contract means they somehow magically turn into property. Vows went both ways and while there isn't any data proving it one way or the other, I doubt that most husbands threw out history actually treated their wives like property in day to day life. At least not in the West, but this is a tangent.

I agree that she shouldn't do something that goes against her personal values. That doesn't answer the question being asked. The question is if she does go against her personal values in order to stay with him or even be with him in the first place is that considered consent.

Also.. different people have different standards in what they are looking for in a partner. I don't think a guy or girl having sexual standards means they are a "steroidal brain-damaged ape".

If she agrees, it is technically consent, yes. If she agrees against her better judgement amidst heavy persuasion/peer pressure, it's still consent but one could argue that it's consent under (mild) duress. Still, the issue there is that if said woman is willing to break her own red line issues to be with/keep a man, then she's making a rod for her own back. Self worth is worth more than any set of genitals.

I wasn't conflating standards with being a steroidal ape and I'd love it if you wouldn't either.
The chemically-addled simian comparison comes from the inability or unwillingness to recognise a partner's reasonable reluctance and forcing the issue anyway. It comes from thinking no further than getting your dick wet.
We're the end result of millennia of evolution and should act accordingly. Letting the monkey brain dictate "any girl who won't suck my dick isn't good enough for me" is a stone-age take. Similarly, "I have to suck his dick or he won't want me" is fucking brain-dead handmaiden stuff.
Those kind of people almost deserve each other.