People talk about Peetz being special, but Chins is too. She obviously can't pick up on social cues when someone is trying to reject you but being nice. She either rides the short bus and doesn't see it, or worse, she sees it but doesn't give a shit if they want her or not. For a normal person it would be humiliating going when you know they don't want you there, I guess for her, she's going to make a big debut after she loses 200 pounds and gets a make over. She will show all those skinny bitches. Or, she is just an idiot. Or both. Chantal, if they wanted you to go, they would have made a point to ask you, not wait for you to stalk them on FB
Chantal also would have recognized her "friend's" attempt to dissuade her. That's what telling her right off the bat how expensive the trip was, and being concerned about her ability to afford it, actually was. If the "friend" actually wanted her to go, she would have said, "That would be so great! I'd love for you to join us, if you can! Here's the booking information," and left it at that. But immediately rattling off concerns about why Chantal might not be able to go? Those weren't concerns; that's what she
hoped would happen.
One of the absolutely maddening things about socializing with women is that far too many of them feel they must be "nice" and spare others' feelings at all costs. They'd rather die than say anything that angers or disappoints someone else. So they resort to subtle hints, rather than just say what they fucking mean. And women, when dealing with other women, understand this, and can usually pick up on the hints. But not Chantal; she's far too stupid, and too wrapped up in her own wants, to pick them up.
Yes, it's hard to be an adult and say, "I'm sorry, but we're a very close group, we've been doing this together for years, and bringing in any new people would drastically change the group dynamic. I know you'd like to come, but it would be very awkward, and I don't think you'd have a good time. So while I hate to disappoint you, I have to say no." That still equivocates too much and avoids the real reasons ("Chantal, we barely know each other any more, and we've never exactly been close friends, and I really don't want you butting in on my vacation with my besties"), but at least it's a clear "No." And unless you give Chantal a clear "No," she's going to assume you mean "Yes," because she wants it to be "Yes."
The vacation's not likely to happen, but Chantal's "friend" spending months dreading the intrusion of this gross, socially incompetent eatbeast into her vacation ought to be the wakeup call she needs in order to learn to say "No."
All the more evidence that this whole HAES movement thing is just a bunch of disgruntled fatties who failed to lose weight and a few assholes who want to exploit them for money. It’s not that much different from incels who gave up and are now trying to convince everyone that women are the devil. Turning failure into a movement is nothing new. It never lasts, because there’s no genuine conviction behind it. Its a temper tantrum that eventually subsideds and is replaced either by genuine motivation to change your life for the better or depression. For most HAES influencers it’s the latter.
Even if there is genuine conviction behind it on the part of the fatties, it's still going to be a failure as a movement because it's
insane, and the only people who are going to buy into it are fundamentally broken.
Most fat people will tell you that being fat sucks. They may not have the will to actually do anything about their fatness, and they may rely on a certain amount of denial in order to keep going day after day. But they have a firm enough grasp on reality to understand that this is something they've done to themselves, and that it could potentially be changed if they were willing to give up free-feeding on their favorite foods.
So even most fatties are going to look at the Fat Liberation shit and recognize that it's fundamentally insane (even if some of the ideas espoused seem appealing). The Fat Liberation crowd really is the lunatic fringe; reality is not on their side. And it's no wonder that all of the women we see involved in it are relatively young--they're virtually all under 40 (Marilyn Wann is the only exception that comes to my mind).
There are lots of over-40 fat women on the internet, so why aren't they hopping on the FL bandwagon? Because they're experiencing the health consequences of being fat, and know that being fat has brought them anything but "liberation."
